How often do you give physical compliments?

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-01-10T10:33:43+00:00

I think physical compliments are nice and neccessary when trying to make someone feel desired. When the person you are with feels desired by you they will 100% do whatever to please you so it's a win win.

Dodechaedron · 2021-01-10T11:17:17+00:00

Could be double edged; the counterpart might feel valued only for their body parts and that can be a put off, especially if the girl is quite attractive and she knows it. The fact that you love her eyes, smile or what's below is a given and cheap to them. These girls prefer to be appreciated for their intelligence and wit.

bby_v · 2021-01-10T14:47:46+00:00

To me, it depends on how close I’m getting to the person. If I feel like things are going well then I’ll start to feel more comfortable to give physical compliments. Or if they do it first, I’ll usually reciprocate. So honestly just do it whenever it feels right to you!

kanyesbathroommirror · 2021-01-10T17:51:11+00:00

Everybody likes to feel recognized for their hard work and trust me, getting ready for a date is work. Every date means I: exfoliate, paint my nails, shave, moisturize, do my hair, squeeze myself into cute underwear, coordinate an outfit, pluck my brows/chin/upper lip, and apply perfume and makeup.

So even a simple "You look nice" or "Hey cutie/beautiful" when we first see each other goes a long way.

Ensifror · 2021-01-10T19:03:23+00:00

When she is exceptionally attractive, above her baseline. For example, maybe she has a nice haircut that day, is wearing a dress/outfit I particularly like on her, or is doing something really hot in bed.

As with any compliment, they lose their value if they're overused. Telling her she is beautiful every day does not spike her emotions the same way it does if you tell her she's beautiful once per month. As with many things in relationships, the laws of supply and demand apply.

Generally this ends up being a couple physical compliments per month. But the number isn't that important as long as you don't over do it.

Approach compliments with a "less is more" attitude and I guarantee she'll put more effort into impressing you. In order to earn compliments. And through the act of trying to impress you, she will strengthen her emotions towards you. As you can't rationalize trying to impress someone you don't like.

Worst case scenario if you over compliment her? She begins to feel like you pedestalize her. Like you believe she is higher value than you, which will make her believe that too. And then she stops feeling like she needs to put in effort towards keeping you happy. It turns the relationship into a one sided shit show where she no longer actively pursues you.

The same applies to all displays of affection. Less is more and too much makes you seem less valuable.

meatloafnwaffles · 2021-01-10T23:24:36+00:00

I told a 50+ year old woman, at the gym, that she looks 30, and she’s been eye fucking me since. She called me her new best friend!

hadjidim · 2021-01-11T00:34:52+00:00

It depends on your level of familiarity with her. If you go on a date it’s very important to compliment her on her looks. And it doesn’t have to (shouldn’t be) sexual at first. Anything from her outfit to her nails cause she might just do it especially for your date so she wants you notice it looks nice. Your compliments should be a reflection of what YOU like on her and not what you think it’s her attractiveness overall and to the general male public. So you should avoid the ones you mentioned imo. Just look at her and tell her what you like on her. Any girl will appreciate this. Let me know if this makes sense man

rhajin1999 · 2021-01-11T06:26:53+00:00

Personally Id give compliments other than physical first:

"I love the way you put outfits together"

"Your hair looks amazing!"

"I like that style of make up"

Then as rapport builds you can gradually add physical comments. In my own experience if you jump to physical comments right away it comes off as sleazy. Opening up with the above statements is smart AND safe. Think about it. If its a first date and attraction is being built thru txt she prob spent ALOT of time putting all those parts of her together.

emazio · 2021-01-10T13:50:56+00:00

I don't make physical compliments often. Maybe only when a friend needs assurance or to make my gf feel sexy.

I don't care that much about this side of a person, I rather compliment people on doing nice things

KingRemu · 2021-01-10T13:39:11+00:00

To girls almost never but I compliment my guy friends. And as a bonus when you do that around girls it makes you seem confident as you're comfortable with yourself and don't see other guys as competition or a threat and you're the guy who makes other guys feel good and like being around you. And the girls will follow the good vibes.

NunyaBidnizz68 · 2021-01-10T16:27:20+00:00

Physical compliments is pretty much the only thing I know how to do... now if i could just figure out how to actually approach and talk to people...

2021-01-10T16:54:06+00:00

I give way to many. It blows up in my face due to poor delivery. I am getting better at timing and reading when. I will continue because I see it as an overall improvement for my approach

buttholebugs · 2021-01-10T19:53:11+00:00

Is that when you slap bitch’s ass?

Marilla1957 · 2021-01-10T20:22:07+00:00

When complimenting a stranger.....As long as they're polite, and not too suggestive, I see nothing wrong....

itsamatterofattitude · 2021-01-10T23:57:16+00:00

I usually compliment something she's wearing or maybe even her make-up; something non-personal or cliche.

"Wow. Those shoes are stunning!"

"Thats a really cool t-shirt."

"Your eye make-up is fire!"

If a woman has beautiful eyes, nice breasts, a great ass, or long legs... she knows. And shes been told a hundred time before.

Compliment the thing that stands out and catches her off guard.

ZacharyBoweryEdison · 2021-01-11T06:19:45+00:00

It’s all about how you do it. Example:

You’re stunningly pretty - but the fact that this beautiful vessel contains such a creative, intelligent and captivating mind is enough to drive a man wild...

daproest1 · 2021-01-10T19:19:59+00:00

To beautiful women? Never. Never ever. They hear it all the time. The words mean nothing. Maybe once she’s your gf. Even then, sparingly

kettlebell_workout · 2021-01-10T11:00:22+00:00

During sex and after sex onwards.

So_Icey1017 · 2021-01-10T17:10:03+00:00

Alot

detectiveduck97 · 2021-01-10T22:03:29+00:00

Honestly I hate physical compliments... they always feel canned and not sincere. I try to compliment more on results like “your smile is breathtaking” not just “I like your smile” because it feels more sincere and that’s what I like to receive. Also, the components about personality and things like that are more flattering to me.

boredalready456 · 2021-01-10T23:03:55+00:00

Both your examples of compliments you do give are creepy AF-I would shut down immediately and leave, joking or not.

meatloafnwaffles · 2021-01-10T23:23:27+00:00

I try to twice a day!!

MephistophelesYK · 2021-01-11T00:30:49+00:00

I usually only give them when reassuring a friend who feels insecure

Dickymore · 2021-01-11T00:46:38+00:00

I always compliment my coworkers

khallothbrook · 2021-01-12T21:08:59+00:00

good way to do it is in a form of a question, like, what do get complimented more, your pretty smile or bonnie eyes?

TravonM · 2021-01-13T02:18:48+00:00

I tend to give physical compliments when I’m alone with a girl or having sex with her. I give physical compliments as a reward for high levels of compliance.

Least1ngenuity · 2021-01-14T03:34:53+00:00

not unless its something theyre obviously showing off. example if a girl has exposed tatoos i might talk about them. Or if shes done makeup to show off her eyes ill mention that

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-01-15T02:51:06+00:00

It’s always a safe bet to complement something someone put effort into. Like if the woman you’re seeing seems to be interested in makeup mention you like the color eyeshadow she’s wearing that day. You could also get bonus points for asking her details about the makeup like price and application to get her talking about her interests. Not only will you show that you appreciate the effort she’s put into her appearance but you will show you are invested in learning about her interests.

weird_watercress · 2021-01-10T15:34:20+00:00

Only comliment them as you feel you naturally can. If it feels forced, don't do it.

Title	How often do you give physical compliments?
Author	FaithInStrangers94
Upvotes	72
Comments	54
Date	January 10, 2021 10:20 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/kuc2q0/how_often_do_you_give_physical_compliments/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/how-often-do-you-give-physical-compliments.1290778 https://theredarchive.com/post/1290778

Comments