thoughts on texting a girl during coronavirus

The-Real-Ivivik · 2020-05-03T07:03:30+00:00

Dude are you texting her like twice a month? That shows you’re not into her when clearly you are and she Che could be texting another dude nonstop. Be interesting, know what to talk about, get to know the girl more, talk about your interests, make silly jokes, talk about current events, be you, just do anything but check up on her to see if she’s “Alright.” be the guy she wants to text to and enjoy with. Forget this game your thinking of and don’t play with her feelings. I’m not sure if you’re trying to get into a relationship but if that’s the case you need to step it up for sure. That’s my two cents.

MaverickCarter · 2020-05-03T07:03:27+00:00

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Notessentialworker · 2020-05-03T08:28:11+00:00

Nah it will lead to friendzone, you think you can make her catch feelings through text what are you 14 year old? You attract in person and you use texting as a way to schedule a meeting and check up on her. You haven’t been out on a date yet but you want to entertain her for a few months? What’s that gonna do? She will only benefit from this, if you already treating her like you care for her she will take you for granted when she hasn’t even invested in you yet. Focus on yourself. You been stuck thinking about the same girl through out lockdown do you not have anything to do? Goals to accomplish? Go and talk to her everyday and you will see that there will nothing left after this pandemic. You see she hasn’t texted you but you still thinking of her after weeks, what makes you think she ain’t thinking about you if she’s really feeling you? Don’t waste your time entertains someone for weeks and thinking about them when they haven’t done shit for you.

LaithBushnaq · 2020-05-03T09:35:44+00:00

Same thing happened to me brother, but cutting out the communication that long is not the solution.

Find ways to stay connected. For me, I enjoyed streaming a movie through Netflix party with the person I met pre-quarantine. I’m sure you’ll both find a common activity to enjoy some quality time together

xberry99 · 2020-05-03T08:17:03+00:00

Okay, I think I can provide a decent perspective on this because I am a girl who happens to be texting a guy that I "met" (not in person yet) on Bumble and we have been talking since the very beginning of March. I felt most connected to and excited about this boy when we would both be texting eachother back and forth, conversation flowing naturally with witty banter, teasing, and genuine questions about the other. Unfortunately that's slowed down quite a bit and now I'm left wondering if he's lost interest or if I'm overthinking. My point here is, if you feel this urge to text her and have some actual conversations here and there, I totally say go for it. Personally, as a girl, I can tell you that when I'm interested in a boy who reaches out to me, I do not leave him on read and my replies are all contributing to and moving the conversation forward. When I'm not interested, I will reply out of politeness but my replies will not contain much substance and will not move the conversation forward. Both these patterns will be consistent whether they're signs of interest or disinterest, and after a while of texting you can typically pick up someone's energy.

So, to me it seems obvious you WANT to text her, the only thing stopping you is worries about what SHE may think. So, do it. Send a meme, ask a question, make a funny remark about something you guys have talked about. Those are the conversations that people find interesting. Do it because YOU want to, you're a confident man so own that, and you have nothing to lose bc either way this will give you more insight on her vibe towards you based on how the texting energy is.

RedWaffle12345 · 2020-05-03T09:43:20+00:00

Are you going to fight for her attention against the other lads and try get to the top? Do some back flips in hope she chooses you? Unless this girl has chosen you and has high interest just leave it be.

You’re not really in a position to put her through her emotions so she’s likely to get bored if you text her all the time. Watch that attraction drop and when it does any attempt to raise it back up will look like your chasing and fuck it all up.

You understand that neediness is unattractive but you need to value your time, you can’t have a relationship over texting so pull back completely. Your options are:

1) pull back and hit her up after this is over

2) pull back, she either checks in or you don’t speak. Gauge into a conversation with her but end it around it’s peak. Be consistently inconsistent. This will do your head in Id attraction goes up and down.

3) you check in and she sees it as your looking for validation to see if she still likes you, this then fucks up for good.

classypaint7 · 2020-05-03T08:05:14+00:00

TEXT HER MORE! She probably doesn’t think you’re interested anymore.

Thejade1987 · 2020-05-03T10:15:26+00:00

You need to act alot more interested than once a month text man

quinnmcd · 2020-05-03T16:27:30+00:00

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daveinpublic · 2020-05-03T09:01:17+00:00

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sunabhp · 2020-05-03T10:19:41+00:00

I think it's time you moved to virtual dates.

OSUPornAddict · 2020-05-03T10:35:06+00:00

You should mix it up and FaceTime or call her, feels a little more like you’re hanging with her

igcasanova · 2020-05-03T12:09:56+00:00

If you don't want the commitment of messaging her daily yet you want her to still be "warm" when Covid ends I suggest you just make sure she follows you on IG, and then you can keep her engaged with a daily story.

This tactic is good if you are dealing with more than one girl especially. Also it shows a bit less interest on your side then talking to girl directly all the time.

Depending on the types of stories you post you can boost your value in her eyes as well. For example if you post stories on working out she will know you are fit or at least motivated, if you post stories on you playing an instrument or singing she will know you are talented etc.

Aristox · 2020-05-03T13:12:27+00:00

Text her more if you like her and want to get to know her better.

If you don't like her and want to get to know her better then forget about her

Just be authentic

DarkCr3ation · 2020-05-03T14:04:59+00:00

This is what I can’t stand. It turns me off in itself. “I want to text her more but I don’t want to sound desperate. I feel like when I text her she leaves me on read. I feel like she’s losing interest.” If someone is losing interest in me because my texts are boring or I have to make myself overthink like this then honestly fuck you. My texts my suck but I’m the shit in person.

princessofguaranians · 2020-05-03T14:53:06+00:00

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MrMemper · 2020-05-03T15:17:01+00:00

Depends on how flirtatious things are. If very flirty you can pop a quick message. If it was standard bullshit just hit her up when you can meet.

But don’t worry about it at all. It’s just one of many girls. You should have this same situation with at least 5 women rn. You’ve had plenty of time to create a roster

Ismilewhen · 2020-05-03T15:49:17+00:00

You should be texting her, I was doing the same thing and then I told her I feel everything is up in the air cause we ain’t talking, and she said she didn’t know that i was still interested, but at the same time try to incorporate some flirting and not only to try and get to know her

yosef33 · 2020-05-03T08:53:59+00:00

why are you limiting the amount of texts you're sending? it's not wrong to talk everyday, get to know her man

blueboy1980 · 2020-05-03T11:28:06+00:00

You need to text her more man. Don't over do it but keep touching base every few days, maybe ask her how her apocalypse is going. If you come across something interesting maybe share it with her by text.

hariboholmes · 2020-05-03T10:06:54+00:00

Face mask, gloves, condoms and stick to doggy style and you should be good to go!

ModernShaker3 · 2020-05-03T08:16:50+00:00

Text her everyday.

CyrusWescott · 2020-05-03T08:07:10+00:00

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Title	thoughts on texting a girl during coronavirus
Author	MaverickCarter
Upvotes	202
Comments	101
Date	May 3, 2020 6:31 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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