From a woman's perspective

Cymry_Cymraeg · 2013-05-12T18:45:08+00:00

"maybe it's fine to sleep with him on the first night".

So what you're saying is pretend I don't want to have sex straight away and I can have sex straight away?

Got it.

Jerfy · 2013-05-12T05:37:24+00:00

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that1guywithredhair · 2013-05-12T04:41:22+00:00

Anyone that "trolls" you because of your gwc post are either an idiot, or blind. That said, thanks for posting this, it was an interesting read.

2013-05-12T15:00:15+00:00

As a girl with perpetual accidental bitch face, I approve this post.

MorphineSmile · 2013-05-12T20:25:52+00:00

Seriously, some of you people here are so painfully insecure, someone comes to try and offer a different perspective and you have to try and prove yourselves, like not only did you not need this, but that this girl should hush.

The "don't ask a fish how to catch a fish" quote sounds cute, but it's fucking stupid because FISH DO NOT COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER! If they did, they might have long ago figured out not to bite the worm on the hook, and humans would've had to adapt to the change. To act like you have nothing to gain from a woman just because it's a woman speaking, is flat out insecure. Not to mention, I can't tell you how many female friends (the confident, good looking ones who have been hit on a zillion times in their life) have told me that they'll laugh a guy back into the corner if he pulls some stupid shit like "negging," not only because they have had it done to them so many times, but also because THEY READ SEDUCTION PAGES TOO, to amuse themselves and know what to look for! Did you learn that one in your studies? The ones who already know all of this simply (and securely) just move on to the next post (if they're even wasting their time on Seddit).

Jesus F Christ, I bet half of you keyboard hawks in this thread include the number of times you've "seduced" your palm as part of your count.

I appreciated the post, OP! Everyone has something to learn and improve on, whether they'd like to admit it, or hide behind some macho keystrokes.

Edit spelling.

EDIT 2: Another point: catching a fish is a one-time thing; a woman can be "caught," or seduced, many times in her life. To think she doesn't learn from experience, what works and doesn't is just discarding potentially valuable insight into how you come off to at least one woman. Think of it like a mirror for your game. What a woman says about seduction is less dogmatic and more pragmatic. Think about it.

zagazaga · 2013-05-12T18:04:01+00:00

You carry $50 when you go out? That's a first for a woman

frogma · 2013-05-12T07:37:00+00:00

The only thing I really disagree with here is the dancing aspect, but most guys here also tend to disagree with me on that (most guys would agree with you).

In a club -- especially when everyone's already drunk and the inhibitions are slim to none -- I tend to "randomly" grind on girls a lot. It could just be my looks (though they're not great) or the way I approach (though that often isn't great either), but it tends to work for whatever reason. 99% of the time, it seems like everyone else is silently judging me for it, but not the girl herself. Usually though, I purposely look out for girls who seem like they're more "open" in general, who probably aren't huge proponents of "personal space."

It's weird because there always seems to be 2-3 distinct subsets of girls in a bar/club -- the first subset is the girls who like to go out with their friends, who legitimately just love to dance and "unwind" (and who for some reason pick the worst places to do so). The second subset is the girls who know that a club is a club, and a bar is a bar, and they know what tends to happen at bars and clubs -- so they're okay with random grinding, they're okay with random guys talking to them and shit, etc. And of course there are many girls who fall in-between -- they came out with their friends but are at least open to the possibility of random hookups. So yeah, IMO it's simply much easier (and usually the more efficient option) to just randomly grind on some girls -- you still gotta be confident with it, and usually you want some acknowledgment before you do it. You still gotta approach with the right sort of "vibe," the same way you would in any other "approach."

Otherwise though, I agree with basically everything you said here.

2013-05-12T04:22:59+00:00

Hey yeah. Thanks for taking the time to post this.

2013-05-12T13:48:57+00:00

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frogma · 2013-05-12T21:42:50+00:00

This post was bullshit in my opinion. Be yourself, don't follow some list as to define your character in the presence of other human beings. One thing girls need to know is that we really don't care for their attention as much as they want to believe. If any of you guys want to take my advice, just be who you are; bring out the best in yourself because you sure as shit don't want someone falling for the front you put on to get their attention in the first place.

Quantum_Finger · 2013-05-12T11:58:58+00:00

Nice post. Although, I like how your first point of advice is to basically be handsome as fuck. Didn't know who Eric Northman was.

Ra1den · 2013-05-12T04:13:27+00:00

This was a great read. Thanks.

fragglemook · 2013-05-12T09:38:44+00:00

Wonderful post. Thumbs up. In more than two years in seddit, you are the first girl I have fully agreed with in here and who I think has actually contributed something useful, realistic, honest and accurate.

The sheer amount of times I have been downvoted to hell for disagreeing with a girl/woman in here because she is giving advice from a one-sided biased female viewpoint which doesn't help men and sounds like self-help advice is staggering. It doesn't help that the average frustrated chump lurking seddit has a natural tendency to white-knight and rush to the rescue.

I think it's because you have came out with the oft-repeated phrase "confidence", among the other things, but you've gone in to depth with your reasoning for needing it.

Great post.

Thiickshake · 2013-05-12T12:56:11+00:00

Lol at the dancing part, im a particularly bad dancer but because ive always got this face of enjoyment on it never really matters.

TheNether · 2013-05-12T14:53:16+00:00

10/10, my eyes are drier than a desert.

jp_lolo · 2013-05-12T07:29:54+00:00

I personally like the last paragraph of advice. thank you for spreading the word.

TheLovelyBoner · 2013-05-12T07:17:55+00:00

Spot on. Well said. Source: I am a female also

bromeopathic · 2013-05-12T07:32:26+00:00

Wow, thanks for the insight. I like the way you type:)

Azumikkel · 2013-05-14T10:07:24+00:00

Thank you for your tips OP.

2013-05-14T16:18:46+00:00

I find that being a pushy asshole has been helpful rather than detrimental to my game.

TofuTofu · 2013-05-12T08:54:29+00:00

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backtothegame · 2013-05-12T21:11:58+00:00

There is little of use here. It's a bit callus but it's always right: "You don't ask the the deer for advice on how to shoot them".

Sword11 · 2013-05-12T05:19:10+00:00

All around pretty solid advice.. Few things I noticed that are just very slightly off, but this is by the book for noobs

Title	From a woman's perspective
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	201
Comments	82
Date	May 12, 2013 1:22 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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