My Tinder Tips

LeoRedsun · 2019-05-05T19:12:59+00:00

You can take my life, but you can never take my freedom... to jerk off

IntoxicatedOrange · 2019-05-05T19:34:28+00:00

I have tried the "3-4 good photos, outside, smiling" for pictures and got 0 matches still since 2018, wish I knew tinder game back when I used to get matches

chrisieg66 · 2019-05-05T22:24:14+00:00

I like em'. Very good advice.

To add to the list:

- The jig is up on those pics with you holding a cute puppy. That play doesn't work anymore fella's, they're onto it. Try a pic of you doing something funny or somewhere interesting.

- The sad reality is that you don't exist as a person until you meet her. Hate getting ghosted? So did I. I found I was 80% less likely to get the ghost treatment if she met me in person and realized I was an actual good guy. Get that first date as soon as possible but DON'T be pushy, or go for the half court shot...trying to ask her out after 5 sentences. That's a low percentage play.

- For every 3 matches you get, she gets 10. Remember to separate yourself from every other guy. Be interesting, be funny, be edgy but most of all: Don't show up with expectations..If she feels like you expect shit out of her, girls hate that.

- Tinder is basically a cold-sales job. You need to convince her your dick is something she wants and if she does't oblige she's losing out. Walk the Walk. My most successful Tinder days was when I would let all the cunts out there who ghosted and were rude just roll off my back. Be mentally strong, and DO NOT DERIVE your self worth or self image based on your lack of success on Tinder. There are tons of guys who could take me to the cleaners in real life pickup who I did much better than on Tinder. It's a different arena, know that.

Have fun out there boys.

razorblazer420 · 2019-05-05T21:33:51+00:00

I do well on Tinder, and don't agree with some of these.

There's no problem with a selfie or two, just be sure they aren't all selfies and to have pictures with people.
I jerk off everyday. I'm single. Fuck outta here.
Getting the snap is good for me, cause you can see if she reads your messages, and you can send her stuff for no reason. Also a good way for you/her to see if you/she look/s like you/she do/es in the pictures.
I always say stuff after confirming a meet up. I don't see the issue there.

I think the rest of it is spot on.

SelkciPlum · 2019-05-05T23:07:04+00:00

Pay for it.

I've found this is a great way to set a poor precedent and, more often than not, never see a second date. The best women I continue to see have all come from split bill first dates, or even first dates where I let them pay. If they're fun enough to make it to a second date with me, then I'll offer to pay. To be frank, I don't think one date is a long enough period for me to judge if they are worth the tab.

Basic logic says a confident man will pay for the first date. 3D chess logic says a confident man has too many other women lined up to pay for any first date. Women love 3D chess.

Pierrlebe · 2019-05-05T23:51:21+00:00

dates

- "Go on as many dates as you can" ---> If you're a beginner this is very true, I'm 33 and when I started MASSIVELY dating in my early 26 I just went even if the girl didn't interest me, you always learn.

- "Go for drinks" ---> That's very personal, for some it's a disaster, depends

- "Getting "a flight" of beers is a fun way to jump right into your date"

- Be interesting! ---> Yup!!!

- Be interested, but not overly. Be relaxed, convince yourself you're doing her a favour by even asking her on a date. After all, you will pay for it. ----> "I don't pay the dates anymore but yeah in the beginning I did"

- Pay for it. I don't usually spend anymore than $20-30 dollars. But sometimes if we are really having fun, we'll hit a couple more places. Rarely do I ever spend more than $60 on a night. ----> "If you have the money sure go for it but when massively dating it would screw me, but to get started sure, or if you think it's your duty well, to each it's own"

- If she wants to split the bill, refuse politely with a confident smile. Women love to pretend like they are willing to pay for it, but this is a key moment you should take advantage of. Women are drawn to men who have an ability to provide/hunt/grow. It's rooted in humans sexual selection and evolution. Take advantage of it instead of whining about saving $10-15. ---> "Sure the darwinism theory is a good basically knowledge, but it just depends nowadays

- Do not go for dinner. It's more expensive, it's more of a commitment (you can't just dip out and end it if you're not interested) and it's awkward because you have to pay some attention to the food you're eating.---> "Hehe good points on that yeah"

- When date is over you should have a good idea if she's interested. Invite her back to your place.

theginopino · 2019-05-06T01:26:50+00:00

I love your list! I have had such good success with online dating over my life and I think this sums up a lot of things you only learn by experience.

Replacing drinks for the first date would be the only thing I would change for myself (personal preference).

recyclablebanthas · 2019-05-06T01:40:25+00:00

Couple things:

This belongs in the Tinder sub-reddit.
Tinder is more about self-marketing, than the core social skills that make up "seduction." You could have the marketing down pat on Tinder and still fall flat without the very basic skills needed for Tinder success.
There's no indication on this post as to the secondary importance of its subject matter, which comes at a bad time when there are a lot of people here at Seddit who are posting about how they think they've "tried everything," because they downloaded an app, as if the app puts a woman in bed with them.
You want to talk about people stopping bad habits of excess with porn and masturbation, that's one thing. But, advocating for no-fap is simply not allowed, because it's pseudo-science.

belzo10 · 2019-05-06T06:21:18+00:00

Post what you said on the tinder sub it was good and the mods removed it, lol

eRatiosu · 2019-05-05T22:04:00+00:00

But isn't it up to them to find out my pros and cons? Seems boring when she could just read my bio and know me well lol

pencituant · 2019-05-05T22:40:51+00:00

I turn 21 tomorrow and would like some tips about drinks for a date. Do I suggest a bar or club? What should I order? How do I even order?

I've had my fair share of alcohol, but during college parties / pregame — I've never ordered something formally. Super excited to replace getting coffee or ice cream with drinks though! The environment seems much more favorable

Pierrlebe · 2019-05-05T23:59:12+00:00

Personally I don't read (or I just Z read the profile and split scan the pic, but I just press the button like a freak and select afterwards, more result to invested time for me.

ass_blunts · 2019-05-06T00:00:13+00:00

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Beamcasting · 2019-05-06T01:11:03+00:00

Post a pic with a dog as well

homegrownindiana · 2019-05-06T01:24:55+00:00

This was great. Love the attitude.

dtothetwo · 2019-05-05T18:52:00+00:00

No selfies ? I dunno if I have pictures of myself other than selfies lololol

ImJustSo · 2019-05-05T22:21:46+00:00

What's up with people's obsession with other dude's masturbation frequency? It's the most witchdoctory shit ever to bring up. If I'm living with a woman everyday and dating another woman or two, I'm still masturbating regularly. Never gonna stop and I ooze charisma everywhere I go. If not stroking it works for you, neat, but get outta here with that advice for others lol

ass_blunts · 2019-05-05T20:12:56+00:00

Shit. Buy me dinner and spend money on me for a night out and I’d love you too. I’d rather have woman qualify themselves before I waste a dime on them.

Pierrlebe · 2019-05-05T23:41:08+00:00

profile

- "Have 3-4 good pictures."---> Better link an IG to your Tinder, it let's them see a lot about you but a good IG is no little work, took me 10 hours to select the best pictures, about a 100.

- Pics should show you smiling, in a genuine setting --> not per se, on many pics i look away from the camera, most great pics are accidents, a facial expression, the right clothing etc..

- Be outdoors in at least 1 pic ---> Yeah if you only take 4 pics definitely

- No selfies ---> No

- Have a clever bio. A pros and cons list works well. --> I would say No no no, better is humor

- I've found it helps indicating the uni I attended and job

Title	My Tinder Tips
Author	ass_blunts
Upvotes	155
Comments	58
Date	May 5, 2019 6:43 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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