Hey, me again. I got a lot of great comments on my last post from two weeks ago, some positive, some negative and some… interesting? Thank you to everyone who engaged in civil discussions and left their opinions (even the uninformed ones).

I’ve been working on a very time-consuming project for the past two weeks which is why I haven’t posted anything, but now that it’s getting close to being done I’m going to start posting a lot of (hopefully) valuable content for you guys again. Anyways, let’s get into todays topic, which is how I get laid effortlessly using online dating apps, without ever actually taking the girl on a date. (if you’re completely lost with online dating you should read my previous post before this one, this is a more advanced technique)

After reading this post, you will have the basic know-how on how to get a girl straight over to your place for a hookup. No date, no awkward excuse trying to “pull her” back to your apartment etc. A hookup when you want, where you want, without having to leave your house. I know for a busy introvert like me, doing it this way is a godsend. So, how do you do this? Escalation.

What is escalation? 

Escalating the conversation simply means turning it from the basic, standard getting to know you talk into flirting and often even full blown sexting with her sending you nudes etc. If you can get the conversation to go there (and not fuck it up by saying or doing some weird needy shit), you can very easily close and get the girl to come over, often the same night, with the full expectation that you guys are going to hook up. 

If you think girls like this aren’t on Tinder etc. you’re wrong. A big portion of girls on dating apps are looking for exactly this, a fun, flirty, no strings attached hookup with a guy that makes her feel sexy and desired. So throw away your fear of being sexual with the girl and let’s get on with defining our goals: 

Goal 1: Move the conversation from boring to sexual, make the girl horny, turned on and invested to have sex with you.

Goal 2: Make the girl feel comfortable enough to come over to your place or have you over to her’s. 

Once those two things are successfully accomplished, you’re golden. Let’s get into how we actually escalate the conversation. 

HOW TO ESCALATE:

  1. Increase level of sexuality gradually, gauge level of reciprocity. Don’t go from 0-100 with sexual comments and flirting. The way you want to start raising the level of sexuality in the conversation is gradual. Start off with jokes/flirting that could be misinterpreted to be sexual/not sexual. Comment on some of her physical features and build mental images around them. Example: A fun way to do this is by telling her she can’t wear something she has on her profile on your date, because you’d be too distracted. If you’ve done what I told you in the last guide and introduced the idea of a date, you can then say something like: “you definitely can’t wear that black skirt on our date though, I’d be way too distracted from the movie…”
  2. Calibrate based on her responses. As you drop these lines in the conversation, you want to gauge her interest. If she responds positively, you’ll keep escalating further, with more explicit and sexual topics and comments. If she responds neutrally, “not playing along” in a sense, back off for a little bit, build more investment with her and try again later. 
  3. Light up her imagination. Once she’s responding positively to your escalations, you want to conjure up images of physical things between the two of you. Continuing from the last example, if the girl responds with: “then that’s exactly what I have to wear”. You can respond with: “at your own risk, you might end up with a few hickeys on your neck..” (these examples are from a real tinder conversation btw.) This gets the girl to imagine you kissing her neck, something women generally love. Sidenote: Let me know if you’d be interested in a full guide to sexting etc. I think it’s one of the most under-utilized tools for guys, especially online.
  4. Keep escalating based on her responses. Use some push/pull, don’t send her essays about everything you’d to her pretty amazing body etc. Instead, mix in flirting and compliments, with more pulling statements. For example, if she tells you how she wants you to kiss more than just her neck, you can say: “Hmm, only if you ask nicely”. This creates a fun dynamic of back-and forth between you.
  5. Don’t overdo it, close the convo. This is where most guys fuck up. You’ve managed to turn the conversation sexual, your hearts pounding, blood is flowing to unholy places etc. and you can’t wait to fuck this girl. But then you keep going on, on and on with the sexting, telling her every little fantasy and thing you’d love to do. At some point, the girl will conclude you’re just looking for a sexting buddy who’s messages you masturbate to, not a real hookup. When you reach the “peak” of sexual intensity in the conversation, stop. If it’s late, use an excuse for having to go to bed. Tell her you’ll have a hard time sleeping though, imagining all the things you’d do to her etc. This gives the girl time to breathe a little and want you even more. Then to actually close for the meetup, make a callback to something you’ve talked about, preferably when sexting and make the ask. Example: 
    1. You opened the conversation by complimenting her on her tattoos, then escalated it by talking about how good they’d look in real life etc. “I’d love to come over tonight and get a closer look at those pretty tattoos..” - This is indirect enough where you’re not asking the girl to say yes to sex (which can make her feel slutty, easy etc.), but from the earlier flirting/sexting and escalation, you both have a clear idea that you’re going to hookup, which gets the girl excited and turned on, since she’s now thinking of all the earlier things you’ve talked about. 

2 pro tips for making this work even better:

  1. Have some sex appeal in your profile. You don’t need 5 shirtless flexing photos (and you shouldn’t have those) but something that gets the girls imagination going. For women, subtle sex appeal works better than overt.
  2. Read some erotic novels/stories aimed at women. Sexting in a way the woman enjoys is an art, which many men suck at. Luckily, this is why it’s very easy to stand out. If you understands what turns a woman on, the imagery and words that really get her going, you’ll do excellent. I know some of you might scoff at this and think it’s gay etc. but I can confidently say doing this is what took me from having okay-results with this technique to making it work almost every single time, with nearly any girl I want.

If you follow this format of escalating and get some practice in, I guarantee you can get laid as easily as I do. Following these examples directly obviously won’t work though, you will need to practice on your own to get the hang of it and develop your own style. I can promise you one thing though, it’s worth it. Being able to set up 2-3 hookups per week just from my phone is amazing, it saves me an incredible amount of time and money, and it’s led to me meeting some amazing women that are now my FWB’s, making it so I don’t even need to set up these dates with new girls all that often. If you have the basics of online dating down, I’d take this way of texting/closing into serious consideration, especially if your main focus is hookups and sex.

For anyone that dm’d me after my last post went up that I haven’t responded to yet, my sincerest apologies, I’ve been neck deep in creating a full guide to online dating that contains literally everything I had to learn through years of experimentation for becoming very successful with online dating. If you’d like to get an early sample, send me a message and tell me what part of online dating you struggle with the most, and I’ll send you the corresponding section. I want to get as much feedback as I can before I release it, the goal is for this guide to be the best and only thing relating to online dating that you will ever need to read.

Once again, I’d love to hear comments and feedback from you guys! This post was a little more specific and advanced than the last one, did you feel like you understood the concepts in it? Does this only work for guys over 6ft? Am I secretly a male model which is why I can text anything to these girls? Whatever your thoughts, leave them down below! Till next time, cheers fellas. 

ps. I’m going to make some posts not related to online dating as well, addressing things like anxiety around women and my theory on why aesthetics > looks (something almost no guy understands) so stay tuned for that.