getting the number..

ChiIdishcambino · 2022-09-16T15:14:01+00:00

Lol the last place you wanna try and get women after a divorce is a strip club

666nwah · 2022-09-16T15:34:50+00:00

Hey friend, leave that one alone. You're post divorce and naive - you're only going to get hurt. Go meet a girl somewhere else?

TheRealestBiz · 2022-09-16T15:16:22+00:00

No no no. This will not work. You are only attracted to her because she’s one of the only women not taking her clothes off in the room. The waitresses and bartenders get hit on more than the strippers.

It is folly.

SwimComfortable7465 · 2022-09-16T15:21:38+00:00

(no this isn't a "wow she really likes me!" Story)

It mid-key is one

hagakurejunkie · 2022-09-16T17:28:05+00:00

Oh god

I work as a strip club bouncer and I can tell you for a fact that all that glitters in the club is anything but gold.

The men who frequent the strip club regularly are on the lowest tier of the male species. Even though I’m there and I watch the place like a hawk and I toss any guy who touches the dancer, dancers still get touched, cum on, harassed, assaulted etc.

The general consensus is most dancers just hate men. Even I am treated with a mild disinterest most of the time by all but the dancers that actually know me.

It’s much akin to police officers. Cops only see the worst part of humanity at work and they get jaded thinking that’s how all humanity is.

Cops basically only trust cops and strippers basically only trust other strippers.

Just because a girl is a waitress or cocktail server at a strip club doesn’t make her special. She is still subjected to sexual harassment and groping the same as the dancers.

She puts on a face to make her money. The fact that you are in a strip club as a customer automatically makes her distrust you.

Women who work at strip clubs are some fucking tough ass bitches. They act all shy and sweet but know that they are all predators posing as housepets.

So this is the game board you’re starting on.

Also realize you’re not ready for this. Your waitress gets HUNDREDS of guys a month hitting on her, sometimes they get her number and she gets stalked or harassed so she’s on heavy guard to not trust you. Most men who pursue strip club staff are either pimps or predators.

Are you comfortable with your girl entertaining men or will it drive you insane?

Flashing money in the club doesn’t make you attractive, acting tough or aggressive in the club doesn’t make you attractive.

If you really want to meet the waitress in real life, you’re going to have to spend a very LONG time getting her to trust you.

Most dancers and club cocktail waitresses have two numbers; their real number and a bullshit one they hand out to customers.

Your waitress and the dancers all use fake names. Hell, even I use a fake name when I’m on the door. It’s a building of lies and the staff is the inner circle and at my club, the owner is a solid, stand up guy and we’re very protective of the girls.

I have dated dancers and cocktail waitresses before and even though I’m experienced at it, I still get crushed out too from time to time.

You just got out of a marriage. Your wife was loyal, and you knew and trusted her. (At least in the beginning)

You’re not ready for this. You’re gonna get wrecked. Meet a woman in the real world. Don’t go down this path because it will end up in tragedy and you will end up paying with so much of your time, energy and cash for this person.

CigarFrog · 2022-09-16T15:35:28+00:00

What everyone has posted here is true. It's Fool's Gold. The Servers work harder than the strippers there because they have clothes on. She's just working the tip! Before I retired from the Game I dated several strippers and can tell you it's probably just the opposite. At the end of the night, ALL girls sit there and trade loser stories of guys they scammed. I'd show up at closing to pick up my GF and there would always be a couple of stalkers/creepers hanging out hoping to get laid. Half the time my GF would invite the Mark to IHOP/Denny's with us because she knew he'd pay! After he paid for all of us. She would give them a peck on the cheek and/or hug then we would go home and Fuck!

ZenMachine

namastaynaughti · 2022-09-16T16:04:32+00:00

There is no real difference between a waitress and a dancer. It’s all a hustle, it’s all a facade. Trust me! You may think she is cute but you’re one of many customers. The job of all people working there is to create a fantasy world where you feel the most important. If you think she is into you, she is doing her job well.

pp604977 · 2022-09-16T16:12:27+00:00

Anytime you think people are being nice and you are at a place receiving service, assume it’s for the tip. (Not for that other tip) lol

tdroylshy · 2022-09-16T16:30:29+00:00

Dude, go to Target and walk around. Clear your head and get out of places like the strip club

Turbopre2 · 2022-09-16T15:55:34+00:00

Usually to chat up the servers it would take multiple visits to get a number. You can get the number in one night if you are really good at charming them.

TruSiris · 2022-09-16T16:11:04+00:00

There's cute girls everywhere. Don't get hyper focused on the strip club waitress.

None the less, it won't hurt to try to strike up conversation/banter with her just for the sake of connection. Don't go into it with her number in mind, just with the intention to connect with her and no attachment to it turning out well or not.

teeko252001 · 2022-09-16T16:47:27+00:00

If you got into a meaningful relationship with her, would her job bother you? I worked in a strip club… some of those girls pay the owner to work there. Literally everyone in the building will do just about anything to get ur money. Some guys would come in on Friday and hand over their whole paychecks. They don’t shit where they eat… unless you’re paying.

2022-09-16T17:37:44+00:00

This sub has gone to shit

Zebrig · 2022-09-16T18:32:58+00:00

In service job, everyone will be friendly and flirty, IT'S THEIR JOB. And you will tip because they were friendly, and next time they will continue to be friendly and flirty. etc.

GordonBongbay · 2022-09-16T18:50:35+00:00

I was successful at this once. Best I could tell you is strike up a convo whichever way possible and see if you can lock in the number. Keep in mind where she works, although she’s not a “stripper” she’s also not entirely far off from being one. I say this solely because she’s a waitress at a strip club. Not sure if you grasp what I’m saying. I’d look elsewhere tbh.

rahhumilovedogs · 2022-09-16T18:52:20+00:00

She prly gets hit on 50x. I don't think this is a good idea

ThotBubble · 2022-09-16T19:52:29+00:00

Yeah bro go to a bar or a regular club

Lopsided_Jackfruit37 · 2022-09-16T15:19:41+00:00

Are you physically compatible? Like are you just as attractive or VERY close in attractiveness to her? or is this some girl that's out of your league that you're attracted to because she has to pay attention to you because she's working?

Archyblackcat · 2022-09-16T16:31:35+00:00

Dude just hit on them like you would any other girl… I pulled a stripper and got all her attention for free , banged her for free 11 times , even met her parents (we lasted 2 months before splitting up due to her insecurities of being a slut she thought she didn’t deserve me she said ) .. just treat them how you would any girl you wanna get at.. sometimes your game will work, others it won’t, no big deal

TheShortShady · 2022-09-16T16:39:41+00:00

When there’s a spark or interest with a waitress at any institution, you’ll know it after visiting the spot 2 or 3 times and it’s VERY obvious there’s chemistry.

Chemistry results partly from rapport, if you notice she’s really spending a lot of time with you and not cause you’re going overboard with the tipping, then it could be something.

This is very rare though and the common practice is to keep it at low level flirting at maximum if that’s what you like to do.

Nimitz_68 · 2022-09-16T15:59:38+00:00

Don't TRY to hook up with strippers.
Save your money
Look at yourself in the mirror, where can " I " improve myself
Would mom/dad/friends like .. "oh, she's a waitress at a strip bar"
Start on-line with Tinder or a dating site, LEARN how to date someone BEFORE you see them naked or at work.. dude, this happens to them like 100000% every day... they will be like "sure fella, give me your number, I will blow you for 100 in your car!! (HINT, NO STRIPPERS or Waitress bar @ Stripper bar)
IF IF you are ACTUALLY able to get her number... duuuude, you can NEVER EVER make her regret 1. meeting you, 2 hold it against her, 3. be prepared to travel to date, THEY NEVER LIVE AND STRIP IN THE SAME TOWN/STATE

RoddyChooch · 2022-09-16T16:46:04+00:00

Hey listen up pals

The “wow she likes me” is possible cause it happened to me a long time ago.

And it happened like this. At a strip club. She was standing beside me. I totally ignored her (honestly she wasn’t my type haha) and she eventually asked for a light. I obliged. We chatted I got her number and I have a stripper “girlfriend” for a summer.

pimple_dreams · 2022-09-16T17:26:52+00:00

Please read The Mystery Method

controversial_parrot · 2022-09-16T17:56:25+00:00

Neil Strauss (or maybe Mystery - can't remember) has a whole detailed method of how to seduce a stripper. You could probably look it up and find it somewhere. I remember they used it on the show The Pickup Artist

Particular_Visual531 · 2022-09-16T16:51:31+00:00

Most of the guys are saying "no way! don't even ask!" I say go for it. Its exactly what this subreddit is about. So what if she says no, then you'll know and can get on with your life. Ask her out for something completely the opposite of a strip club, "hey would you like to go on a hike with me to this beautiful waterfall where we can see these really amazing butterflies?" She'll be totally caught off guard. Try it, be brave, do what you want. Learn to live your life like this and you'll have more fun and have a lot more success. Most likely she will say no, guess what? Most of your interactions with other humans will end in a "no" at some point. Who cares, be nice, always be a gentlemen and leave the strip club with your dignity because you felt like it, you asked, and maybe you'll be researching cool waterfall hikes tomorrow! Best of luck!

zapadz · 2022-09-16T16:03:43+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGwQR_A2faA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LNFWmA2pmOk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uuptHm-kZWo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q4U348SzZ3w

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPCU03Dp8Zw

slash03 · 2022-09-16T17:45:26+00:00

Act normal, she gets bullshit every day she doesn’t need it from somebody she might date

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-09-16T18:39:55+00:00

do it, it's just another job like any other, waitress, bartender, stripper, accountant, architect, personal trainer, fuck it just ask

CoNoelC · 2022-09-16T19:04:19+00:00

I’ve done it. Went home with the shooter girl, but I already knew her from HS so it was kinda cheating. Best ass ever. She was called bubble butt in school before bubble buts were cool.

Superb-End6273 · 2022-09-16T20:24:06+00:00

Listen... the game is the same everywhere so I don't understand why people overcomplicate it to this extent.

Go greet the fucking waitress and trust that you’ll come up with a decent fucking conversation because all this asking about how do I talk to this strip club waitress or whoever the fuck it is are just some more excuses. Truth is, your not really afraid of the literal action of talking to this girl your just afraid because of the build up and the longer you wait the worse it gets.

Me personally, if a woman hasn't earned my attention(which you are 100% giving to her) then she won't fucking get any extra amounts of it and I'll make sure of that by approaching right when I see her so that I don't waste my fucking attention. Because I'm the prize and the prize doesn't have time to ponder about whether or not I should approach this girl nor does the prize have time to regret not approaching her.

edjohn88 · 2022-09-16T20:29:52+00:00

You can’t just add an edit after the fact and pretend you aren’t talking about a strip club.

Regardless, you can certainly pull on these scenarios but it’s a pro level game. If you’re a master of cocky funny confident and dominance in appearance and behavior you just have to marry that up with zero neediness, and ideally don’t spend a dime on them or you’ll erode your own progress.

2022-09-16T20:42:46+00:00

This advice will serve you for the rest of your life if you apply it. To get a girl's number no matter where you are. This includes strip club, bar, starbucks, mcdonald's, the gas station, School... This is all you got to say.

"Hey I think you're cute and I wanted to ask you for your phone number."

Or if you're already speaking with her(not cold approaching), look her in her eyes and say

"You know, you're really cute! We should hang out sometime."

BONUS POINTS: If you approach a woman to ask for her # when she's in a crowd or with friends and people will hear you but you grab your nutsack(not literally) and give zero fucks and ask anyways... You will essentially be putting her(and yourself) on the spot. The key is to not seem too nervous. If you feel confident so will she, if you feel nervous so will she.

Title	getting the number..
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Upvotes	46
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Date	September 16, 2022 3:12 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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