Guys That Get Women Over For First Date

Loud_Menu_7237 · 2026-06-07T21:15:06+00:00

It's about how fast a girl is ready to move. Just a type of girl. If you keep searching you will be finding such every now and then. Just date as normal, be ready to escalate fast, and make it your criteria - sort out women who are not ready for it on the 1st date.

Realwoujo · 2026-06-07T22:44:53+00:00

There are no magic tricks to get a girl to come to your house on a first date. She just wants to fuck you, and that happens if she is having a good time, she is attracted to you, you make her comfortable, etc.

Also, you shouldn't be trying to fuck girls on a first date. You should just focus on having fun and let the girl push the action. If she wants to fuck you, great. If she just wants to make out, great. If she doesn't want to do anything, great. If a girl feels like you are trying to get her back to your place, she will feel pressured and want to run away.

hunterpua · 2026-06-09T15:25:40+00:00

There's no magic words. The words are hardly important.

What matters the most in my experience is a degree of planning and handling logistics.

People think that if they aren't living close to the lifestyle center of a city they're at a disadvantage.

In reality, if where you live isn't convenient for pulling, you can plan around it.

When I was a broke college kid who lived in an apartment with a very conservative landlady, I arranged dates so they would always go through certain hotels that I knew had pristine, spacious, handicap toilets in the lobby that were away from foot traffic.

I also identified certain spots nearby that were more secluded so I could do earlier escalation steps there so she's pretty warmed up by the time we get to one of those hotel lobbies.

When I lived farther away from most date spots, I simply planned dates that went through multiple locations that gradually moved us closer to my place.

Often times I just needed 2 spots. One where we'd initially have our date and the spot we move to that's closer to my place.

If I'm picking her up and the fastest way to our date spot goes through my place, I make sure we drop by my place real quick, just so she would have the memory of being there with nothing uncomfortable happening so she's more comfortable coming back later in the evening.

That was the situation with my girlfriend. I deliberately went and got groceries right before I picked her up so we dropped them off at my place before starting our date.

At the end of the evening, she was so comfortable she just barged in like she owned the place.

I can't tell you exactly what to do about your logistics because they might not be the same as mine but hopefully these examples will give you a good idea of what you can do.

As a bonus, I always had a specific playlist for dates that ran in my car and back at my place.

I never put it on shuffle. It was always in order from more upbeat music, to slower more suggestive music like Ariana Grande's Dangerous Woman, until it got all the way to vulgar, sexual music like Chris Brown's Wet the Bed.

I got so good at timing it that the overtly sexual songs would always hit when she's already in my bedroom.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-06-08T08:29:36+00:00

"Wanna see where I live?"

I use this line all the time. Timing: When leaving a venue during the first date.

TBearYCF · 2026-06-07T20:09:48+00:00

The deal needs to be almost sealed before the first date. That’s the way first date fucks happen.

Met a woman on Tinder and we texted for a couple days. She loved hiking so I made a first date for a hike on an open trail. Different for me because I usually do drinks or dinner. On the hike we got talking about exes and sexes, and it was clear that given our prior chats and how we were having fun, she was coming back to my place.

After the hike, she did. Had some awesome sex and met up again two or three times after for great fuck sessions.

Sorry-Place6291 · 2026-06-07T20:57:27+00:00

If you’re having a good time then you don’t want to stop hanging out. That’s all there is to it really.

dismalprognosis · 2026-06-08T13:58:23+00:00

I usually go to a bar near me, have a nice date there, then say I have a bottle of wine back at mine and ask if they want to join. Usually they say yes and a lot of the time they want to bang

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-06-07T20:08:06+00:00

In my case lots or comfort and investment before having a first date that ends at my place. Painting pictures in her head on how I'll dominate her mixed with compliments and describing why I genuinely like her as a person. Once you set the first date, then ideally you want a lot of venue changes to build as much comfort as possible in person. There needs to be an innocent enough reason to get to your flat. I use dancing and theater exercises or me needing to leave my bag. Once we dance, it's easy to escalate.

autodidacticasaurus · 2026-06-07T21:56:06+00:00

I can't remember many dates that haven't come to my place for the first date since I was a kid and I'm pretty old. I think there was one recently because she literally couldn't leave her home for logistical reasons. Some others I guess because we already lived together or it was just convenient.

I think your approach here is a bit wrong. You're looking for strategies and tactics, like what to say. It's not about that. It's about first of all being a cool and safe guy for real and then genuinely building comfort and connection with the girl before you meet up. Ask yourself, can she really trust you? If you're sure, she'll be sure. You shouldn't need to convince her. It should be obvious.

How? You just get to know each other and you both develop genuine interest in each other while flirting the entire time. Eventually there comes a point where you're both completely comfortable with each other and you both already know you won't be able to keep your hands off each other.

Of course, there will be girls who will come over the first day no matter what, but for a lot of these that I'm talking about it took about a week, and for a handful who were further away (some have even come from other countries) like a month or so.

Just be honest about what you want. Let me ask you something though. Why does it matter?

DrBarackPendergrass · 2026-06-09T17:00:27+00:00

VIBE/INVITE IN > dither/ask out

(NOTE: This is *Before* any “dates.”)

ConsistentPomelo3303 · 2026-06-09T17:17:45+00:00

There is a formula that I use. It’s fairly simple. This requires putting something interesting in your apartment that you can mention or “trickle” in throughout the date. This could be anything interesting. Here are some of the things I’ve used. At one point I had a huge fragrance collection. I would trickle that in throughout the date. I would say like “yea I have a lot of fragrances I’m a collector.” Girls love fragrances. Then I would get a fragrance topic going for a while. Then I would do future projection (yea like if you ever came over, it would take you an hour just to try my fragrances). Then later when I wanted to bring her back, I would say “let’s go back to my spot I want to show you my fragrance collection that I was talking about, but nothing too late because I’ve got to get up early.” Another time I used to have ancient artifacts (like ancient coins from Rome or Egypt). I would trickle that in to the conversation and repeat the formula I described above.

epimpstyle · 2026-06-07T21:14:42+00:00

Before a date, you talk to her about what she likes. Does she like cake? Perfect, "let's meet to eat a cake".

To take her home there always needs to be an innocent reason, and it also needs to be something quick (it takes 5 minutes).

- Is it during the day? Then I go home to change my T-shirt/sneakers, or I forgot my ID or card at home... When this happens, things only escalate if she gives a sign, otherwise, leave it. Once, I told her I was going to wash my hands, but when I came back into the room, she was on all fours, telling me she dropped her ring under the table... Another time, she also said she wanted to wash her hands, but then she told me she had splashed water on her pants... when something like that happens, you don't need any more explanations of what to do.

- Is it during the evening/night? You tell her to come over to your place for a good wine, liquor, coffee, or tea, or even to eat some pizza (you need to have it in your fridge)... however, if she accepts this invitation, it is clear something more will happen, she knows this very well... But if for some reason she is closed off you don't push things forward (tell her that you have to wake up early tomorrow and help her with an Uber or a taxi) - now it is what it is, but next time it will be 100% better.

Elegant-Wolf-12 · 2026-06-08T20:12:04+00:00

If you're asking that question, you're deep in a well of some kind of isolation and ideology.

Start by getting outside, meeting people, feeling into your body, dropping all the opinions you have about women and relationships that you can't directly confirm from experience, and starting to explore experience like a scientist.

Do that for a year or two, and then come back here and tell the rest of us how to do it.

And yes, I absolutely have had women take me straight from meeting them to fucking, or from a first date to fucking. It's not something worth aiming for, if you asked me. But you'll learn a lot along the way to achieving your aim.

Key-Watercress2283 · 2026-06-08T23:13:52+00:00

Take out girls that have high interest. Keep it simple, move around a bit, talk bout whatever just listen to her and escalate accordingly. Make up some dumb excuse to bring it back home

ethicalhooping · 2026-06-08T02:31:39+00:00

What are you trying to achieve by getting her to come over? You could get head in your car or hers, fuck in a bathroom, anywhere that's private really. What do you want?

NuncaContent · 2026-06-07T22:44:46+00:00

I mention the possibility of her spending the night at my place as soon as we lock down the logistics for our first date.

I caveat it and couch to allow enough wiggle room by saying assuming we jive well and both feel the requisite sexual chemistry.

Being upfront and direct works a lot better for me.

Nabs22 · 2026-06-08T23:24:05+00:00

I just had a girl come back to my place yesterday.

I litterally just said wanna come back to my place and drive my racing sim.

We were just having alotnof fun and she was horned up and laughing alot so it was an easy pull. Lots of chemistry.

It's like when you have a male friend and you guys are just having alotnof fun. Just mix in some romance and sexual tension and it's hard to go wrong at that point

CryptoniQ123 · 2026-06-08T23:25:09+00:00

It’s more about positioning yourself in the right place at the right time. Good logistics and then playing defense. If you can play her buttons right and she’s already in the mood beforehand, then you just have to not screw it up

Independent-Bad218 · 2026-06-07T20:10:54+00:00

Here is a guide for it. Your main mistake is that thinking it is some kind of magic. It usually is about the girl being open to you and her being swept by the emotions of the date.

Similarly to how a movie is a collection of different scenes lasting a few minutes each, but the collective feel each scene gives is much larger. You feel like you “know” characters just from 1 or 2 scenes.

So fast escalation is about:

Showing value
Escalating
Making it seem like a flow due to emotional variation and spikes.

Escalation itself is not magical either. The human body naturally seeks connection when the emotions predispose it. If it was beyond human nature, we wouldnt be able to do it.

IllllIlllIllllIlll · 2026-06-07T21:51:09+00:00

Talk a lot, talk highly about yourself, game her, and pull the trigger.

Lots of men don’t pull the trigger. By that I mean saying the thing along the lines of “let’s get out of here”, in other words lots of men don’t try for the pull.

Title	Guys That Get Women Over For First Date
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Date	June 7, 2026 7:59 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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