How To Be Attractive For Real - The Ultimate Attraction Strategy

vanshnookenraggen · 2014-03-07T22:01:05+00:00

This guy is spot on but what he is saying can be confusing to someone just getting into this whole "seduction" thing. It's like saying all you need to get women is confidence but then if you don't have confidence you don't know how to become confident.

This is something I've seen throughout the seduction community since way back in the days of "The Game". Guys who get into this are doing so because they want to get with women and aren't (which is why I got into it as well!) But if your only mindset here is to sleep with more women and don't think you need to change yourself you are coming from a very needy mindset and are ultimately going to fail.

Seduction and attraction comes from self confidence and self confidence comes from know exactly who you are, what you are doing, and how you react to things. Knowing yourself only comes from experience and constantly pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. This takes years of slow, hard work but ultimately you will look back and see you've become not a different person but more of the person you really are. Peel away the bullshit you think you are to find the core. When you do this you become insanely confident and attractive.

Many guys in the seduction community are missing the forest for the trees with this one. Success with women is a BYPRODUCT of self confidence and self improvement. It's like saying I want to stand on the top of Mt Everest. Ok, so if you are a fat slob that can't walk a mile without getting winded how are you going to climb the highest mountain in the world? Baby steps.

Change your mindset to see yourself as a work in progress; that is all of your life not just sex and dating. Focus on what makes you truly happy and secure and cut out everything else. When I was 18 and trying to figure out what to do for college I got the best piece of advice I think I will ever hear: my dad is an architect and I had always assumed I'd study architecture as well but he told me "If you want to be an architect you have to wake up every morning and want to be an architect." Find out what you truly want to do every day when you wake up and do it, or at the very least start heading in that direction. Filter out everything else and just focus on what you want (obviously life throws lots of distractions at you so this is something you need to work on all the time to stay focused). Don't have a clue as to what you want? Get off your ass and try something random. My sister was a quiet kid who didn't have much of an idea as to what she wanted in life until one day in college, on a whim, she took a theatre class and now, 6 years later, is working on Broadway shows with famous actors AND runs a Broadway themed cookie company. She went from boring and quiet to outgoing and confident. This one random choice literally changed her life.

The more you do this the easier it gets and once you start to really peel back the layers and focus on yourself other people will start to notice and encourage you! If they don't, and there will always be haters out there, CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE. I've gone through many different friends throughout the years because they no longer fit into what I was doing. This is ok, there are like 7 billion people out there, don't sweat it.

It all seems hard because you are at the bottom of the mountain huffing and puffing. Just focus on the steps right in front of you and one day you'll realize how far you got without even knowing it.

RedErin · 2014-03-07T19:38:19+00:00

The way he describes it sounds like a catch 22.

In order to get the companionship you want

Live your life so that you don't need companionship.

Find the distinction between "want" and "need" I guess.

Spore2012 · 2014-03-08T06:49:24+00:00

1 Have a purpose/career in life.

2 Work hard even outside of work.

3 Roll in bitches. They will flock.

mistahARK · 2014-03-08T02:11:23+00:00

Someone needs to fix that man's goatee before my OCD generates an all consuming black hole.

PopeRalphIV · 2014-03-07T22:43:42+00:00

What I really like about this, is how at the root of this argument is authenticity. In reality, you're always essentially a complete being who fools himself into thinking he's incompletely what he is. I kind of see this argument as an existentialist philosophy, like Sartre's 'bad faith.' Putting yourself in bad faith, the mentality of being what you are not and not being what you are, inevitably leads to failure because of inauthentic aims from false premises about yourself.

Sorry if that doesn't make any sense, I can expand on it if you want. But I find my periods of success usually align with me living an authentic life.

myfutur3 · 2014-03-07T17:27:42+00:00

this is the general vibe i have been getting of this sub explained in a 17 minute video. Worth a watch

ddonreddit · 2014-03-08T05:45:57+00:00

I just cant get over how much he looks like Lenin.

xBLURR33 · 2014-03-07T17:34:48+00:00

Great video.

roarroarimadinosaur · 2014-03-07T19:49:12+00:00

Well done, Leo.

m1l4droid · 2014-03-07T20:17:45+00:00

Okay, so if I may ask, how do I do that?

m1l4droid · 2014-03-07T20:18:04+00:00

Okay, so if I may ask, how do I do that?

TrinityBay · 2014-03-07T21:54:40+00:00

Cool video!

BanterousLemonMan · 2014-03-07T22:03:29+00:00

I don't usually comment in this sub and I usually take the advice with a grain of salt, but that video is actually pretty good.

Danger_Danger · 2014-03-08T09:05:56+00:00

Is it just me, or does this guy look exactly like the Monarch?

roflharrisgun · 2014-03-08T17:45:12+00:00

This didn't work for me at all. I act detached all the time, and I think people just then think I probably don't give a fuck lol

GalcomMadwell · 2014-03-27T01:14:41+00:00

This is a really positive, good message. I like this guy a lot, and this advice should be taught by every parent and role model out there.

leogura · 2014-03-08T10:55:53+00:00

Don't discount your appearance and social value. An fat, badly-dressed guy with no friends who doesn't care about women is just...a fat, badly-dressed guy with no friends.

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Title	How To Be Attractive For Real - The Ultimate Attraction Strategy
Author	leogura
Upvotes	383
Comments	72
Date	March 7, 2014 4:02 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1zte7h/how_to_be_attractive_for_real_the_ultimate/
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1 Have a purpose/career in life.

2 Work hard even outside of work.

3 Roll in bitches. They will flock.