Overcoming sexual insecurity

Wild_Fun_944 · 2022-05-27T09:54:24+00:00

Do as many escorts as you can afford, variety is the spice in life. Like, when you have a phobia and you do exposure therapy or something.

When you’re with her, let her pleasure you. I can’t stress that enough. Close your eyes or something if you have too whatever helps you focus. Just remind yourself - you paid for that time with her and the pleasure you get from the sex is what it’s about. Don’t get caught up thinking you owe her anything because you don’t. You gave her money so she wants you to have a good time. And then see as many women like that as you can. The experience will give you confidence.

supersaturning · 2022-05-27T10:46:34+00:00

You are more than just a penis. Not every man who has a girl or has slept with many women have porn dicks, regardless if you have a bbc or a shmeat if a girl fucks with you she will fuck you.

TANKER_06 · 2022-05-27T11:14:21+00:00

I'm Chinese. Do you feel better already?

Joke aside, I never actually thought about how it looks when the clothes are off. I mean, plenty more to think about at that point. Like, appreciating how she looks. Why do you think it looks any worse than others? If it's because of the dicks you see in porn, those are porn dicks. Most guys don't have a porn dick. Do a bit of grooming by trimming your pubes and giving your ding dong a good wash before you head out, that should give you a bit of confidence that the general groin area looks at its best.

*Insert Manscaped ad here*

Just don't shave it all off. I did once, and the girls I was with when it was bald didn't like it. It tends to stink and get irritated too when there's nothing preventing possibly long hours of skin-on-skin down there.

Sounds like you are a grower and not a shower. That's fine. That's me, too. You got the element of surprise. I can't count how many partners would joke and even try to be nice when they see my unerect dude, only to look visibly shocked he finally wakes up in their hand or mouth. I'm smack in the middle of average length and girth otherwise.

Ok, that's probably the last thing on my Reddit bucket list, talking about my schlong on my main account. I think I have also run out of different terms to describe penis.

2022-05-27T21:04:10+00:00

I refused sex because of this or did not take the initiative because there might be sex.

Man don't do this anymore it's so stupid, it's better to see a new pussy than not to!

Let the girl judge your penis not yourself! We(men) do not have the expertise to assess how our penis tickles a particular girl.

You can give orgasms with your pinkie or your tongue, most girls orgasm from clitoral stimulation so let the girl rub herself against your pubic area/bone (lady on top is the best!).

There are growers and showers when it comes to penises, mine is small when flaccid and above average when erect. Never got ANY complaint just wet bed sheets! So don't worry! Just live the moment, let the girl feel how excited and grateful you are for her presence and beauty. :) I've been told "I've had bigger penises than yours but you are so playful and intense!"

Escorts are a good way to boost your sexual confidence and dis-inhibit you and be comfortable with yourself but there are limits here too! I remember the times when I'd go to escorts, the body language i have after a session got me other girls because of the confidence i exuded after! But remember escorts are human too and some will love you and make you feel like a king others will make you feel like shit! Don't take that to your heart. If you get a bad experience don't let that discourage you, some girls will hate you some will love you, even if they are escorts!

That's why i always say find the girl that likes you not the one you like! (You will find girls that you like too among those that like you)

Never let your insecurities limit yourself, it's better to fuck-it up than not, next time please enjoy yourself.

ImLostInLife1 · 2022-05-27T12:33:14+00:00

I don’t know if you are overweight or not, but people who are overweight will have really small penises.

But you should find someone you connect with and try it out with her and see what she thinks

InfamousFeeling5095 · 2022-05-27T09:32:48+00:00

Be cool and calm

sportsdude523 · 2022-05-27T17:57:49+00:00

I understand. I was that way when I first started hooking up with girls in college. "oh my gosh. am i doing this right? is it cool if i do this? would it be weird if i said this? would it be weird if i moved her like this? would it be weird if i moved her hand down? would it be weird xyz?"

this is my suggestion. what you feel is totally normal. ESPECIALLY, girls get insecure during sexual intercourse, fearful that they aren't attractive enough, sexy enough, or good enough in bed. so, let say, instead of the thought process of "oh my gosh, i think im a total loser because i must be the only person who is unconfident when doing sexual intercourse", think instead to yourself, "hmmm, this is something that it is very natural to feel a little insecure, nervous, or maybe a little less confident in, but overtime as i do it more and go in the moment more, i will feel more and more comfortable doing this intimate moment like it's second nature."

see it as driving. what person would go "oh my gosh im such a loser for feeling nervous ill hit other cars the first time i drive"? of course everyone gets nervous about that their first drive, and instead tell themselves "hmmm, im scared about driving but overtime when i drive more, itll get comfortable". overtime, it just becomes second nature. same exact thing with sexual intercourse.

you're doing great brother and you have a TON of strength just seeking some thoughts and encouragement. that's already most of the battle that many men don't even take the first step on! but you had the bravery to take that step. you'll do awesome bro!

real_mort · 2022-05-27T09:35:47+00:00

I just accepted that my dick is too small to pleasure a girl, so I've just given up on sex altogether

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-05-27T15:44:03+00:00

Length wise 5 inches is honestly enough for most women - the cervix has no feeling , the g spot is never deeper than that. It’s aboth angles more than size.

Porn messes with your head

real_mort · 2022-05-27T09:52:44+00:00

What's your size? Worldwide average is 5.1 inches, maybe that eases your insecurity about size. You're good if you have 6 inches or more

garlopf · 2022-05-27T10:53:20+00:00

There is tons of information online on how to please a girl in other ways. The skills required are not that hard to learn once you get the basic understanding. For example gentle but firm pressure from your thumb in the right spots will give her the feeling of penetration when you are focusing on other stuff with your tongue. Also if you lack experience, it will help you greatly to have a friend to practice with. Be honest, but downplay your penis problem and emphasize that you really want to learn how to please a woman, and go from there. If you do things right she will let you know through her body language and you will gain confidence and eventually introduce your little guy at a point when she doesn't have the capacity to care anymore😎

VorpalPaperclip · 2022-05-27T11:58:08+00:00

You need to build your self confidence. Its going to take work like therapy and exposure and some positive partners. You’re better off talking about this till you meet a girl that is willing to help you through it, knowing some will leave or see you as weak, but once you find one that can relate to your insecurities and help work through it, then you will be able to laugh at your current state and enjoy your life. Otherwise your just going to make it worse.

2022-05-27T15:29:19+00:00

also, if you watch a lot of porn, quit! porn is an absolute self confidence killer and testosterone demolisher.

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2022-05-27T16:11:25+00:00

Stirling Cooper has some YouTube videos about men and sexuality.

2022-05-27T19:29:36+00:00

Why would you refuse sex? The worst that can happen is she won't have sex with you, which is the same outcome as refusing sex. Penises aren't the prettiest things. If you are small, you can make up for it by giving great head.

Slippery_Weiner · 2022-05-28T04:18:38+00:00

Aren’t sexual favors from escorts illegal

Title	Overcoming sexual insecurity
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Date	May 27, 2022 9:31 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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