How exactly does one go about approaching girls in a loud party setting?

MaverickJC · 2011-10-31T00:13:57+00:00

Accidentally bump into her, apologize, completely invade her personal space, so apologize into her ear....(hand on elbow or lower back) Conversation ensues...keep switching from ear to ear, her lips will follow yours (kino escalating) 50-50 success rate in terms of closing...guaranteed conversation at least :)

Horatio__Caine · 2011-10-31T00:02:41+00:00

Body language is everything when someone can't hear you. You have to go full gorilla in louder settings. That means more physical contact quicker.

You can definitely use loudness to your advantage, though, because this means you can lean in closer when you talk to them. You should use short, economical sentences. Don't use sentences over seven or eight words.

A nice move when it's very loud is to put your hand on one of their shoulders and lean in to tell them something in their other ear. It builds rapport like crazy (conspiratorial game - where you make her feel like she's in on a secret between the two of you - is very undervalued in the community IMO), and it lets you move the physical boundaries.

criticalhit · 2011-10-30T23:29:59+00:00

Make eye contact, point at her, motion her over to you

crazyfiction · 2011-10-31T01:50:57+00:00

I'd always puzzled over this, and I think it very much depends on your style, comfort level, frame etc etc. The best article I've found about it is this.

hollowgram · 2011-10-31T09:25:10+00:00

Parties, especially clubs, are like an alternate reality, you can get away with murder. Have fun, be experimental. Lots of good advice here, and the best thing is you can easily move from set to set as you try new angles.

Jaymaster1 · 2011-10-31T02:35:08+00:00

I just yell in her ear and smile

Agile_Cyborg · 2011-10-31T00:19:34+00:00

Christ, how this not be known?

jack_sreason · 2011-10-31T00:12:47+00:00

Try being "funny" with your body. "Loud" dance moves and the like. Be careful that you don't over do it tho. You don't want to look drunk, just let people know that you're there to have a good time.

notlurkinganymoar · 2011-10-30T23:29:50+00:00

It's certainly difficult and requires strong physical game. Best option is to go in, try to get her to laugh, ramp up kino, then bounce her somewhere quieter (like outside to smoke).

Mysteri0n · 2011-10-31T00:02:13+00:00

Strip fully nude and let them approach you

xx6xx12 · 2011-10-31T02:11:54+00:00

Dance! (if there's music, ..........also if there's not music) if you cant dhv with words then you must dhv with actions, make sure everyone can tell that you're having an amazing time and the women will come to you.

also on a related note, the dance floor is NOT a trap

crustinXbeiber · 2011-10-31T03:44:58+00:00

Drink more, and find a girl who's keeping up with you.

tehichigo · 2011-10-31T00:10:20+00:00

It's not hard at all. Eye contact, physical game, physical humor if you think that humor is your best asset.

sparklyteenvampire · 2011-10-31T02:35:30+00:00

Could just do what several guys did to me last night by telling girls you want to roll them a joint and touch their hair.

It was probably the Halloween wig, but it got my attention every time. lol

Paramorgue · 2011-10-31T16:31:55+00:00

Don't go there is my first advice. But if you have to learn how to get a girls attention fast then work her off the floor as fast as possible to where you can relax and just be you. Location is extremley important and unless you can put yourself in a situation where they go to you. One tip is to become a pro at moving them to your homefield.

contextsdontmatter · 2011-10-31T21:09:59+00:00

SPEAK LOUDER

2011-10-31T05:33:16+00:00

Alright, mostly everyone here is doing it wrong.

See, the thing with loud parties is that it's somehow OK to get ridiculously close to the girl physically and she'll be perfectly fine with it. That is, it is socially acceptable to get the fuck in there (like, way the fuck in there) and start doing your business.

In loud environments, the best weapon you have is your eye contact. tap tap and then then go in. The girl will judge you on your eye contact, not what you have to say. She's at the party as well. She's aware of how loud it is. That's unimportant. She's looking for subtle cues to see if you're a pussy. Breaking eye contact is not something you wanna be doing.

Go in
Start talking (what you say is irrelevant, get physical quick, which for you means solid eye contact)
Close the distance
?????
you pulling ass

DiscreteOpinion · 2011-10-31T06:30:24+00:00

For me, it's all about the eye contact and the well timed smile.

Ergydion · 2011-10-31T00:18:01+00:00

That Sir, is a good question and have no answer

WolfInTheField · 2011-10-31T00:26:19+00:00

I hate to be this guy, but there's a really simple answer.

By being a boss.

Title	How exactly does one go about approaching girls in a loud party setting?
Author	EvanYork
Upvotes	108
Comments	53
Date	October 30, 2011 10:55 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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