I've seen a lot of posts explaining everything about how to improve yourself in general which also makes you appealing to girls, and I agree with them. What about how to be appealing to guys?

IBeSomebooty · 2020-09-20T14:00:39+00:00

I find confidence in a girl really attractive. Like if a girl comes up to me and my friends and asks to hangout or sit with us at the bar or gets to know us.

I'm not really into the whole super submissive girl.

Not an overweight girl, I've had a few of them, but they were really bubbly, and alternative, and fun to be around. but they didn't last long because I'm active, and if I can't go kayaking with you or do physical activities, we won't last, because Fun in a girl is one of the best traits.

TheFreeloader · 2020-09-20T12:26:17+00:00

First, you gotta figure out what kind of guy you want to be appealing to. No woman is attractive to all men. Especially not if you are interested in a long-term relationship. Of course, there are some, mostly physical, traits that are almost universally appealing (being normal weight is more attractive than being obese, looking young is more attractive than looking old). But besides that, most of it comes down to taste.

So think about the kind of guy you want to attract. What kind of woman do you imagine him being with? If you could see yourself being like that woman, try embody that woman, in appearance, interests, demeanor and behavior. Make friends with women that are like what you want to be like. Make friends with guys who you want to be with. Do this for long enough, and pretty soon it will come natural to you to be attractive in the way you want to be it.

Edit: As for how to attract men out in the field, smile, make eye contact, be alone, don’t wear headphones or look at your phone. If he doesn’t approach you, approach him, start with some random small talk, gradually move on to more personal topics, get used to touching men in a natural friendly manner when you talk, if he doesn’t ask for your number, ask for his, then text him back, set up a date and so on. If there is a guy you really want, don’t let any excuses stand in your way.

_-__-__-__-__-_-_-__ · 2020-09-20T13:46:04+00:00

I’m really attracted to cute and bubbly girls. The type of girl who is so interested in you and wants to know about you. If you want someone to like you, ask them questions about themselves. Everyone likes talking about themselves.

And be optimistic and happy. That is super attractive

bipolarearth123 · 2020-09-20T12:21:10+00:00

Yeah. I mean I find girls have a natural way of flirting back with IOI’s (indicators of interest) when they’ve been approached. Or interested.

Either way. This is my perspective and someone else might think differently.

But in terms of attraction. People are looking to mate with each other based on 1. How well you survive 2. How likely your children survive 3. Good emotions.

Because you’re a woman and men seem to be pretty visual seeking at first. You probably want to aim for a youthful look. Also anything that would show off your value as a woman. I think exercices and healthy diet are always great.

But personality I think it’s great when a girl can show their humour, has social skills, works on their own indépendant career, has some self confidence. They would be long term qualities that would probably make you a great partner. I emphasize this because a lot of girls take their assets and destroy them or get addicted to drugs. Please avoid that.

If you want to meet more guys. You have to go out and try and talk to people. If you’re looking for particular types of guys, go to where they might be.

It’s a weird world today. A lot of people are staying in right now from Covid and I know a lot of guys that just go on dating apps. It’s a bit sad. I find that a lot of guys aren’t even trying to date anymore. 10 years ago the clubs used to be overly packed with people. But it is what it is.

the_boss_jos007 · 2020-09-20T17:31:24+00:00

Coming from a guy is really basic. Flirt a little. Make eye contact, smile, when you talk casually touch his arm. This works like a charm and he will definitely know. In the conversation drop hints like “I like ice cream” or “I love ___” just do it naturally as the conversation flows. This will make it easier for him to come up with date ideas.

If you escalate to texting/setting up the date. Text back if you’re interested and if he asks you out, say yes. If it doesn’t work, suggest another time or day that does. If you end up not interested, say so. Imo is so annoying when girls lead you on and then flake. Or ghost you. Mostly because is a waste of my time. Just Be honest. We men are not complicated at all. Good luck girl! :)

onenightstanduhoes · 2020-09-20T18:24:59+00:00

Get well dressed, and have a bit of elegance in general.

carlosgomez85 · 2020-09-20T12:11:17+00:00

Mostly looks. I prefer fit girls either skinny or normal. I find extra weight unattractive, it's just me I have friends to like bigger girls.

After this I will look at her skin tone and hair color, I date within my demographic so I prefer girls who look kind of like me. If she matches what I list above then everything else is just bonus. Cute smile? I'm melting. Soft voice i'm dead. Witty jokes. Call an ambulance.

It's hard to say what makes a girl attractive but I can tell you that some things are a huge turn off.

I dislike bratty behaviour, exaggerated make-up especially eye lashes, being overly overly confident.

Don't try to stand out that much it can be intimidating and we like normal, simple girls.

Dauntless11911 · 2020-09-20T14:04:36+00:00

Here's a fun fact.

You'll only attract wolves and flies if u parade yourself like a piece of meat. Just be u and you'll always attract people who like u for u.

Lust is not attraction. Lust is not love.

OscarM123 · 2020-09-20T19:54:49+00:00

A girl that approaches a guy screams confidence and "different"

Umbran_scale · 2020-09-20T15:23:01+00:00

Push him up against a wall, trap him between your arms and tell him he isn't leaving until he agrees to date you.

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drtaylorburrowes · 2020-09-21T04:00:25+00:00

I have a whole series of videos I just did on “how to be a highly desirable woman.” There’s lots of content out there, but this is one of my main aims in my work. I am not trying to market myself but to answer your questions it’s far easier for you to take the initiative to watch my videos.

Just search my name Dr. Taylor Burrowes

Teque9 · 2020-09-20T15:18:32+00:00

I can name a few things specific to me:

Friendliness and enthusiasm. Look happy/smiling and no bitch face as if you hated everyone around you.
Talk about anything you want/wear anything you want without being afraid, but also be open minded to talk about anything. The most fun conversations are the ones about "unusual or weirdly interesting" things and/or personal stories. This in my eyes makes you interesting.
Don't wear too much makeup. I think many girls look better without makeup, because they overdo it. In the Netherlands where I live women don't put a lot of makeup on and then when I get back to Latin America to see my family it gets bad again. Most girls already look good in my opinion.
Also be romantic and/or affectionate. I'm happy to do nice things of course like cooking or planning fun things to do and I take initiative when I want to do something fun, but I don't want to be the only one doing that. I think most men love when the girl also takes initiative. If not it feels like we're supposed to "be grateful of your presence" instead of "two people having a good time". You can take initiative too.
Be authentic. Do things your own way. Don't do things just because the masses do it or it is popular. Also don't get mad or expect rom-com kind of gestures. (Have you seen that 70's show? Imagine jackie wanting a ring just because donna got one)

These are nice to haves on top of what I like

If she can sing. I like playing music, and if she can sing along with me I find that extremely attractive 😍.
Wants to dance with me. I also like social dancing, partner dancing salsa or other things. She doesn't have to be a pro dancer, I'm not either, but it's nice if she at least goes to classes with me or is down to learn. It feels bad when she just says "I can't and I never will" and doesn't even try.
Long hair. Oh my goooood
If she can speak a language that I can't. I love learning languages and no matter what it is, I will find it interesting and attractive.
Having good fashion sense. Omg this makes girls look so good.
Tattoos and piercings, meh don't like them too much. However, little ones on your shoulder/back/hip are sexy and also belly button piercings. When you can pull off a belly button piercing, WOOHOO

And lastly, note that I didn't mention boobs/butt/body or anything like that. Just be healthy and take care of yourself. It takes more than just looks or I will get bored. Many girls can be/are decent looking/hot, not that many are interesting to me.

I hope this helps you.

thahotboyingrey · 2020-09-20T15:37:57+00:00

Well forgetting the looks part, if you're going to have an attractive personality as a female it's best To Tap into your feminine polarity And what does that mean For you. I'm not saying being “a woman” And follow exactly whatever stereotype of what a hot Woman is/thinks/acts/And does that doesn't Fit your natural inclinations. Sadly I don't think There's so much Material in it as there is on masculine polarity so a process you could use is just do the opposite of what masculine polarity means, and pick the habits that work for you. OR incentivate the males into tapping onto their masculine polarity.

An example of this is, a think that is mostly associated with a sexy male is a deep voice calm grounded voice, so by that means you could focus on having a feminine voice, being bubbly And giggly, if that already comes as natural to you. Then do it

Another thing that is associated with masculine polarity os dominance, so by that way you could do the opposite which is being submissive, and One way that I can think about rn of adding submissiveness is just buying clothes And acessories that give that submissive vibe, like a choker or smthing If that comes natural To you

And another thing that you could do is just incentivate the man into tapping onto His masculine polarity And give like positive reinforcements when He acts on it and allowing him to be the man.

Also have a positive warm personality (But that also goes for everyone lol). Avoid a resting bitchface and most importantly avoid a resting bitchface energy on the interaction lol. An easy way that women do this is by laughing at everything a nigga does, or touching him lol.

Also become Close to that person. Proximity most of the Times just Sparks that Sexual tension as Time passes lol.

Ric_ooooo · 2020-09-20T17:00:06+00:00

Be attractive. Not model material, just reasonably fit. Dress neat. Again not as a model. Just look like thought went into your outfit. Have a nice personality. Cliche? Maybe. But true. And smile.

An “average looking” woman with a nice personality and sense of humor is much more attractive than a model that’s a bitch.

perpeldicular · 2020-09-20T18:25:21+00:00

Be yourself if you want to attract a guy who's into you for you.

NDex101 · 2020-09-20T21:09:50+00:00

Girls know what girls like. Guys know what guys like.

Pringles__ · 2020-09-20T23:38:36+00:00

1/ Have a clear objective of what partner you want to find. Looks? Hobbies? Good communicator? Qualities? Keep in mind that we attract what we are.

2/ Be upfront and be brave enough to be honest and show your vulnerable side. This will make you confident and attract the right people. By being yourself (honest) and showing your vulnerable side, you will polarise people and make them either love you or hate you.

E.g. I saw 2 girls 2-3 weeks ago. The first one wasn't upfront and was retreating a lot out of fear. I escalated but she didn't seduce me at all and I couldn't have an emotional connection. I didn't go further. The second one was very upfront which attracted me and made me interested.

Sino-9 · 2020-09-21T00:44:06+00:00

It’s simple, no need for long texts and obvious reasonings. Focus on yourself, build yourself up, do what makes you feel confident. We all what we can’t have or is hard to get. Put yourself up there and men will try their damned hardest. Attraction is simpler than most think; if you have good value, people will want you. What good value is is entirely up to your definition. Be the kind of woman you’d want your future son to marry, be an inspiration to other women around you. Just live your life and live it well.

Guy who has many female companions

Sentilam · 2020-09-21T02:21:51+00:00

I will tell you my best advice which is to look pretty dress nicely look appealing (looks matter a lot when it comes to men’s attraction) and in a conversation try to be really nice, laugh and be caring.

schmooglyboop · 2020-09-21T18:31:44+00:00

Being completely honest one of the most appealing things in a girl I can think of is being active. This doesn't mean going to the gym every single day of the year or even having an amazing body physique. But just the concept that they take care of themselves and will do physically active things with you in that relationship is what really helps to set off a bond for me. Not only does it show they are responsible individuals, but also that they like to have a little fun as well!

Servin007 · 2020-09-21T21:16:20+00:00

I really like that you approach guys, that is the best feeling ever.. happend too me like 10 times and I remember each time vividly. I'm very attracted too confident girls, and honesty and not being so afraid too offend me or someone else when making a joke, makes me feel like your free and happy. Just don't be desperate or needy thats a big turn off for me atleast.

TheStonedPharaoh · 2020-09-25T06:08:19+00:00

We really appreciate it when a girl can bring us a fresh kill. Like a goat or a rabbit. Something that really appeases the dark lord. That usually makes me weak in the knees.

Warlordbert1 · 2020-09-20T15:24:44+00:00

I’ll throw my 2¢ to preface I am 25 yo been to college.

1) healthy, now I didn’t say skinny or thin. I mean fit. Have a healthy routine and BMI. “No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.”~Socrates I strongly believe this quote applies to all genders.

2) be the person you want to attract would want. For example you want a partner to go on hikes with you. Join a hiking group. Want someone you can write songs with learn guitar. And go to small concert venues for real small time bands etc. but if you want to date a guy who loves surfing but you hate the beach you aren’t going to be that persons ideal partner I can explain in more detail if you want.

3) confidence. Confidence. CONFIDENCE doesn’t matter what gender if you are confident people will be interested.

4) pavlov the shit out of us. What do I mean. Make it feel good to be around you. If you are going after a particular person you can always have their favorite gun or candy so they get a feeling of joy for sharing it with them. Eventually they just feel happy when they see you. Mix this in with #2 for more explosive results. This one works really well for the females out there.

5) be genuine. There is no point in being someone you are not to try and attract someone. Doesn’t work been there tried that and it starts a relationship of any kind on the wrong foot.

Those top 5 are amazing ways to start looking and doing more to improve yourself the next set is more of a tips and tricks on the small scale.

1) hmm I’m not sure how to verbalize this so I’ll tell a story. Girl I knew was average attractive enough not overweight not demanding or overbearing. But just wasn’t my type so we were hanging out in a group of people and she was talking about her dress with pockets and she was so happy she spins around and sticks her hands into her pockets. She was so happy and content with her own world it made you want to be a part of it.

2) text first. It’s that simple a lot of the girls I start talking to either online or in person I talk to them for a few days. Then the conversation drops off it’s because the other party never reached out to me I was initiating all of the conversations. I want as a person is a partner not someone I have to jump through hoops to keep entertained to hopefully go on a date with me.

3)ask for help us guys are literally wired to want to help you. I would start with small things.

4) this is more body language, eye contact make it and don’t be afraid to break it. I would heavily suggest reading what everyone is saying by Joe Novarro and listening to Tony Robbins They will give you a lot of great help for body language. And tbh I don’t want to give away all of my tricks. But don’t cross your arms and don’t put things in between you and the person you are talking to.

DO NOT DO’s a list of things not to do

Now to clarify everything I’ve mentioned and most other people are genuine things that they may find attractive or look for in a partner every person has different acceptable ranges for everything. So the list below is all MY OPINIONS and are things that I don’t have a high tolerance for

1) needy, constantly pinging, dinging, messaging, asking for help, asking me to do things. Etc

2) spoiled. I know other people have mentioned that as a positive but I tend to disagree. For example I’m a dude doing my dude things and people are acting spoiled. That red flags to me that I will need to keep this person entertained for it to work out. I want this or that great during holiday times. bad during my b/day. So if it’s I want I wan I want/ not good enough, that’s a major turn off for me.

3)Negative. This one is really easy to preface if you are always moody, angry, upset, it’s just not fun to be around, I can explain more if need be but it seems pretty simple.

4) don’t talk shit. Don’t talk about people’s bad qualities, as psychologically the person you are speaking with will subconsciously apply those traits to you. Always always always try to talk about other people in a positive light, as those qualities will be reflected in you and people will respect you more.

That wraps it up that took me longer than I’d care to admit if you have questions let me know best of luck out there :)

superunsubtle · 2020-09-20T16:30:16+00:00

Caveats: I’m a woman, and I’m not a “slow mover” when I date... but this is my experience.

Men of all different ages are attracted to women of all different kinds. Almost every comment here says to be slender, have long hair, and have other very “traditionally” “feminine” traits. I’m overweight, I have shorter bright blue hair, I’m not the least bit “innocent” or “vulnerable” or “spoiled” and I have dudes coming at me from all directions. When I ask people why they swiped right or started a conversation or asked me out on a date or chose me in whatever way, they tell me it’s about how I present myself, full stop. So my argument would be that WHO you are and HOW you express it are ultimately the only things that matter. My out-of-the-norm physical appearance proves that there are plenty of men who find every variation on body size and other characteristics attractive. I’d worry much less about how you look and much more about how you present and how you interact.

messycupcake · 2020-09-20T18:18:24+00:00

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messycupcake · 2020-09-20T12:42:59+00:00

I have zero progress compared to people in this server but I am working for. Still, I would like to say something about what I want in a woman. Also, please feel free to correct me if I am being too optimistic about those.

Emotional Maturity
Well Dressed
Fit
Smart

The most unattractive thing I find in a woman (not that I have dated one, just heard stories) is that they play these mind games with men. While women are sensitive to signs and small details, they go over our heads. If you are smart and emotionally mature, you will want someone who is one the same page.

No need to read from here just a rant of a typical nice guy;

No drama, no accusations I just want mutual understanding and love between each other. If she has grown to dislike me or I was not someone who she thought I was, I want the emotional maturity to be able to say it in my face. Not drag it along, making yourself unhappy in the process or even worse "cheat". I understand that there comes a point in the relationship where it becomes hard to just end it but I want my partner to have the emotional maturity to tell me that I have not been a good partner even at that point. I will try to make things work out but if it does not work out then I am willing to compromise. There will be hard feelings but it was my problem in the end.

Speaking on it generally, it's hard to expect that kind of maturity from both sides and there are times when that does not end well. But, talk, just having a conversation is enough to make people understand because you choose the partner, not the other way around. If it fails then that becomes a lesson and you can move on.

I am asking for too much, but the above qualities are what I want in a partner if I want to date someone. I am just someone who is insecure and afraid but I am taking small steps to overcome the insecurity and improve myself for the better.

Predetorian · 2020-09-21T01:12:40+00:00

learn ww2

YouLikeFishStick · 2020-09-21T02:51:30+00:00

The fuck does bubbly mean?

kettlebell_workout · 2020-09-20T12:55:50+00:00

Looks and fit body is the most important factor.
The style. It has to be feminine. Long hair, no piercing on the face, some small tatoots like buterfly is fine, but not too much.
Demeanour. When you walk on the street, not only every guy look at you but women as well and get insanely jealous.
Emotional. Your emotions has to be expressive. When you laugh you laugh hard, when you sad you cry.
Affection. You have to display lots of affection towards him.
Irrational behaviour. The more your behaviour doesn't make sense, the more attractive you will be.
Vulnarable. Guys have tendecy to protect. The more vulnarable you will seem, them more attractive you will be.
Spoiled. Act like a spoiled child. Note that this must be combined with emotional expressiviness and vulnarability. On it is own, it will have the opposite effect.
Confident. Confidence is important but not the most imporant thing.

Incorporate all this in your personality, and you will have any man.

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