How to avoid getting your ass beat?

sallywicked · 2011-12-16T03:51:43+00:00

I was at the bar one night and I went outside for a smoke. There was 3 dudes and one chick. I started chatting. The chick said she really wished she had some weed. I had some in my pocket so I smoked the group down. Somehow it comes out that I'm gay and the chick is all over me after that. It was awesome. Her boyfriend was cool with it at first. Fast forward an hour, him and his boy start making fun of me but it was all good because his girls ass was still literly in my hands. Fast forward another hour, girlfriend is still all over me and boyfriend snaps. I saw the signs of things going south and I should have stopped but it was gratifying to fuck with this guy since he was a douche plus I wasn't going to get anything going with any other ladies in the bar. Boyfriend gets right in my face and was like "Why don't we go outside, cunt." And I'm like "Why? So you can beat my ass? Why would I willingly go outside for an ass beating? You're like 3 times my size! Seriously, you have gorilla arms, bro." I said it all with a laugh and a grin. Girlfriend and his friends convinces him to leave. I don't think he was actually going to kick my ass. I'm pretty sure he only let her flirting go on for as long as it did because he wasn't sure what to do about me.

Tldr; be a lesbian.

puaCurveBall · 2011-12-15T23:58:29+00:00

This is a false limiting belief you have, I hit on PLENTY of guys girlfriends and never had any real threat of violence.

It takes a lot for people to get physical, and as long as you have confident body language and attitude, I really haven't come across anyone that wanted to kick my ass, even if I was just propositioning their girl.

There is nothing wrong with hitting on a girl in a bar, regardless if she is taken or not. It is harmless fun.

Making out with a guys GF on the other hand....

philosarapter · 2011-12-16T03:50:53+00:00

To be honest, the vast majority of guys do not know how to legitimately fight and most of the posturing that goes on is meant to scare you away. Its very rare that a fight actually occurs. That is unless you continue to hit on his girl even after he stakes his claim.

But its much rarer for things to get physical than you think. Most guys want to puff out their chest, act like an alpha male to mark their territory in order to scare you away.

If you are still concerned about it though, take some martial arts classes.

arkitip · 2011-12-16T01:39:29+00:00

If you are confronted by a girls boyfriend just laugh it off. Make it seem like it is not a big deal, and that he is overreacting and looks like a fool. Odds are he is overreacting and does look like a fool. Say sorry not because you actually are, say it because its "the right thing to do". Most of the time these guys are trying to give you a shit test. If you stand your ground they will respect that. If you act like a bitch they will take advantage of you. When guys ask me if I am hitting on their girlfriend I usually just yeah because I am. If they continue to be confrontational just look them in the eyes and say something like "are you fucking serious right now?". Usually the guy and girl are impressed that I stood up for my self . Occasionally ends up in an awkward stare down. Never a fight.
TLDR; It is my personal opinion that if you stand up for your self you are less likely to get in a fight. Confidence scares even the most confident.

ferveo · 2011-12-16T15:29:48+00:00

There is a lot of bad advice floating around in this thread. Some of which, if followed, would put you at risk of getting hurt. The thing is, you can get away with diffusing, standing up and joking about hitting on someone's girl many times; but it only takes that one time where these tactics fail to send you to the hospital or worse. And it has been my experience that that one time where you get hurt, will be the time you never see it coming. Someone will cold clock you when you are not expecting it either from behind or out in the parking lot or right in the middle of your "look at him all serious" speech.

What you have to remember is the concept of respect. When you are hitting on girls, take a moment to observe if she is really with someone before hand. If you see her holding hands/making out or if she shows other obvious signs of being in a LTR, you better think twice about hitting on her. I've been on both sides of this equation and the times where I have actually fought (yes, I've started them) it has always been because the other guy continued to make passes/flirt/harass the girl I was with after I (and/or her) made it clear that she was with me. At that point it's not about the girl, it's about someone attempting to dominate you and/or be a nuisance to someone you care about. As such it is very easy for the situation to become suddenly physical and brutally short.

2011-12-16T01:19:59+00:00

In my experience, I've found that people will kick up a massive fuss even if they have no intention of starting a fight, so that they can look intimidating and force the other person to back down. If they aren't responsive to your apology, your best bet is to say "whatever then bro" and just walk off. Always keep your cool, you don't wanna end up looking like a dick.

youeatmop · 2011-12-16T08:40:03+00:00

Study any reputable martial art. Find one that you enjoy. I'd avoid karate and tae kwan do, as they're usually not considered fight-worthy in the martial arts world. Wing Chun kung fu is solid. MMA is bad ass. Jiujitsu is good. When you feel confident that you can hold your own, you won't be afraid of getting your ass beat.

Also, the other dude might have a gun, so it's probably best to diffuse those situations in whatever way you can.

BPhair · 2011-12-16T08:04:15+00:00

Take Judo or Jujitsu. Not because I think you are actually likely going to get in a fight, but just for the confidence that if something were to happen you'll know what to do. Also, when you know how to fight, people tend to leave you alone even if you don't say anything about it. I think it's just the confidence thing working doubly well.

TonyDAbsolute · 2011-12-16T01:23:15+00:00

This article may help. http://www.absoluteability.com/attraction/cockblocker/

2011-12-16T05:15:22+00:00

Scouting. Carpet bombing a bar is not the best technique. Look for two or three girls who are alone, then go in. Higher odds and better use of your time.

jsba · 2011-12-16T17:31:23+00:00

It's totally retarded that some of you are suggesting for me to further escalate the situation by attempting to make fun of the AMOG in question.

I'm asking for ways [i]not[/i] to get beat up, thanks.

espanabarca · 2011-12-16T04:44:13+00:00

In retrospect, anyone hitting on a girl already in relationship is kind of a douche.

flojoTheAwesome · 2011-12-16T01:49:50+00:00

Stop doing things which make people want to kick your ass.

jsba · 2011-12-16T04:41:33+00:00

I don't know where all these others hang out, but I'm in a college town with a target rich environment but a lot of frat boys with big egos and little peckers. The type of guys that are looking for an excuse to scrap and most of them lack the balls to let you know it's coming. Most of them think that acting like Oog the caveman and working out constantly so they look good in skin tight shirts is the way to a girl's bed. Add alcohol and the fact that pussy may be on the line and it's sucker punch city. My point is, being in "state" and practicing your power stare is not exactly the kryptonite that some of these others may lead you to believe. Seduction is a very alpha-male, reptilian-brained activity and it drives the lower primates in the room to fall back on their baser instincts when Oog might lose girl and Oog not understand why. Bottom line: if you're going to try to win the mating game, you have to understand that it's a full-contact sport in a good way and in another very bad way. If you are even picking up on aggression from a guy and you can't hang Mano-a-Oogo, then you need to change your approach so they never see you coming. You have to discover "the small man's game".

TL;DR: If you want to be a lover, you may also have to be a fighter. If you can't be a fighter, be a thinker.

SamGill · 2011-12-16T04:10:09+00:00

they're never angry with me, always with the girl. how can one know if she's got a BF anyways?

jsba · 2011-12-16T04:09:51+00:00

find a reputable MMA school and train for a few years. no one will ever suspect you can throw down, and 99.99% of your typical AFC will have no clue what is about to be unleashed on them. I've never gotten into a fisticuff I didn't try and immediately dissolve. [Hey, some fuckers deserve to get gravel ground into their faces.] Somewhere between visualizing how you plan on choking a dude out who's twice your size, that thousand yard stare, you're lack of reaction to his brosizing, and all around inner/outer game and body language, they realize you probably are not the easiest to fuck with and they move on to a wimpier target. 9.9/10 times, the fist pumping brohards are just trying to get a reaction out of you. don't give it to them, and they will leave you alone.

WhiskeySeven · 2011-12-16T00:52:11+00:00

If they say something or look at you cockeyed look back at them earnestly and introduce yourself. Don't show you're scared. If they insist on fighting say "I'm very sorry, I don't want to fight I'm sorry for upsetting you - how can I fix this?"

heckz · 2011-12-16T17:30:53+00:00

everyone in here keeps saying people just posture but i just wanted to mention that I in fact have gotten punched in the head a couple times by some dbag whose girlfriend who I was chatting up for 15 minutes and then wanted to dance with me. dude came running out of nowhere and ran up to me and got in my face. luckily my buddy was there and we used some of our basic jiu jitsu skills to defuse the guy and since we are regulars at that bar the other entire party had to leave. still, it's important to be careful. i did end up with massive social proof at the bar for the rest of the night though but I had a welt on my head next day.

2011-12-16T05:56:26+00:00

don't go to bars frequented by ed hardy wearing juice monkeys and then hit on their girls and you will be fine.

ATribeCalledGreg · 2011-12-16T16:31:34+00:00

Say something to the effect of "Oh, that's too bad," and ask if she has a sister.

denimboy · 2011-12-16T01:56:29+00:00

Dont be a pussy. The other guys not going to beat you and if he does you'll be fine. Tell him to go ahead and hit you. You need the cash. Tell your friends to get their cameras out and take pics for evidence. Ask the girl if the brute is her owner. The girl wil be impressed by the size of your cohones. There is no rule against talking to people in a bar. Even females. ON the other hand if the guy looks really drunk and like he might have a weapon then don't do these things. Why are you picking up girls in that kind of bar anyway?

Miotonir · 2011-12-16T05:35:40+00:00

well u gonna have to go to library , this mysterious place that only single ladies go to xD

roxxe · 2011-12-16T12:08:11+00:00

delete facebook, hit the gym, kill lawyer

2011-12-16T15:01:32+00:00

99.99999999999% of people are all talk and won't fight you, no matter how much bigger than you they are.

If some dude aggros you, just diffuse it like a boss. "Check this guy out, confidence is good!", etc. Then start talking to him, etc.

Part of this is why, when you open a mixed set, you don't start with your target. Start with ANYONE else, get a feel for the set, "how do you guys know each other", etc.

Title	How to avoid getting your ass beat?
Author	jsba
Upvotes	18
Comments	76
Date	December 15, 2011 11:30 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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