How do I pick up girls

MotiMorphosys · 2021-11-21T21:19:56+00:00

There used to be a great video on this but I can't find it.

If you've never done pick up before, you're going to psych yourself out trying to get laid by approaching a girl. You need to break it down.

This is a great blueprint for day game. Understand that it takes a lot of work to get few results, so don't feel like shit each time you get a "no". It's just part of the game.

You can give yourself wins by making it super easy for yourself by breaking it down into steps.

Step one: Say hi. That's your only goal is to say hi. Walk up to a girl and say hi. You can continue the conversation if you want, but as long as you walk up to a girl and say hi, you completed step one. Try it three times.

Don't move on to step two until you've done step one three times with three different girls

Congratulations, you completed step one. Give yourself a pat on the back.

Step two: Compliment the girl. "Hi. I noticed you over there (point to a location, it will make her head move so she's following your lead now), and I just wanted to say you have [pretty hair, Nice eyes, cute dress, whatever]." That's it. Nothing more. Do that three times to three different girls.

Step 3: assumption. "I bet you're from [town / city / country]" this is way better than asking her where she's from, as that's boring and standard pickup. If you assume she's from somewhere, she will be very intrigued as to why you assumed that and it's a much bigger conversation starter, even if you're wrong. If you're right, then you're like a psychic so she's even more intrigued.

Do that three times.

Step 4: playful imagination. Once you've figured out where she's from, paint a positive scene of her and her natural environment. Even if she's from the town that you're in. "Oh, you're from Paris! I can see you in a dress along the river eating a macaron" or something silly like that. It will probably make her laugh. Try that three times and see if you can get the girl to laugh at least once. Use your imagination and creativity.

Step 5: get her number. You need a reason to ask for her number. The easiest reason is that you're in a hurry. "I'd love to talk a little bit longer, but I have to get to [x]. Maybe we could get coffee sometime?" If you try it three times, you might get one phone number. If she says she has a boyfriend or something, smile and just say something like "it was nice to talk to you".

There's also a good chance that if she gives you her number, and degrees to get coffee with you, she will cancel. That's just the game. You have to try a lot in order to get a few results. It's fun though I promise 😏

iambabyshark · 2021-11-21T22:10:45+00:00

Just do it. Can you remember the first thing a friend of yours said to you when you met? Exactly. It's not important, what is important is that you have someone new in your life. I'll give you a scenario. You're at a bar when you notice a girl staring at you. When girls do this (especially if they keep doing it) they want you to approach. Take confidence in that. As soon as she does that, walk over. Avoid doing it head-on or being confrontational, just get close enough so she can hear you. Position your body away from her, but your head towards her (this gives the impression that you're just about to go). Then say "I need a female opinion, my buddy's been dumped by his girlfriend and he's convinced he can win her back. Is that something that happens?" (this is something a friend of mine is going through right now so I've been using it as an opener). She'll probably say to give her some space and you'll agree and say you told him the same thing. Once she's talking back, move your body towards her too. And that's it. You've gone from a total stranger to having an interesting conversation. From here you keep talking and subtly show her the best aspects of yourself, like that time you mentored your coworker or that time you and your friends got lost in the woods and you had to guide them out. She'll ask for your name, play with her hair, try to touch you, ask about your life, etc. Girls do this when a guy interests them. Once you get enough, ask her what she has going on. You're basically asking her why you should be attracted to her, and it puts you in the "prize" position where she has to win you over. After this, talk a bit more then excuse yourself. Say you had a lot of fun talking to her and you'd like to continue the conversation sometime. She'll likely give you her number, and if not you'll ask for hers. Make a bit more smalltalk then leave. That's how you pickup.

5_7pickup · 2021-11-21T21:45:37+00:00

Refer to my field reports. I do solo nightclub game

CompetitionFair7686 · 2021-11-21T23:46:51+00:00

You need to start with why.

Why do you want to get laid with an specific woman ? Why her specifically and not others who are just like her? What makes her special for you to wanna get laid with her?

The goal of your conversation should be to find out if you two have basic chemistry together. To see if you can banter well between each other, to see if you can roast each other playfully, and just have fun together before you get laid.

So it’s not really about saying you look pretty and kissing her ass, it’s about finding out whether you two can have fun with each other being playful.

brokenhbutnotbroken · 2021-11-22T02:38:33+00:00

Always lift with your legs.

bojackhhorseman · 2021-11-22T01:02:02+00:00

Talk to women with confidence. You get a good job if you fill out the application for a good job with a resume. You get girls if you talk to girls, don’t act weird, and make them comfortable to be around you. You can talk to women about anything (not religion, politics, or sex just yet). You don’t have to have completely compatible interests to her but talk about whatever you’re interested in (for me, it’s google sheets and population density maps) if she’s into you she’ll laugh, smile, and pay attention to what you’re talking about and she’ll maybe even add her own input to the conversation. If it’s obvious she’s not into you or tells you she’s taken then don’t sweat it, move on. Talk to women IN THE MOMENT and without an ulterior agenda in mind. Don’t even think about women or getting laid when you go up and talk to women in bars or in stores.

You got this.

Admirable_One6045 · 2021-11-21T22:53:50+00:00

There’s one answer….. confidence

spice_u · 2021-11-22T02:34:25+00:00

Try to pick up guys. If you can impress random guys in a conversation, females shouldn’t be an issue.

Palaciolujan97 · 2021-11-22T02:38:18+00:00

I bring to you the golden nugget:

https://youtu.be/6DEGfopquio

It is a three part series, and they are a long and in depth guide. Enjoy and learn.

3SidedDie · 2021-11-22T02:40:07+00:00

Just locate the handle, its usually in the back. Makes it way easier to pick 'em up.

ChurchofCaboose1 · 2021-11-22T04:09:45+00:00

My number one advice is to act like you don't care. Which is tricky to do when you ask someone out. It here's what I do and so far, it seems to work really well.

I like to ask girls to a date that I tell em is a meet and greet. The idea is to go out and do something fun like bowling and the expectation is nothing beyond the one date. I've been having more of the girls I go out with trying to sell me on them and their personality than girls not doing that. So the conversation goes something like this.

Me: I tell them some pun or a joke to get laugh. Me: anyways I like you smile (insert something you genuinely like about her). Would you wanna go on a meet and greet date?

Her: what's that?

Me: basically, I like meeting new people and experiencing different personalities so I like to go on lots of dates I call meet and greet. My expectation is that we won't have a second date. Not that we couldn't, I just don't plan on it.

Her: ok sounds fun.

I've been finding at this point it isn't uncommon for her to start selling me on herself and I've gotten things I haven't asked for as well. This seems to work better with marches on dating apps as far as the selling herself to me on why she's a catch goes. But in person I've only gotten yes as an answer. Idk, give it a shot. Worst case they say no and maybe there's something else to what I'm experiencing.

AelfredRex · 2021-11-22T13:55:33+00:00

You don't "make" anyone interested in you. They either are or they are not. There are no magic words to say that will change that. You just go in, look around, see who's looking at you. If they are interested, they will let you know. If they are not, they will ignore you. Say Hi to the ones that show interest and see where it goes, with no expectations.

Flexions · 2021-11-22T00:20:27+00:00

Lmaoooo people here are talking about writing scripts. Wtf

kykyshmidt · 2021-11-22T10:57:31+00:00

Be attractive and goodlooking a d just say hi what's your name

mandoa_sky · 2021-11-22T01:15:13+00:00

the same way you make a new friend of any gender.

burncushlikewood · 2021-11-22T03:16:50+00:00

Kind of a generic question, hard to answer but I'll give it a try. So first thing is you have to approach and not get anxiety, don't open direct, I usually like indirect openers, compliment her on something she can control, like her hair, or her clothes or her shoes, or you could just say hello it doesn't matter. There are 3 phases of game according to mystery method, first is attraction, during this phase you want to demonstrate high value, where some nice clothes, talk confidently ask her questions and convey to her that youre and alpha/ attractive male. Now what attracts women, looks, alpha male qualities wealth, status, confidence. Now onto the next part which is comfort, the best way to build comfort is to give her space, and get to know her by asking questions about her life and personality, dance with her, then back away leave her alone, talk in the club and go away and talk to other girls, flirt with them then she'll notice you with someone else which is demonstrating preselection which will generate more attraction. Now these two phases should take about 2 -5 hours, sometimes quicker or longer it depends then onto the final and easiest stage the seduction phase, you grab her around the small of her back, play with her hair, then go in for the kiss, when you kiss stop and pull away, she'll either chase you for the kiss or she wont then go back in and push pull, this will prevent lmr (last minute resistance)

jankybusinessman · 2021-11-22T03:23:03+00:00

Talk to them like an old buddy, point out environmental things and be the person you wouldn’t mind chatting with. Add in some charisma to power through dead spots also don’t be afraid to steer convo. I had mentors in college that hammered in a lot of this stuff, hopefully you have real world older guys with game that can show you some things.

intensely_human · 2021-11-22T05:56:19+00:00

Start with “Hi”.

Go say “Hi” to 20 attractive women, then come back here and report your results.

rudebwoy100 · 2021-11-21T23:25:45+00:00

Write down a script, keep it short and simple and play the numbers game.

You: Hi, my name is John, i think you're pretty and i would love to get to know you better. Are you single?

Her: I have a boyfriend.

You: Well it was nice meeting you, have a nice day.

or

Her: Yes, i'm single.

You: Awesome!! put your # in my phone so we can talk more & if we're compatible we can go out sometime.

Sticking to a script is optimal for socially awkward guys, you can deviate once you're more comfortable around women in general.

Jamesdoink · 2021-11-21T22:39:16+00:00

Tell them I've got candy little girl 😁😜😂

IlikeFOODmeLikeFOOD · 2021-11-22T03:32:49+00:00

First, you grab them. Then you lift them off the ground. That's how you pick up girls

Simsters · 2021-11-22T04:26:48+00:00

This video is pretty helpful https://youtu.be/2bQjfTHlwzU

2021-11-22T04:35:15+00:00

With your hands

rahhumilovedogs · 2021-11-22T06:28:09+00:00

Don't approach a girl at a grocery store. My x used to wear headphones(shes pretty hot) because dudes would try to talk to her. Ive said in other post I get hit on as a guy being in places im trying to chill at. The bar is where you can. Just say whatsup. Talk to them normally. Dont be pretend. Be interested. It's fairly easy. Just be like heyy hii whatsup. If you are really interested in knowing them they can usually tell.

MK2718 · 2021-11-22T09:07:20+00:00

How to start conversations with strangers.

Kintouer · 2021-11-22T11:12:48+00:00

Psst psst psst, here little kitty!

kurapikachu020 · 2021-11-22T13:21:31+00:00

Do you have any female friends ? It's easier to get to know women if you're already friends with one first.

Zicronblade0 · 2021-11-22T15:25:00+00:00

Uh well it’s like you interact with any human. You say hi, ask some basic questions, make some jokes and see if you can even stand to be around them. Then if everyone is passing basic do I like you tests you exchange insta or snap or numbers and try to associate more lol. As for getting laid if there is a spark you push and sometimes you might get laid that night or you might make a friend OR you might have met your wife.

ASIMILAK · 2021-11-23T05:28:10+00:00

Talk to people you genuinely are interested in and care to get to know better. Find out if that chick you are attracted to has an attractive personality as well

CenaSmackDown · 2021-11-23T08:19:33+00:00

Yeah if you don't have any game it's a very long and tedious process, and she could and many times will back out before lay anyways screwing up all the time and effort you put into seducing her which is why you should try juggling 2-3 women at once as a bare minimum.

Title	How do I pick up girls
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Date	November 21, 2021 9:07 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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