I recently read this quote. It basically changed the way I converse with people.

allgameplaya · 2014-12-12T14:37:32+00:00

Related quote: you don't fall in love with a person. You fall in love with the feelings you get around that person.

ithearrow · 2014-12-12T06:54:22+00:00

That quote. is very true. People will remember you for how you made them feel when you're gone or dead. Notice how people don't really talk about the job, hobbies a person does when they pass away, they talk about how they've impacted them personally. In my opinion, this quote basically says to keep a strong vibe and make every person you meet feel special. Because everyone wants to feel special, especially in a capitalist world.

nerdyfanboy · 2014-12-12T10:20:24+00:00

So how do you make someone feel special?.... You guys talk like this shit should be ingrained in to peoples DNA, but really you can't tell a penguin to fly when it physically cannot.

pBeatman10 · 2014-12-12T16:17:06+00:00

"HERE I AM!" vs "THERE YOU ARE!"

DaygameCoach · 2014-12-12T14:56:31+00:00

That's looks like a version of a Maya Angelou quote: http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/3503.Maya_Angelou

v1000 · 2014-12-12T19:47:21+00:00

TRP eh :)

nowthengoodbad · 2014-12-12T16:28:09+00:00

I don't think I understand why you added the women part instead of just stating that it's how we should talk to people in general.

My response would be the same if you had said men.

And yes, I agree with this concept as well. It's served me well for over 2 decades of communicating with people since I learned about these things.

Try using someone's name from their name tag the next time you're at a store. Make sure to end with "have a great day [name]" or "thanks for all the help [name]" you'll notice a difference in your interaction.

polyswingersex · 2014-12-13T05:06:03+00:00

This is all well and good when you are at a stage in your life when having regular, positive interactions with your peers has some benefit to you.

I used to practice all these techniques (well, they just became second nature because they got me where I wanted to be; liked.

If being liked by everyone is your goal, go ahead, Laugh at their jokes, remember their hobbies and really try to understand why their job is so much more important than they seem to think it is. Everyones happy.

Trouble is, I'm not sure how this happened (I'm 37) I am no longer interested in "people". It's a huge effort for me to fake an entire conversation based around me pretending to care what they do with their weekends etc. etc. In the end I dont bother and I think "some" people are happier that way.

Now, if we are talking romantic relations, its similar but I would say a lot more intense, A woman always seems to remember whether you made her feel safe and cared for. Also if she genuinely felt that she stood out from the crowd for you. These are virtuous memories she will have of you.

I learnt this by assuming that they way to make a woman yours is to fuck her like shes the last woman youre ever going to fuck, every-time.. Outside of the bedroom make it clear to her that you have never met a woman who appears to be made from 100% sex appeal.

That backfires though because she either knows it already and youre not saying anything shes not aware of, flattered though she may be. On the other hand, you have potentially awakened something within her that she thought she would never experience,

But I digress. Yes, why not make everyone feel like they are a million bucks when they meet you? Why not remember their wives, kids names, what sport they play, what whisky they drink?

Because my friend, unless YOU genuinely care about them as a person then you are being a fake, a phony, whatever you want to call it.

BroseidonSirF · 2014-12-13T04:40:51+00:00

Love this man

cenTT · 2014-12-12T13:46:13+00:00

Nice quote. Would you happen to know who said it?

_johngalt · 2014-12-12T15:35:59+00:00

This is completely true.

For the most part, people only remember if you made them feel good or bad.

uberafc · 2014-12-12T16:29:25+00:00

This is really true. Most of the time a lot of actions even get forgotten. It's all about how the person feels about you overall and sometimes it can change in minutes.

2014-12-13T05:08:11+00:00

In the end it's not about what you say, it's about what you do. If you do make them feel valued by what you say that's a doing not a saying. if that makes any sense at all :)

Title	I recently read this quote. It basically changed the way I converse with people.
Author	Calamash
Upvotes	615
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Date	December 12, 2014 6:51 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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