Friendly Reminder

dailymanup · 2020-05-12T22:20:49+00:00

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syn85143 · 2020-05-13T00:28:41+00:00

I was thinking the other day about how many "successful" PUA end up with depression even though they are doing better then ever on what they've worked so long and hard for.

Then it came to me.

If you are adoption behavior that isn't internalized but rather an act to attract women the more successful you are the more it reinforces the idea that the "real" you isn't desirable.

This is one reason why I believe inner game from authentic changes you make to yourself that attract women is by far the best long term approach.

sasquatchington · 2020-05-13T00:59:43+00:00

Fuck yeah, this sub is great for men to share advice with other men for when it comes to dealing with women. And I suppose these days it's more common for women to be on here as well which is great! But I have found the most use I have gotten out of this sub was in regards to inner game and loving myself. Working on yourself and being consistent with it is the key to success in every facet of life. Women or whomever you wish to attract are drawn to someone who undoubtedly believes in themself.

goosesnotgeese_ · 2020-05-13T01:39:03+00:00

I’m trying to learn to love myself but depression has been kicking my butt.

gtrman571 · 2020-05-13T00:11:59+00:00

Why is it so hard for guys to internalize this? It feels like no matter how times I try to tell myself this I still feel like less of a man for not getting laid on a regular basis

whitecollarpizzaman · 2020-05-13T07:05:41+00:00

^This. Finding someone who is a quality sexual partner, whether they are a significant other or just a friend with benefits, takes time. If you’re the type of person who can bag a new body every week, congrats, really, but I can’t even imagine having that much time or persistence. The reality is that for most people, the right person will kind of just fall into place. That’s not to suggest no effort is needed, but I can’t count how many times I’ve approached people and been shot down, only to have a random girl I bump into be the one I connect with the most.

Teamtoast · 2020-05-13T06:01:46+00:00

Oh my god thank you. Honestly some of the ‘I’ve got 15 lays under my belt’ shit was mildly terrifying

bobklosak · 2020-05-13T13:40:01+00:00

Here's the thing though goose. Being happy in life is about being happy in life, and yes it is an internal struggle more than external.

Experiencing and loving women is about trigger pulls, calibration and sometimes even a little tenacity. This is sometimes both an external and internal struggle.

Being happy is just a feeling, it can come and go. Even the greatest zen masters have moments of unhappiness or frustration.

Women can come and go too.

Your path to happiness is not necessarily the same as to women. But happiness is a road you can embark on while doing anything at anytime in your life. Women is too. But the women issue is nice to just get out of the way first. Cause once you kinda get how it works its one less thing to wonder about.

If you are happy it wont make getting women much easier unless you have some fundamentals down. Which means you will likely become unhappy anyways if you ever try to work on women which will mean the women issue will make you unhappy which means you will just start avoiding the women issue.

Set a baseline for yourself. Figure out what you want to experience in life and do the legwork to ensure it will really happen.

Then also block out some some time and be happy. You can literally meditate any day you please to work on happiness.

TranClan67 · 2020-05-13T09:59:53+00:00

Yep. People definitely need to love themselves first. I used to take this subreddit somewhat seriously but it definitely took its toll and made me feel somewhat worthless. Granted it was part of "pretending who I'm not".

hwarzenegger · 2020-05-13T00:49:45+00:00

thanks king ❤️

gravy_train01 · 2020-05-13T05:30:58+00:00

Wholesome

DJBombba · 2020-05-13T05:59:17+00:00

This post right here knows what’s up😤

goosesnotgeese_ · 2020-05-13T07:00:27+00:00

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tacoliker1 · 2020-05-13T12:08:05+00:00

This reminds me of a quote.

“Money is numbers and numbers never end. If it takes money to be happy, your search for happiness will never end.”

BakedAvocado3 · 2020-05-13T16:08:45+00:00

Thank you

electric_satan · 2020-05-13T16:24:51+00:00

Quality post

anal_bleach_burn · 2020-05-13T06:42:24+00:00

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Samaniak · 2020-05-13T16:37:23+00:00

I have a feeling that its even harder than game itself, because you can "fake it" to the certain point, but you can't fool yourself no matter how hard you try

BurnItDownSR · 2020-05-13T19:05:33+00:00

On the other side of this, having sex with a lot of people is not a problem if you're just doing it to please yourself and not because you wanna feel like you're worth something.

Sometimes you're genuinely not at a point in your life where you want to commit or you just haven't found someone good enough to commit to but at the same time you still wanna have sex because sex feels good.

That's ok. There's nothing wrong with you for doing that as long as you're not deceitful and you're not trying to derive your self worth from it.

goosesnotgeese_ · 2020-05-13T03:10:26+00:00

Ok first things first.

The whole "love yourself" notion is feel good instagram bs. Yeah we should be confident but we should also be disciplined and motivated. That comes with some recognition that parts of ourselves can be improved.

Second. I agree that you shouldn't use a lack of a body count to feel bad about yourself. But it is hard to deny that , for a man, sleeping with a lot of women is rare and an achievement.

Third. Posts like this have no substance. what have you accomplished? Who's lives have you improved. We are like artisans improving a craft, part of that is struggling and suffering. No amount of "love yourself" helps with that..

I swear everytime I hear someone saying , "Love yourself", they are someone that hasn't accomplisehd anything. They just say "Love yourself" as a way to make them feel good in their failire and they want others to join them. I could care less about "Love yourself" I want results!

no1dookie · 2020-05-13T00:35:31+00:00

But... if you want to fuck like a rabbit or like any other 20 year old, count on gangsta, count on...

Title	Friendly Reminder
Author	goosesnotgeese_
Upvotes	988
Comments	62
Date	May 12, 2020 10:00 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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