Just wanted to share a realization I've had over the past month which has significantly improved my ability to attract women. My new philosophy is simply...

"Just don't give a fuck."

Most of my life I've been a Forever Alone / AFC, always told by woman that I was attractive, cute, intelligent and would make a great partner.... but, not for them. Stuck in the Friend Zone, I didn't know what I was doing wrong. It wasn't until I started reading /r/relationship_advice, /r/sex, and recently /r/seduction that I began to piece together the main thing that was holding me back.

I put too much importance on the outcome of any given situation. I would worry constantly about what people thought of me. Say I was flirting with someone and wanted to escalate physically, I would immediately worry about what she would think, what my friends would think, what her friends would think, what the strangers may think.... you get the idea. The result was always a half-hearted attempt which probably felt pretty damn awkward for the recipient.

So what I mean by "just don't give a fuck" is simply, don't care what anyone else thinks and go for it! If you truly don't care, then any judgement, rejection or less desirable outcome will seem almost trivial and can be used as a lesson going forward. Plus, you'd be surprised how little people actually care what you are doing.

It's really been working for me, since this realization a month ago I've been having far more dates, much easier time striking up conversation with new people, had a great make-out session at a party I hosted a week ago and spent last night with a woman at her apartment ;)

So go out there, and stop giving a shit what other people think and enjoy yourself.