My biggest problem is actually going out.... I don't know how to? (if that makes any sense)

2012-10-18T20:33:11+00:00

ITT: OP gives excuse after excuse.

Come on, man. Just go outside. You say you can have a conversation with anyone and you've trained your body and mind. Yet you have trouble applying this? Come on, now!

Dude, you got this. You have a big dick, and a working set of balls. You can fucking do this. You don't even have to believe in yourself. Because guess what? We're all posting advice because we fucking believe in you!

CP_Cuddler · 2012-10-18T20:40:06+00:00

Did you come here to make a bunch of excuses? Or to get shit done?

Have you heard of college bars? Girls get in that are like 17 there.

StarBarbershop · 2012-10-18T21:21:59+00:00

Reading through these posts and your comments I have two pieces of advice.

1) Shut the Fuck Up. These are the worst excuses I have EVER heard. You have been working on your body? Okay cool. You have been developing social skills? Really? And you still have these issues? Either realize how awesome you are really are and get out there or be a chode for the rest of forever.

2) Find friends who will go out. Does not matter if they sarge or not. Having some people to fall back on for light conversation and companionship is SOO great for state while in a club. I feel awkward going out alone, luckily I have a group of sedditors I hang with. Find friends who will go out with you and put all that studying and 'development' to work.

tl;dr: Your excuses are shit. Your main issue is you give WAY too many fucks. You are going to fail a few times, accept it. That is how we learn.

Best of luck pal

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-10-18T20:17:06+00:00

Go to the mall.

HiIAm · 2012-10-19T04:19:16+00:00

Some of the best advice I've ever gotten went something like this:

If an ugly girl (by your own standards) came up to you while you were busy shopping and started talking to you and even dropping hints that she found you attractive; would you be flattered, talk to her, and enjoy a nice conversation, or would you blow her off and move on with your shopping experience?

Okay, now that you're in her mind. Look at the situation. It's a win-win scenario. Either a) you have a nice conversation regardless of attraction or b) you forget about it entirely and continue with your shopping, or even c) you take it as a complement that someone would talk to out of the blue and think you were attractive. It sounds like a win-win-win situation.

Try to get in another person's mind. Does it really matter if you bother them in their mind? Or does it only bother you that you think you will bother them. I promise you will not affect her day in a negative way regardless of the outcome.

Okay now this isn't exactly the advice that I got, but it was specifically catered to you.

Best of luck sir!

CitizenShips · 2012-10-19T13:22:28+00:00

Dude, I'm living in fucking Dumont, NJ, the least eventful town in existence, and I sarged for my first time two days ago.

I'll give you a break down:

Step 1: Walk out of your house

Step 2: Meet people

Step 3: ????

Step 4: DEAL WITH IT

So many excuses bro. Just get out there.

adviceneed · 2012-10-18T19:53:48+00:00

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sweely · 2012-10-18T20:22:11+00:00

Dude. Just go. Even by yourself. Seriously.

I'm completely certain you can get laid this weekend if you just go to a club and do your thing. You're the man!

e30perfection · 2012-10-18T20:28:27+00:00

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redwormcharlie · 2012-10-18T20:47:25+00:00

Best to hit those bars now while looking too young before you end up hitting the bars looking too old.

7LayerMagikCookieBar · 2012-10-19T00:33:23+00:00

Girls like George Clooney best. You aren't George Clooney and therefore you will never get laid.

2012-10-19T01:13:24+00:00

I to to community college aka. Hardly any parties and I am under 21. Best place to pick up?.....the fucking library. Studious hot chicks everywhere. My point is you can really pick up chicks and succeed almost anywhere. Yes, some places are a lot better than others but if you see a girl on the bus, at the store, walking down the street, talk to her. Good luck, stop giving excuses and remember you are fucking awesome.

PluralofFish · 2012-10-19T12:50:39+00:00

You're pathetic. Get your inner game sorted and get out there.

shadmed · 2012-10-18T22:30:21+00:00

It seems to me like you're being a troll. Everyone has given all they can to help you and you are still making excuses.

You know what won't help? The fact that you've been on reddit for the past two hours saying you can't do shit.

wtfOP · 2012-10-18T20:33:38+00:00

lol ok

My biggest problem is actually going out.... I don't know how to? (if that makes any sense)

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Title	My biggest problem is actually going out.... I don't know how to? (if that makes any sense)
Author	adviceneed
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Comments	92
Date	October 18, 2012 7:44 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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