Does hanging out with a more attractive guy yield better chances for you to pick up a more attractive girl?

HoldMyKitten · 2015-06-14T00:19:17+00:00

Not necessarily, but your friend may even be hit on more.

skippytatertots · 2015-06-14T00:34:14+00:00

Uhh mostly yes no matter what anyone says on here looks is one of the things that a girl will look at first. Having your friend there might help in a group situation but don't just be that creepy friend who just kinda lives in his shadow. He brings the looks and u bring the conversation that way u both benefit.

Turlast · 2015-06-14T00:31:22+00:00

It depends. Maybe the women he'll attract will have friends that'll be into you. I don't think you should go into it with high expectations, though. You don't want to stand there feeling like a dumbass while all of the attention is on him. If anything, that'll do far more harm than good. Just hang with him to have a good time and see what it's like.

If it helps you attract beautiful women, great--if it doesn't help you attract beautiful women, that's also cool.

DMAIC · 2015-06-14T00:41:45+00:00

yes it does help your chances. it is called the cheerleader effect. individual faces appear more attractive when presented in a group than when presented alone.

Nerf_wisp · 2015-06-14T03:08:53+00:00

Girls are attracted to guys with lots of friends. If you're with hip/attractive/interesting people it is an indicator that you have social swag and aren't a weirdo.

Be honest with yourself if he's the type that will cockblock you or help you get laid. If it's the former tell him to get lost. Also don't fall into the trap of needing friends for self validation and confidence. You need to have a foundation of being confident with yourself for all this other shit to work.

TheBloodIsRed · 2015-06-14T01:25:29+00:00

Makes the girls you meet want your friend more, good amount of times.

DaygameCoach · 2015-06-14T01:42:24+00:00

If your game is equal, No. If your game is much better than his, you may do ok. If you work together well, you may do ok by pulling two women together.

iliketurtlesdurr · 2015-06-14T03:18:00+00:00

I find that hanging out with a guy who's slightly more attractive helps, but who is wayyyy more attractive hurts.

nemesis_kid · 2015-06-14T02:37:54+00:00

Having a high aggregate attractiveness of your group can be helpful - but like any one other thing it won't make or break you.

sLIMshadyKP · 2015-06-14T02:51:04+00:00

Depends. Is he the amiable type of attractive or the intimidating type? Are you extroverted and all smiles? If you are, and he's the latter, then that's the perfect scenario for you. You are more approachable, so take advantage of that by getting the girls' numbers and escalating before you get "friendzoned".

Doctor_Pedobear · 2015-06-14T03:20:48+00:00

Short answer: yes.

punkgoat · 2015-06-14T08:39:56+00:00

I actually read about this exact scenario in Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions.

What if you are single, and hope to appeal to as many attractive potential dating partners as possible at an upcoming singles event? My advice would be to bring a friend who has your basic physical characteristics (similar coloring, body type, facial features), but is slightly less attractive (—you). predictablyWhy? Because the folks you want to attract will have ahard time evaluating you with no comparables around. However, if you are compared with a “-you,” the decoy friend will do a lot to make you look better, not just in comparison with the decoy but also in general, and in comparison with all the other people around.

TL;DR No, you will be compared to your friend, and will be judged relative to him.

litt_up · 2015-06-14T12:34:08+00:00

The worst thing you can do in this situation is have the mindset that you are the second option. Be the best person you can possibly be and don't overthink it.

dogfuckcancer · 2015-06-14T03:16:15+00:00

No, he will bang all of the girls you are interested in.

Fckuu · 2015-06-14T15:17:13+00:00

What is wrong with you fuckers seddit? You hang out with a person because you like their company, not because of "game." If they help your game it is an add-on but it should not be the basis of a social transaction.

OP, The whole game is now screwed up against you if you hang out with him, now that you believe he's more attractive, has more social value. You are always going to have an iota of insecurity and won't be able to bring the best in you out. You are sabotaging yourself and the only reason is your objectification of this scenario.

You aren't at your best if your mind is into such petty things, and if you ain't your best you ain't doing shit sucking up seddits' cock and balls and advice.

zoleirl · 2015-06-14T03:33:10+00:00

Overall no real impact in my experience. Someone else's good looks don't effect your own good points, just makes you feel insecure. But if you can get over that you come off even more confident.

You can even use the fact he's good looking as a joke. "I know what you're thinking girls, one good looking guy and one loser, but trust me, he's got a great personality"

baddog992 · 2015-06-14T04:03:18+00:00

I dont know about attractive but I hung out with a ladies man and I got a lot of good tips on how to act and how to attract women.

InscrutablePUA · 2015-06-14T04:08:40+00:00

1) You'll probably get more girls coming up to talk to you guys or who are receptive to approaches from your friend but

2) By comparison you will seem less attractive than if you were alone or with a less attractive friend.

With that in mind I'd say it's a net POSITIVE because you will have better social proof and can leverage that.

Scrub_Life · 2015-06-14T04:51:37+00:00

Yeah you will. Girls don't go out alone and just having someone with you will improve your chances. The better looking he is it brings up your own "group average"

that-freakin-guy · 2015-06-14T05:05:43+00:00

Not really. Being really attractive decreases the chances of you getting hit on, girls are more intimidated usually, especially the really hot ones. The hotter they are, the more self conscious they tend to be. Really hot girls will usually put up a bigger front to seem more confident but then will have the largest insecurities. My girlfriend is gorgeous and asks once a day if she's fat yet she has abs. It's social conditioning.

This guy being really hot opens up more doors to get into some better clubs though, being really attractive is like a secret club you get invited to and anyone with you gets to come along through proxy. Don't have to wait in lines as long, or girls are less likely to be intimidated if you ask them to join you so you can skip to the front.

A great trick I used to use was grabbing a bunch of girls, walking to the front of a line and saying I wasn't single but all these girls were, so let us in and let me make your club some money. Didn't even have to pull out my ID in most cases.

Besides that, having your friend around will get girls to listen longer while you hit on them and will let you approach more beautiful women, but have your game on point because they will get bored very easily as the hotter they are the more options they have thus making your job difficult.

Just my personal experience.

skahler · 2015-06-14T05:24:41+00:00

Yes. Make sure he's willing to provide you with wing-man bonuses. AKA not just in it for himself

SkatingOnThinIce · 2015-06-14T05:39:13+00:00

Whatever you do, learn from the experience. It doesn't matter if your friend is hotter, it matters if "he has more game". And if he does, learn from it. If he doesn't, well, learn from it. One thing for sure, show confidence. If the girls sees your hot friends and see you are confident and comfortable with it... You'll get the girl.

Fir3start3r · 2015-06-14T07:21:33+00:00

I think you just explained yourself as being the DUFF...

Zvne · 2015-06-14T09:50:23+00:00

Hot friend gets more and it's sometimes annoying.

Source: Am less hot friend.

bossbozo · 2015-06-14T10:37:42+00:00

It will make it easier for him to pick chicks

recyclablebantha · 2015-06-15T13:42:57+00:00

He's taller and more attractive.

Irrelevant. Looks don't close the deal for ANYone.

Does hanging out with a more attractive guy help out your chances?

No.

This is like asking if someone taking the SATs for you can help YOUR score. In the end, each person can only take their own test. You have to close for yourself. Just because you have some dude next to you, isn't going to help YOU handle your end of things.

Zackcid · 2015-06-15T20:21:30+00:00

No. She's designed to go for the better guy. But this is assuming he's better than you, which looks don't necessarily determine that.

HappyMexican · 2015-06-16T22:33:20+00:00

In my experience, I have always been the fatter uglier one, and it has never freakin helped having a better looking guy with me. However, It does help having a guy who knows a lot of girls though. Sometimes good looking bros do have a lot of female friends, but best thing to have is a guy/girl who is worse looking then you that is sociallly plugged in.

Sadly, the guys I hung out with who were more attractive then me usually got in the way more then they helped. They relied so much on their looks and had 0 game, which is useless to us. Usually just sat there sipping their beer in til a girl talked to them, then they would try.

galactic_fury · 2015-06-14T00:36:23+00:00

It cannot hurt, is the way I would put it. You can use him as a prop i.e. approach a couple of girls and tell them about your awesome friend; they will be interested and if everything goes well, you will go back as a group. But simply being better looking does not automatically mean that he has good game, so keep in mind that you still have to learn and work game yourself.

fyreNL · 2015-06-14T02:05:34+00:00

Yes, it probably will.

WarSucksLetsParty · 2015-06-15T20:28:18+00:00

I actually want to try this.

My cousin and I are real similar. Muscular, tall, confident, good at playing girls.

He invited me out to a Hollywood club that he has connects with and gets a table there all the time where girls surround him and his bros. He says they're the life of the party and the girls there are real superficial.

I'm going with him Saturday so I'll keep you guys posted if I get lucky.

Title	Does hanging out with a more attractive guy yield better chances for you to pick up a more attractive girl?
Author	finanzas8
Upvotes	72
Comments	50
Date	June 13, 2015 10:45 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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