Polite way?

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2021-12-24T22:26:49+00:00

“You’re asking me bf favor. And we’re not there yet”

FirstCanadian · 2021-12-24T22:52:23+00:00

Lol get out of here, do I look like a bank? Even if I was! You haven't even made a deposit!!

anothersadthrowaway- · 2021-12-24T23:09:45+00:00

“Sorry, you’re not my girlfriend or wife, I’m not obligated to help you.”

And if she has a problem, block her ass. You do NOT need to be nice. She is NOT entitled to anything from you-even if she was your gf/wife.

SavageMakaveli · 2021-12-25T04:42:18+00:00

Dude wtf. Any woman that asks you for money after not Knowing you that long is trying to use u. Who cares about being polite about saying no. Don't even continue to talk to them, Because they will try to use you again in the future. And there won't be a genuine relationship

Woujo · 2021-12-25T03:31:54+00:00

"Oh sorry I am not interested in having that kind of relationship." Basically implies they are a hooker. They will never bring it up again.

HotCard1588 · 2021-12-24T22:32:39+00:00

Tell her she has to earn it then use ur imagination. If she’s not with it she’s just using you

surfershane25 · 2021-12-25T02:00:14+00:00

Shit I ain’t cho man

Amazing-Jump-5454 · 2021-12-25T16:28:39+00:00

Watch the movie casino that should answer ur question

willgo-waggins · 2021-12-25T02:14:36+00:00

I once had a friend who was working sporadically and needed money during the slow times but didn’t just want it she would pay it back.

The first couple of times I did it and was not expecting anything.

Then the amounts needed became larger and the time to pay back became a bit longer. Not a lot, like maybe the next paycheck instead of the current one. It didn’t hurt me I could more than afford it. But the fifth time she asked she said that she felt like she really needed to show her appreciation to me for helping her and she knew exactly how she wanted to do that.

So when payday arrived she asked me to follow her home because she had cash there (we were paid night before at that place). So I did and she invited me in and said to wait and she’d go get it.

She came out without a stitch on and with the money and asked if she could pay me the interest now for being so helpful and keeping her afloat through the tight times. I was in my early forties and she was 25 at the time. I said whatever she was comfortable with and we proceeded to a couple of hours of mind blowing sexual activities.

Afterwards she admitted that she had wanted to duck me since she started working there but that since I had been her trainer she didn’t want to risk anything for either of us and also I had been married when she had started a few years before (I was divorced at this point) and she didn’t want to be a home wrecker.

I covered her a few more times after that and she more than paid me back but unfortunately she eventually got married to a guy from her community (Eastern European) and closer to her age. We are still friends though.

2021-12-25T03:03:28+00:00

Omg that is such a bold thing to ask. I’d probably just say I don’t have any extra cash at all, but I’m also pretty non-confrontational

Dianabayyebii · 2021-12-25T03:17:47+00:00

As a woman, I can’t even fathom this happening like, what?! I know people have stories about this, but I can’t imagine asking a dude, for money, especially if your not even dating. Sheesh.

Anyways, just say no, and that your not comfortable with that.

chriipping · 2021-12-25T04:15:08+00:00

"no"

sslacaptain · 2021-12-25T06:23:41+00:00

People respect who say no

NotMyBestEffort · 2021-12-25T06:40:15+00:00

My standard answer is " I don't give money to anyone".

Keeps me from having to figure out if beggar is worthy or not.

Wrong_Resource_8428 · 2021-12-25T09:14:55+00:00

Don’t know why an entitled request deserves a polite response, but just let her know that this is what her family or significant other is for, and since you’re neither, its not at all appropriate for you to do that.

Fknluvubro · 2021-12-25T12:15:12+00:00

Just say ‘no sorry! Hope it works out’. You don’t owe her an explanation. You barely know her. She shouldn’t be asking for money in the first place ahaha

Mystery_Basket_76 · 2021-12-25T12:28:08+00:00

Have you met the person asking in real life?

ChoppedBelAir · 2021-12-25T13:00:31+00:00

That kind of shit gets a serious No and you walk away. If you act soft they're going to keep working you until they get you into a patterned behavior of paying up. It's a scam

ExquisiteGrowth · 2021-12-25T13:30:40+00:00

“That sounds like a you problem”

Shadow__Account · 2021-12-25T13:48:09+00:00

Think about it for a second, someone is trying to use you, because I can not imagine any scenario where it would be normal to ask someone you just met for money and as a result of this, you are the one being insecure about the situation. That is just wrong dude, fix yourself. Get some boundaries, you clearly don't want to give it so dont be apologetic about how you feel.

DCCyclone · 2021-12-25T14:16:28+00:00

Is this a woman you're interested in? If so, you should reevaluate that, and probably cut bait and run. What's important is protecting yourself, wallet and heart alike, not being "polite" to her phishing. In all seriousness, if I were in your shoes, I would tell her directly it's inappropriate to ask someone you just met for money, unless that's what you wanted all along in which case it's time to say goodbye.

Spiritual_Mokka · 2021-12-25T16:04:47+00:00

Direct way sorry i don’t know you very well i am not giving you money sorry maybe shes a gold digger or so

Recent_Luck_918 · 2021-12-25T17:06:47+00:00

“No” is about the nicest thing that she needs to hear. But also you need to ask yourself why she would even think to ask that to you if you’ve only known her a few days

Solaris4179 · 2021-12-25T17:10:14+00:00

The polite way to not respond, whatsoever

-Mantissa · 2021-12-25T17:37:01+00:00

She’s trying to use you. I’ve been there. Especially if she’s not giving you anything in return. She probably figures you have money and she can take advantage of you. To me it also shows a lack of respect. She shouldn’t be that direct about it. If she needs help then she should turn to family and friends first. You’re basically a stranger at this point. Would you ever ask a stranger for Money?

MA_CA_NV_CA · 2021-12-25T19:01:32+00:00

Just say “interesting. I need to think about it.” Then don’t bring it up again.

truthbomb999 · 2021-12-25T19:58:41+00:00

What’s a polite way to say no to a woman you just met or knew for a couple days that asks you for money for whatever reason even if it sounds serious

I'd just tell them that something you ask family members for

Or you could just say you don't give money to strangers

XC70dude · 2021-12-25T21:34:53+00:00

Personally if I thought that the need was genuine, and it did not disrupt my obligations, I would help out where I could but I would handle it myself as opposed to handing over the cash to her. But that’s just me and yes it has gotten me burned before but I did not lose any sleep over it as I did it in good faith.

lakejoke · 2021-12-26T00:56:14+00:00

I think she is an internet scammer / hustler. My standard answer is I have a personal policy about giving money , gift cards , or bitcoin to people I don’t know. My guess is either Russian or Romanian.

the_lunatic01 · 2021-12-26T01:53:50+00:00

This happened to me lately, it's pretty awkward, I just told her that I don't feel comfortable enough with our relationship to give you money at this stage, wished luck in what she was going through, I think the key is to show a bit of compassion with her while saying no.

i_love_crazy_hobos · 2021-12-27T11:31:10+00:00

I don't think you even need to be polite if she's asking for money. You could:

not respond at all. In this case that would be acceptable.
"Sorry but I don't lend out money even to my close friends"
"Sorry but I don't lend out money to people I don't know well"
"Sorry, but I'm not going to lend you money"

P.S. Ditch that girl

Title	Polite way?
Author	Mysterious_Tour_8106
Upvotes	21
Comments	48
Date	December 24, 2021 10:19 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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