“Just friends”

hunterpua · 2026-04-10T18:00:49+00:00

My girlfriend said she just wanted to be friends after our first date.

We made out and even got topless on that date too.

I simply agreed to being friends, because I understood the value of a female friend when it comes to getting other girls.

This was 2019 and I've been doing seduction since 2009. I have multiple female friends who have intentionally or unwittingly been my wing girls.

I literally have female friends who would send me pictures of girls they know and if I thought they were hot, they would introduce me to them.

And that's because I am not too proud to fully commit to a friendship with an attractive girl.

That means none of this, "Is there still a chance I can turn this intimate?" in the back of your mind.

Women will only neglect you or not help you out much if you're not that close.

If you just say you're friends but you can't really talk to them or treat them like your male friends and they're not interested in hanging out with you unless they get some "boyfriend" benefit from you like driving them somewhere or being the one that pays whenever you go out to eat.

But if you have female friends that are equivalent to your boys, oh they will hook you up.

So that's for one possibility.

But my girlfriend clearly chose the other possibility.

Because on our second "date" which was supposed to be us hanging out at friends, she initiated the makeout while we were hanging out at my place in the afternoon.

I was actually the one who killed the escalation because I was stoked for what we had planned that day and if we had sex, we would miss it. Lol

But when we came back later that evening, we did have sex and one thing led to another and now we've been together for 6 years.

Ironically, not giving a damn whether you get intimate or not while at the same time not hiding your dick, i.e. Proudly showing sexual interest in other women in front of a girl that's supposed to be your friend, is a lot more enticing than just saying you wanna be friends while continuing to secretly pine for her and filter yourself in fear of disappointing her.

CoachSlyDating · 2026-04-10T22:31:26+00:00

You probably over-escalated.

Yes, you should move things forward, but ideally you want her escalating on you.

I’m guessing you made out and then pushed forward with multiple attempts and she rejected them and brushed you off. She now feels that she has you all figured out, that she knows you are highly attracted to her and that you don’t have a ton of options. A cool guy doesn’t push for sex… he lets it come to him.

Learn to pull back, change locations if needed, create more attraction and try again when the vibe is right.

Dana_myte · 2026-04-10T18:48:56+00:00

She wasn't ready to date or move that quick she second guessed herself and pulled back. Only thing you can do is agree and keep going on with your life.

Add her on IG for exposure if you're an interesting guy and show her what she's missing out on. not saying to post intentionally for her btw but she would come around again if you seem fun. Act non chalant about it like you don't care and this happens all the time.

fireqwer · 2026-04-10T18:52:48+00:00

it happens. On to the next

comacove · 2026-04-10T20:04:44+00:00

You aren't her version of bf material.

sabaron8 · 2026-04-10T21:05:08+00:00

You literally answered your question. Just friends

-PinkPower- · 2026-04-11T00:18:39+00:00

If you made multiple attempts at escalating despite her rejection, might feel uncomfortable with you now.

KeyTheZebra · 2026-04-10T17:30:12+00:00

This could be anything, it usually comes with her not being fully content in her own life hence not knowing what she wants. Some people are not content and search for love/sex while others are not content and run from it.

She could be fully content with her life and just didn’t like you as much as you hoped, and she’s disguising it as “let’s be friends”.

Of course I have no clue what her wants are, I don’t know her, so take all this advice with a giant grain of salt. Maybe she just didn’t like you after meeting you.

I met a girl, went to dinner, and we made out at her place, next week she flaked on me hardcore and I haven’t seen her since.

ProfessionalGoat551 · 2026-04-10T20:30:35+00:00

Women aren’t exactly the most centered of people. Their wants sway because they are loyal to their emotions. Which is why you can one day be good with a woman and the next she ghosts you.

It’s important to have fun. If she wants to be friends oh well. Why is it a loss on your part ?you can use her to get yourself more women or into circles you normally wouldn’t be invited in.

When you’re having fun and treating your interactions with women as a fun time. You’re not overly concerned about sex or relationships. And ima tell you this when you GENUINELY get to that point that’s where things change.

KongWick · 2026-04-11T05:23:20+00:00

They just change their mind. Or… more precisely, you didn’t do anything meaningful enough to “hook” the girl on your first date sexually/emotionally (most important is emotionally).

This happens to me all the time after what I think is a “great date.”

Sounds normal

Klutzy-Painting885 · 2026-04-10T17:25:59+00:00

She either actually wanted sex and you didn’t provide, or she decided she doesn’t like you. Women change their minds constantly. Sorry. Tell her you don’t need another friend and reach back out in 6 months or so.

zebekias · 2026-04-10T20:07:30+00:00

Be polarizing and deflect the friends frame: sure, but I'll be upfront with you, every time I see you I'll be all over you because you are so sexy, I just can't help myself

Either she will cut you off or it will not be just friends. Don't accept that ljbf bs.

ethe_ze · 2026-04-10T22:04:58+00:00

Not trying to be mean but Was your breath pristine?

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2026-04-10T23:01:37+00:00

The brutal truth is that you're probably a bad kisser.

Not trying to be mean, but if a woman cuts things off after they got physical, that's usually why.

Imscubbabish · 2026-04-10T23:51:00+00:00

Maybe she wants to be friends with benefits.

Sea_Independent_9511 · 2026-04-10T18:16:11+00:00

Pues traumada te escogio para el rato como te una droga por que no puede estar sola y ella te escogio a ti pero reacciono y se dio cuenta que solo la hiban a utilizar y botar en su Prespectiva, o ella misma lo quiete y solo jugar. Eso son ñ todas las que conozcas la ves conversas besas tienes sexo y después nada solo tu fuiste utilizado. Como si droga. Por que no quiere tomar responsabilidad de una relación o ella es desmadrosa pobre tipo que se la quede después. Tranquilo bro es, haci. Pero si tienes la oportunidad juega disfruta dale y no seas desesperado simp migajero tu comportate como hombre si se, va chido si no también. Este mercado Hscw ser haci

Title	“Just friends”
Author	RazzleDazzle1537
Upvotes	38
Comments	48
Date	April 10, 2026 5:15 PM UTC (3 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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