I can’t stop seeing escorts

Back2theCouture · 2026-08-16T19:17:45+00:00

Are you the same “6’4 black man from Toronto” who had posted here before?

Tbh I can’t help you. I think one needs to physically be around you to see you how you talk to women. To be able to see your mannerism, body language and everything.

“With an unfortunate face”

How unfortunate are we talking about here? Like a face only a mother could love, or actually okay but you suffer from dysmorphia? Again, can’t answer this without looking at you. If I were you I’d find help from local areas.

HotAir25 · 2026-08-16T19:14:52+00:00

How did you get banned from Tinder?

Sounds like something you can change about things at least as that’s behavioural.

Hidden_Sturgeon · 2026-08-16T20:22:28+00:00

This will sound reductive. But you just need to chill because you’re getting in your own way. You haven’t done the inside work, while you may be put yourself together on the outside, your self loathing and self doubt is eating you alive. Your intense desperation is pushing people away. Figure out why you need so much outside validation because a lot of that, with patience and introspection, should come from yourself.

Hooking up with 10s isn’t going fix any of that shit, you gotta get your head on your shoulders and stay cool. Initiate then let them come to you.

ManaDeus · 2026-08-16T19:13:23+00:00

Escort > Porn

Internal_Holiday_552 · 2026-08-16T22:05:37+00:00

Stop trying to get women and start working on being a dude that *you* look up to and respect.

Any chick that would have you now, you would have no respect for because you think so lowly of yourself.

Volunteer somewhere, go to the gym, eat rite, get involved with a gender-neutral hobby that gets you around other people - but don't hit on anyone - I assure you that you are coming off creepy and needy rite now.

Spend the next *5 years* building the backstory for your 36 year old self.

Do the work to make him someone that current you can look up to and respect.

The husband that your future wife deserves.

If you don't think you deserve a worthy woman, then stay out of the pool until you've built the version of you that does.

The time is going to pass anyway - you're gunna meet the 36, 38, 40 year old versions of you anyway.

And you are going to be the one to build his backstory - whether you do it on purpose or not.

Is it 5, 10, 20 years of self loathing, or is it time spent building a man that a woman would be lucky to have?

Fit-Background-8816 · 2026-08-16T19:21:18+00:00

Bro ur 6'4 and black... There would be loads of girls falling on your lap just by those stats alone if you know what I mean.

Like someone said on here already, make friends (in the gym, work, go to a team sport) and go clubbing. Just have fun, talk small talk to some girls, and introduce them to each other. That's how you do it. Just introduce them to each other like you're the host of the party and watch the magic happen.

2_brainz · 2026-08-16T19:15:12+00:00

How did you get banned from tinder?

secretsofthelazy · 2026-08-16T21:00:47+00:00

You say that you have an "unfortunate face" but then at the same time calling the girls interested in you "chopped" thats wild man...

Junior-Ingenuity-973 · 2026-08-16T22:01:33+00:00

Bro I’m a chad and I’m also addicted to them. Idk what to do man🤣

Spirited_Bear2760 · 2026-08-16T20:26:05+00:00

Dude. You post his every week and your issues are much bigger then just dating. And why are you banned from all the apps, what have you done? Seek therapy!

observer2121 · 2026-08-16T20:38:36+00:00

I've read your responses and I don't like you. So I can only imagine the response you get in person. Get therapy.

Electrical-Cellist40 · 2026-08-16T22:17:20+00:00

Literally go to therapy. You’re looking for an external solution when the work to be done is internal. You need to swap out your mental habit of overthinking and defaulting to negative self view for a positive one. People can see when you’re doing that and it’s a turn off cause you’re coming to them with all this baggage that they’ll be forced to carry in order to interact with you.

At least you have one option for an external fix in the form of being able to see a therapist who will be able to help fast track your inner development.

Even then, though, you gotta be willing to do what they say and not make excuses based on external factors

North_South_213 · 2026-08-16T22:43:29+00:00

Ford escorts are alright! The cortina’s are pretty cool though. Hard to find something with low mileage these days. I’m sure there’s something suitable for me though!

Ok-Visit-7950 · 2026-08-16T23:07:40+00:00

you're 6'4 and muscular I really don't think an ugly face is the end of the world or your core issue

One_Ad2844 · 2026-08-16T23:46:21+00:00

I think you hate rejection so you opt for the easiest, most fake way of interaction. You’re probably leading conversation to sex way too quickly and can’t chill to let it develop. You may think “how dare you turn me down?” Kinda thinking.

pawblo-picasso · 2026-08-16T19:23:32+00:00

Brother, learn to accept and love yourself. Not an easy answer nor a quick solution to hear but ask yourself these questions

why are you so horny that you need to have sex that night? Is it actually horniness? or are you trying to make up for something?. Why do you need to go out with the intention of meeting women? Are you able to go out with the intention of just having fun?

Your putting all your eggs in a basket that you have to meet a woman (and then get laid) so when it doesn’t work (because you’ve put so much pressure on yourself) you have to validate that you’re still worthy of intimacy and stay in this loop.

Your worth to this world isn’t defined by how much sex you have, what your partner looks like, what you look like, or any of that. Your worth is what you value yourself.

I’ve been there myself but when I started focusing on building my company, learning things like skiing and mma, making friends, and being a good dad to my dogs, I just found it easier to talk to women. I just talk to them like a human not some goal I’m trying to achieve.

Mind you I don’t work out, I’m middle eastern, close game shit, I’m attractive to some people and not attractive to others, and was getting laid when I was homeless and when I’m making a good Income. I have a cute girlfriend who’s kind to me. I just learned who I was and made the best of it. Hmu if you wanna chat

StruggleElectronic67 · 2026-08-16T20:34:08+00:00

Prostitution is the among the world’s oldest professions for a reason,

random_question4123 · 2026-08-16T19:33:07+00:00

Hire a dating coach if you actually want to change. First thing he'll tell you is to stop your complaining and get to work.

ultratraditionalist · 2026-08-16T19:16:03+00:00

You need to go out with friends (preferably a mixed group of men and women) and just have a good time. I have a few guy friends that always go out to "meet chicks" and it's always a bit cringe because all we do is do laps and clearly hit on girls.

I'd never see an escort, but if it's making you feel bad about yourself and interfering with your life, I'd suggest therapy or talking to a church leader.

TheBigMan1990 · 2026-08-16T19:28:20+00:00

Just go out and have fun doing things you enjoy doing, preferably with other people. Your energy as someone who is just out having a blast is a lot more inviting.

Also maybe a mindset shift is necessary-unless it’s causing you financial issues… nothing wrong with escorts. I have been pretty good at finding a fun variety of women to have fun with on the apps and I have a couple of sugar babies yet I still occasionally hire an escort if I see one that really catches my eye or if I have a bout of yellow fever-no shame in it, and least in my mind.

naitdawggg · 2026-08-16T21:53:05+00:00

You can just get a new cheap ass SIM card for one month to make a new account.

ghostcatzero · 2026-08-16T22:16:11+00:00

Lol escorts are a cheat code. Why wore about seducing when you can just skip that whole part+

Lennycool · 2026-08-16T23:11:01+00:00

Try a mushroom microdose and go to a party. You might realise the cause and solution of your problems. I've done this with micro lsd in the club; then I realised, I liked girls who didn't pay me attention because that's what my mom did. Changed my whole game up after that.

SuperSultan · 2026-08-16T23:13:11+00:00

Black dudes I’ve met are mostly charismatic. Are you?

If you genuinely believe you are unattractive then you could get surgery

Also are you only going for black chicks or other types too?

thegreat4 · 2026-08-16T23:45:57+00:00

This is why I always say having a moment in your teenage or early 20s when women find you attractive is a game changer. You just need confidence because now even a choosing signal may look like hesitance to you

Jason__Hardon · 2026-08-17T01:17:13+00:00

Your inner game sounds like trash you absolutely need to fix it first before moving on to any outer technical game. Look at what Neil Strauss had to go through when he started. That's where you are now in your journey

CliftonTerrace · 2026-08-17T01:35:28+00:00

Just get a wingman to start the ball rolling, my ninja. Learn, and don’t use him as a crutch. Personally, I’d love to have a 6’4” wingman. Girls would be asking me if you were my personal bodyguard, and I can finally use my Prince of Zamunda line.

LordVesperion · 2026-08-16T19:48:01+00:00

At 6"4 you play the game of life on easy mode... I can't imagine your face being that bad that it totally kills the absolutely unjust advantage that is height.

Yo-Daddy1 · 2026-08-16T19:35:41+00:00

Go to church and accept Jesus as your lord and savior.

ciscokid12345 · 2026-08-16T19:34:29+00:00

nothing wrong with escorts. they need the money and it saves you so much time and effort that you can put back into yourself.

the end game with “real” relationships is almost always divorce and paying some chick 40% of your income for the next 15 years anyways.

Title	I can’t stop seeing escorts
Author	IcyCalm3526
Upvotes	67
Comments	75
Date	August 16, 2026 7:04 PM UTC (1 day ago)
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