How to seduce in my 40s

ratfooshi · 2024-09-24T19:17:05+00:00

It's pretty much the same game.

There's some generational differences of course.
Some very bold things 20 yr olds do might not translate well to the 40s crowd.

The good news is you have the upper hand. Seduction, especially as you get older, is a game of patience.

The longer you take, the more interest you show in someone. 20 year old are much more keen to short relationships.

But again, same game.

Study the person
Mirror their moods
Provide the needs they signal through their body and words

This was Casanova's simple approach.
You're still in the game!

MouseAware809 · 2024-09-24T20:14:38+00:00

42 Year Old here.

Women are more direct about what they want, less stupid games (will still happen).

Its the same stuff really regardless of age, but venues and market changes, but the principles are the same.

Also, your lifestyle will really hinder you or make you stand out. Yes gym matters, but its not the be all end all, but if you have spent the last 20 years sat on your ass eating pizza and not exercising, it will show. Facial hair, make it look good. Also seriously assess what your wearing. You may have years of bad habits, that you are not even aware of.

The flip side of this is..... the average man is lazy, will go with the status quo and blame others instead of taking responsibility for their life. So its easier to stand out.

Also, be careful of married women who have husbands that don't do it for them. Its a line I will not cross, I don't give a fuck if someone has a "boyfriend". Women always have a boyfriend, their like colds and can be shaken off. But married women, I will not willingly go there. It can be tempting though.... trust me.

Also, I wouldn't recommend going to teeny bopper venues. I generally go to cocktail bars, salsa bars, bars with large outdoor patios. Also I don't recommend dumpster diving in "grab a granny" venues either, like its easy, but have some standards brother.

I generally find as a 42 year old, 27 upwards.

Also, daytime, if there is some sort of event on in the city I live in, I will sometimes walk through a square where there are several decent venues, and use the outside patios for approaches. Just like night game but slower. Get a beer, sit near a group of women, then just comment on something happening or just butt in commenting on something they are talking about.

Its really no different to when younger. In fact easier, when I was younger, I didn't have a fucking clue what I was doing, it really was just "Getting lucky" (granted I did a few times, but not consistantly).

Pedro_Moona · 2024-09-24T18:53:14+00:00

It's the same!

WiiWynn · 2024-09-24T19:49:05+00:00

It’s the same, it’s just the market to which you’re competitive changes. A 10 year Tacoma is super attractive, but to a certain niche group of people. Lots of folks like a brand new BMW. But hardly anyone is interested in a 10 year BMW.

WiseMan_Rook22 · 2024-09-24T21:14:37+00:00

Dude have money and your own living situation and your set. Young chicks dig older established men

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-09-25T05:18:06+00:00

Seduction in your 40s is easy mode if you're dating women your own age. I can tell you from experience.

Most women in the dating pool are divorced. They're too old to give a shit about slut shaming and are more than happy to smash with just about any man that is a decent human being. Don't try to be a jerk to impress them, they're too old to be dealing with that bullshit. Hell, they're too old to want to play games in general. And the pool of available men is much smaller now than twenty years ago, which increases your odds of success.

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-09-25T16:39:00+00:00

Go out to bars and develop the social skill to do these things:

Tap into your extroverted side where you can talk without running out of things to say. Just try to do it. Free associate, tell jokes, make fun of things, or have normal conversations. Just have the ability to keep the conversation going, especially in the beginning of an interaction.
Don’t care about any negative outcomes. Just have fun when interacting. Learn to not care about rejections, old guy responses, or any negative consequences that come form social pressure. It’s a super power if you can develop it. Nothing can get to you. It’s all fun.
Self amusement. Make it all a fun game that is entertaining for you. Even the rejections.

Start there, go have fun with people. Open lots of conversations. Stretch yourself and find out what’s possible. Learn to love the game.

adamparkar12 · 2024-09-25T00:40:42+00:00

m in my 40s i still do cold approach...everything is taught and controlled in mind

Sherman140824 · 2024-09-25T22:00:13+00:00

44 here. I worry a lot about being perceived as a stalker. I'm sorry I can't answer your question. I never talked to girls in my 20s.

devonthed00d · 2024-09-26T00:02:34+00:00

I imagine it’s really easy if you’re above 6ft & have a boat.

jbsIV · 2024-09-24T22:04:34+00:00

Women always have a boyfriend

I’m a male in my 40s and this is my problem. Every woman I meet and try talking to has a boyfriend or is already married.

How am I supposed to find singles and get them out on dates?

Title	How to seduce in my 40s
Author	nighthunterrrr
Upvotes	16
Comments	38
Date	September 24, 2024 6:51 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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