Got Rejected Today

ImmediateSeesaw1556 · 2025-11-05T18:04:49+00:00

Well done, welcome to the club.

Aiud2000 · 2025-11-05T18:13:54+00:00

if shes has a bf how do u expect her to say yes to your advances ? u gotta realise more women have bf's than guys have gf's, secondly before you try to talk to a girl dont ask her out, talk to her first and see where shes coming from, get to know her a bit and assess if she is taken or not, talk to women without intent until theres a sign that it can go further than just talking

AlastairXXL · 2025-11-05T18:19:44+00:00

Not need to be embarrassed if you see her again, need to ask lots of girls out before you get laid

CuriousSloth92 · 2025-11-05T18:40:46+00:00

I don’t think you should feel anything negative. She has a boyfriend. There was literally no other way this could go. She didn’t reject you because of you, she rejected you because she is taken. And it sounds like she did it pretty respectfully.

Remarkable_Outside67 · 2025-11-05T18:52:19+00:00

Yo bro, don’t trip. The first few times you get rejected, it hits hard — we all tend to overreact — but that’s just the beginning. For me, back when I was your age (27), that kind of stuff actually pushed me to talk to more women. By 28, I’d gone out with like 30 different girls.

Now, you just gotta flip your perspective. We usually focus on the bad, but in your case, you actually learned how it feels to be in an uncomfortable spot — something you’d never really get just sitting there doing nothing. All that’s left is to work on that discomfort until it barely even bothers you.

Take care, bro.

becomesharp · 2025-11-05T19:33:52+00:00

Good job man! You just did something that the vast majority of men cant do. Be proud of yourself for that.

And remember that past events do NOT predict future outcomes unless you stay the same. If you are improving, the past is a poor predictor. ("i couldnt lift 200 lbs last year so that means i cant lift 200 lbs this year even though ive been getting stronger every month for the last 12 months")

Dandys3107 · 2025-11-05T19:45:08+00:00

You are meant to fail on your first time. Your body language is not prepared, you barely have any game at your disposal, you can't handle emotions properly, you are not paying attention to important things, you don't exert proper impression. And foremost, you probably didn't wear your best clothes, best smile, best hairstyle. There is a lot for you to improve on to keep increasing your chances from almost zero. Sounds tough, but you have plenty of time to make smalls steps, just don't think it will happen on its own, you need to take your prize by yourself.

Murfdigidy · 2025-11-05T20:40:45+00:00

The moment you take rejection as a 2 people living, not being compatible, for the sake of what could be a million different reasons. The moment you realize rejection, many times, has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Morty7654345 · 2025-11-05T21:16:04+00:00

You're not always going to be alone and if u keep doing it even if it feels very unnatural at first u will have days where u are proud of yourself. Ur going to soon see approach anxiety is only the first hurdle in this process but don't get discouraged, there is no better way. Godspeed brother and congrats!

Outside_Bowler8148 · 2025-11-05T21:24:20+00:00

You will not remember this moment a year from now

fluxginshanks · 2025-11-06T00:54:12+00:00

Kudos buddy; you made the first step and you’re not alone; repetition makes for improvement so approach another girl keep doing it until you succeed; you’re already showing more confidence than 60% if dudes… keep it up

Gregory6199 · 2025-11-06T01:54:05+00:00

Brother I've been shot down 13 times my life . It doesn't feel good but being in quiet peace helps you rest easy on yourself. Don't fret.

jacobyllamar · 2025-11-06T02:53:19+00:00

To move past your feelings: you don't. You have to come to peace with the chance of failure, if that's how you see this. Really, it's more experience for next time. Definitely shoot your shot, if you get another opportunity with someone who sparks for ya, bud. And, if not, love yourself anyways. You're pretty awesome for trying. Just don't push too hard either. Consistency, not persistency.

OpinionThink481 · 2025-11-05T19:48:03+00:00

you are the one that’s creating a bigger issue than it should be. You seem to think that the woman turning you down has to make some huge deal out of it but actually you are the one doing it.

When someone rejects a chewing gum you offer them you don’t make it a big deal, but when she rejects you you somehow make it a huge pivotal moment that’s gonna change your life in that place but actually it’s you who wants it to be a pivotal moment.

It’s you who wants a huge consequence, it might not seem like you do, but your behavior is showing that you want it to be melodramatic huge overwhelming, all fue to your insecurity.

I have been rejected by girls in class and there was no awkward vibe or anything because i just kept behaving like my normal self. I didn’t act in a different way or acted ashamed of myself or anything.

I behaved the exact same way as before the rejection of ben happened, so it was easy for the girls to brush it off and for me to brush it off without any social repercussions.

So it’s you who is acting like secretly you hope the girl will look at you in a weird way, you ar whipping she gets herself uncomfortable you hope for a permanent consequence, even a negative one and because you look for it then you will get it simply because you are attracting it by being so focused on it.

You are gonna look at her and instead of acting like usual, you are gonna act looking for signs that she is uncomfortable, signs that she avoids you, so you are no longer treating her the same, now you are basically projecting please hate me for asking you out please give me proof that i’m an idiot and shouldn’t have done it.

And that vibe is what’s gonna cause the awkwardness that you fear might happen, because you simply are not mature enough to understand the concept of being professional, and not acting weird.

Things will only get weird if you act weird, and you will act weird because you are immature due. So grow up

thai-rhone · 2025-11-05T18:28:44+00:00

Welcome brother. Glad I went through that earlier in life but still, welcome

No_Professor1089 · 2025-11-05T20:06:28+00:00

One of the first few! You'll laugh at this a few months from now

Healthy-Falcon1737 · 2025-11-05T22:09:44+00:00

Always ask if they have a relationship first

LawyerPhotographer · 2025-11-06T00:21:46+00:00

Ten years from now what you will regret is not that you got rejected by this girl, but that you did not get rejected by way more girls. You miss 100% of the shots you do not take. Take more shots.

Guy 1 asks out 5 women, 4 shoot him down and 1 says yes. Guy 2 asks out zero women. Who would you rather be?

Think of yourself like an ice cream flavor. You are hopefully not vanilla. Perhaps you are mint cookies and cream.. Some folks like mint, some don't. You are not for everyone. Perhaps the girl who said no prefers butter pecan. Work on being the best Oreo Mint you can be and learning to read which women are not into Oreo Mint. Do not take any rejection as an inference as to your worth.

TheBenevolentEvil · 2025-11-06T00:51:39+00:00

Its supposed to feel ego-crushing, thats why women rarely initiate, the fear of rejection lol

double-fall-damage · 2025-11-06T01:12:11+00:00

Dude its a right of passage. I asked a girl out when i was like 20. Got rejected.

Great-Midnight2801 · 2025-11-06T04:47:10+00:00

Eventually you’re going to have to accept that if you want success with women you gotta learn to brush off rejection. always be able to remember that for every girl that rejects you there’s another waiting to meet you, it’s just a matter of upping your attempt #’s & don’t put your eggs in one basket

Temporary_Local5789 · 2025-11-06T05:04:40+00:00

Win win brother

friday126 · 2025-11-06T05:08:30+00:00

The approaches and rejection can not only get A LOT easier- but can get to the point you don't care. YOUR biggest hurdle- you thinkin' be stinkin'. You have a little self doubt creep in and you let your mind run with it. It's too common with most people these days- we let our feelings own us instead of acknowledging "it's just a feeling" and letting it go or giving yourself some encouragement instead. Read "Litany against Fear" in the first Dune book (just google it). And realize ALL of our negative emotions come from fear.

readonlyuser · 2025-11-06T06:20:40+00:00

Now get rejected tomorrow.

StepGeneral3597 · 2025-11-06T15:42:00+00:00

Ooo yea I don’t do direct approaches on girls I’ll see again (last day of class if anything). It’s fine though, time will heal, even faster if you get rejected more. Good job though, reward yourself!

zodeman · 2025-11-07T16:12:00+00:00

Its better to get rehected than getting stuck 👍🏻

Title	Got Rejected Today
Author	DudeThatPlaysTheDude
Upvotes	24
Comments	37
Date	November 5, 2025 5:48 PM UTC (8 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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