Flirting without negging

chips_and_hummus · 2025-06-24T00:08:07+00:00

insulting is rude. banter is fun. there is a difference.

flirting examples without banter/teasing:

-commenting on how good she looks in an outfit

-she does some small meaningless gesture, “wow you must really like me”

-ask her what her type is and joke that she’s basically describing you

-ask her about her love languages and discuss, this is naturally a flirty topic. ex: she says she likes words of affirmation, “oh so i should just gas you up all the time? i can manage that”

there are also plenty of ways to flirt that aren’t based on words, like strong eye contact and physical touch

Spare_Air9406 · 2025-06-23T23:40:02+00:00

well flirting is partly joking around

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-06-24T00:18:11+00:00

There are multiple tools in your arsenal.

Presence. Basically just by having strong presence u already flirting with her. A presence is hard to describe. When u are in a moment u feel very relaxed yet sharp mind.

Secrecy. It’s when u are in public and u secretly do something. Is not necessary sexual, although could be. For example having inside joke.

Humour. There is not much to talk about it.

Proximity. Being close to her always creates more sparks than being far away. Because there is anticipation of the touch.

Which brings me to, Anticipation. Basically u create an idea in her mind, something for her to look forward. Yet u delay the reward.

Position. It feels different when u are for example behind her instead of next to her. It’s more direct.

Touching. Kino. Is technically flirting. However, it is my least favourite. Because it is too direct. In other words once u reach the stage when u start touching her it’s kinda obvious you like her.

DHV for looks. For example, u find a reason to take your shirts off and show your six pack. I consider this as flirting no different when women wear the make up.

Assertive body language. Like u take space, or u look at her, or you lean. Again no much different how women flirt when they touch their hair or put breasts out. Body language.

Livid_Leek_4246 · 2025-06-24T00:00:01+00:00

Bro’s definition of flirting is insulting girls🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 please stop listening to everything you see online

Livid_Leek_4246 · 2025-06-23T23:57:31+00:00

bro just tease them

jackzander · 2025-06-24T00:10:11+00:00

From my many years spent traveling abroad I discovered this obscure flirting technique where I see something positive about them and then I say it

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-06-24T00:08:48+00:00

Flirting is different from complimenting or insulting. It's about showing desire, but not confirming it fully. It's making her feel like you want her, but also her not being sure about it because you are not completely clear. She can sense your desire, but she also feels like she could be misreading the signals you give her. She feels the sexual insinuation, but you don't act on it just yet, to keep her guessing.

That's when you begin to be a challange and a mystery, she feels like you are teasing her, making her feel excited and aroused because you show desire non verablly with yoru gestures, the way you chec her body out, the way you say statement that implies desire, but hold back just a bit, to keep her guessing and to keep her wanting more. She begins to wonder what you are thinking, what your intention is, why you do the thigns you do, she tries to decipher you, trying to read between the lines of what's said to discover what has been unsaid.

You bite your lips suggestively while looking at her with a smirk, but you don't explain why you are looing at her like that, and then you change topics, you shake her hand a bit longer than usual when you meet her for the first time in her group friend, but you don't explain why you did that and play dumb if she asks why you held her hand for 2 seconds longer than normal, you wink at her briefly, and then act like nothing happened so she has to guess why you did that or if it was just an accident, you insinuate taht you can't stop thining about her, but you don't explain why, so she has to imagine the reason why.

Then again this all requires being confident, not second guessing yourself. If you try to flirt while being scared of a bad reaction, that insecure vibe is something she will feel and will turn her off. You cannot be confident only if she approves it, you need to embody confidence regardless of whether she approves or not.

OkSeaworthiness251 · 2025-06-24T00:44:21+00:00

I don’t it’s too boring or sweet without a little banter

EsotericRonin · 2025-06-24T01:08:13+00:00

Insulting is incredibly lame and won't get you anywhere. Playfully misinterpret things they say or like take their statements to their most absurd conclusions.

CharismaOnCommand has a shit ton of videos that talk about this. Russel brand does it a lot.

speak_truth__ · 2025-06-24T01:21:00+00:00

Eye contact, facial expressions, light touch, and compliments. Never insult a woman. The type who tolerate it are not the type you want to mess with in the first place. You want a self respecting woman who can take care of herself. These types of women don’t put up with this.

ShakaPiontkowskie1 · 2025-06-24T02:02:27+00:00

The definition of a flirt is compliment+tease. Negging is insulting. Teasing is what you do with long-time friends, and what you need to pair with your compliments to women.

Examples: "honestly...you win Best Tight Black Dress of the night...actually...4th best! Still up there..." "So...is this a thing where you're from? Elegant, stunning girls with funny accents...don't worry, they kind of balance each other out...almost..." (She's stumbling over her words while talking to you) " Captivates the eyes and imaginations of many a man...even when she has to learn how to speak again...pre K here she comes!"

Also, cocky-funny is a great way to show intent and flirt without complimenting her. It's based in teasing, primarily. https://youtu.be/GoMFlZqnF7k

KnightsOfNaN · 2025-06-24T02:05:44+00:00

Honestly…I’m a big tease and that’s part of my game. But there’s a secret in there…the women I tease KNOW I’m teasing them. Maybe it’s a face I make or the context of the situation but they know I don’t mean the things I say. It’s ok if they are uncertain (potentially even better) but if they think you are just being negative that will actively work against you.

CoachSlyDating · 2025-06-24T03:35:58+00:00

Playfully disagree with what they say.

creamyturtle · 2025-06-23T23:41:05+00:00

just disagree or take a different point of view than them, and josh them for it. negging is lame

Title	Flirting without negging
Author	ExtraordinaryBeetles
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Date	June 23, 2025 11:32 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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