Lead Instructor Gareth Jones and BenJ from The ABCs of Attraction are here to answer your questions!

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T01:57:10+00:00

hahaboohoo asks:

What are some good steps to start physical game beyond shoulder and back touching?
What's the easiest way to kiss close?
What are some ways to lower flake rate? and get a response from a number you've just gotten?
Do you recommend calling over texting?

TheGarethJones · 2011-08-24T03:02:39+00:00

No Phone or Text questions? Come on! I'm an EXPERT! Let's hammer out some of that nonsense we learn on the internet and get some REAL results.

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T02:01:30+00:00

respect_ asks:

What's the best way to get a girl to start investing into the conversation beyond the banter?
What do you see as the #1 mistake that guy frequently run to, even the more seasoned guys?
Can you give a brief overview on your entire thought process from opening to close?

Thanks SO Much. Appreciate it. respect_

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T02:02:02+00:00

DeliciousWolf asks:

What beliefs about women do you have that make you successful with women that other men do not?

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T02:03:03+00:00

rayrayrayray asks:

Fave opener on a set of HB10s? Any routines that you find stack well? Lastly, I prefer to go alone to clubs... what do you recommend once I get to a venue? I find being myself and not using a script feels more natural, but also have found the more "material" I learn, the more adept at picking up I get. I'm off to Vegas tmw so I'll be looking forward to your reply.

urfaselol · 2011-08-24T02:12:13+00:00

In terms of your own learning curve. What are the biggest breakthroughs that you had personally and when did you have that "ah ha" moment?

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T01:57:28+00:00

RaigonGoT asks:

I have an inquiry about going direct - how do you pull it off smoothly without coming off as creepy? It worked for me the first time because I got lucky, but then the next successive attempts came off as creepy to the girl. One girl even gave me a weird look and got up and walked away from me. My AA went from a 2/10 to a 10/10 from then on. Any suggestions?

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T01:57:52+00:00

crunchyCal asks:

have you ever ran into a sort of wall while building attraction, just because your asian?

what sort of girls do you usually pick up?

How much more important is presentation and dress for asians than other males?

Does race really come into effect while picking up girls? If so, what are some observations you've made?

thanks!

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T01:58:13+00:00

RedPosterboard asks:

Cool guys from ABCs of Attraction,

I've done several hundred direct day time approaches; a common sticking point is that if I don't manage to hook and vibe immediately, I easily end up in questions mode due to the increasing pressure of the situation.

It's further complicated by the fact that I have to approach most girls in Chinese since I live in China and am not a native Chinese-speaker. Hence, I should like to hear your thoughts on avoiding questions mode without relying on canned material, and if you have any concrete step-by-step techniques for countering questions mode. Thanks for your time and your help :)

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T01:58:37+00:00

3109 asks:

Hey Gareth, thanks a lot for doing this!

I have 2 questions.

What is your opinion on going direct during the night? I've been getting good results and I'm comfortable with it but have trouble going direct on mixed set and sets with 4+ people. Any advice? Age. I'm 21 and most girls I approach turn out to be 25+ and bust chops on how young I am. Is there a way I can turn the tables without being an asshole?

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T02:00:18+00:00

notlurkinganymoar asks:

What is your favorite opener?
What is your favorite rapport question?
Do you use a line to number close, or do it different every time?
What is the first text you send a girl after #closing her. Do you call instead? What do you follow up with.

Thanks a lot.

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T02:26:22+00:00

Can you tell us more about how ABCs of Attraction was founded?

razqel · 2011-08-24T02:31:54+00:00

What unique challenges would you say Asian men face when it comes to seduction? What would you recommend to them?
Which thought leaders in seduction (or other arena) has been been the most influential force in shaping your current perceptions of seduction/relationships?
Which model(s) of seduction (or other field, like psychology) do you find most useful for understanding the core or essential elements of attraction/seduction/relationships/self-improvement?
What widely-accepted community wisdom do you most disagree with?
Are the principles/rules/techniques of pick up the same as trying to build long-term relationships? What are the similarities and differences?

BenJ_ABCs · 2011-08-24T03:05:20+00:00

You wrote > Here's my thought process abridged: Open, spike buying temperature, build comfort, qualify, Direct interest and disqualify, extract, then close.

How does this differ in Social circle game? I know you want to take it slower and build more attraction and sexual tension before you pull the trigger while being discreet. But what makes me nervous is getting to the point where you qualify -> direct interest and shit goes south. It would wreak havoc in my social circle if I pulled the trigger to early or something. I'm rambling... In essence, How does the standard pull look like in social circle game? From meeting all the way to the gf/fwb stage.

TheGarethJones · 2011-08-24T04:30:47+00:00

Alright, guys! I'm off for the night! Thanks for checking in with your questions and please check out ABCs Of Attraction for more info, my personal blog for my field reports and general nonsense, and our signup page for more information on all of our bootcamps.

Thanks for coming and I hope you all have a great night! NOW GO OUT AND TALK TO GIRLS!!!!!

-Gareth Jones

RcskaSedd · 2011-08-24T05:05:24+00:00

What are some do's and dont in text game?

MARSpu · 2011-08-24T05:06:22+00:00

Holy shit, 78 comments in 2 hours. I'd consider that a success on Seddit.

Gareth, Ben, I got a question for either or both of you(preferably both). So acting on various pieces of advice, I've finally been able to advance past small talk. It's no big deal to me anymore and I've gained the feeling of being accepted wherever I go ever since.

However, I'm struggling with applying seduction stages to my approaches. Again, right now I'm completely open about anything to anyone without any negativity. It's amazing how easy it is to lead a conversation. Yet I'm not paying attention to stages like attraction or seduction, though I suppose saying whatever is on my mind is comfort. What do?

WolfInTheField · 2011-08-24T14:09:54+00:00

Really good AMA, you guys. I picked up some really good shit from reading this.

theasianplayboy · 2011-10-10T17:38:51+00:00

Here's a lay report (with pics!) by Gareth Jones including the exact texting he did http://www.thegarethjones.com/lay-report-how-to-seduce-women-in-the-airport/

WillPierce · 2011-08-24T02:26:20+00:00

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TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T01:55:53+00:00

Jakegarr asks:

Are there particularly good exercises in which you can improve your subconscious eye contact?

I'm interested in if seddit has an answer for this as well.

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T02:01:48+00:00

PetiePal asks:

The places you've had the most success meeting women that are "out of the norm?"

What is something besides The Cube etc that you can do to create some mystery/attraction early on?

Opinions on soloing?

rosid · 2011-08-24T02:34:49+00:00

Hey guys, thanks for taking the time to do this! One quick question: Do you have any quick tips for getting your head in the right place? I've heard of guys doing jumping jacks outside of clubs to get their heart rate up, yelling like an animal to un-stifle yourself, and running a few warm-up sets to rejection to get over any anxieties etc. Do you have any personal, uncommon things you like to do to get in state?

TheLindsayCockburn · 2011-08-24T03:10:08+00:00

What does it mean when a guy has your phone number, but still just chooses to Twitter DM you?

mrxavrtk · 2011-08-24T03:23:50+00:00

I can never seem to hit it off with black girls as well as with other girls, but yet I have a bit of a thing for them. Ideas?

TheGarethJones · 2011-08-24T03:36:41+00:00

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metalhead4 · 2011-08-24T04:04:48+00:00

I am going to my 2nd year of college (at a new school, new city, and don't know anyone) and I will be living in an off-campus student residence. I am planning on making a ton of new friends because I have turned into a social beast the last few months, but I also don't want to be insta-friendzoned by all the hot girls. What steps should I take while meeting new people to build sexual attraction instead of "lets just be friends". I want to be the guy that the girls text to go out on a friday and have a good time, but I also want to be banging some hot girls too.

TheGarethJones · 2011-08-24T04:05:44+00:00

Alright, guys! Last chance to get your questions answered before Ben and I go tear it up! Favorite color, best movie to watch during a date; we can do it all!

kaichang · 2011-08-24T14:41:09+00:00

What's the worst DLV you've witnessed?
What was the most surprisingly effective text-game strategy (as in, you initially thought "nah, THAT wouldn't work." and then discovered "holy crap, that is actually very effective!")

Kino_PuA · 2011-08-24T16:29:35+00:00

Hey Gareth/Ben,

I'm sort of new to the whole PuA Game but I've been reading and actually socializing alot to break my AA. I was very alpha at my bestfriends party, and this one girl even said I was definitely an obstacle because she THOUGHT she wanted to hook up with him (Even though she still did, but thats because I didn't want to game her because....welll I've got my reasoons), so I know the confidence thing is legitimate.

My one question is though, I am 19 and I naturally look young, and there are some points where I want to get at 19+ girls as well but mostly ones that look 21-23 (they have matured greatly for their age).

As a young looking 19 year old with confidence (its increasing every day more), would my young age/appearance REALLY affect my chances?

notlurkinganymoar · 2011-08-24T22:07:44+00:00

This was a really good IAMA. If you're still around, i have a phone number question I'd like to ask you.

Either way, thanks to you both a bunch!

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T01:54:43+00:00

Ask away, gents!

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T01:55:28+00:00

trixy54 asks:

1) As an asian male, what difficulties do you encounter specifically compared to other PuA's?

2) Apart form "Get out there, and get as much experience as possible! It will help with Inner and Outer Game..." What other advice would you give a starting, wannabe PuA?

TofuTofu · 2011-08-24T01:56:18+00:00

k4nch1 asks:

it was my orientation day in school today... approx. 85% female students, the rest is combination of Male (More gays i believe) LOL. i was freeze most of the time... How to make a good impression and attract them??? :D Advise me master. hahha

Lead Instructor Gareth Jones and BenJ from The ABCs of Attraction are here to answer your questions!

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1) Have fun: If you're not having fun, you're going to get burned out and eventually fold. On top of that, girls go out to have fun and when you're not having fun, you're taking that fun away from them

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