Pulled last night but keep thinking about the rejections

Foreverseeking47 · 2026-02-01T13:33:25+00:00

The main thing here is that you can't take rejection personally. Anyone will get rejected if they use a numbers game approach. The men I know who have a very good success rate just know who will be more receptive to their approach and will never just approach random girls.

I'm not saying that so you stop approaching, I'm saying that because you use an inevitability to make yourself feel bad instead of just assuming this is the default and practicing your skills without attaching your worth to the results you get.

Also, it goes without saying that the better you get at this, the better your results will be. If you don't get results at all, you simply are not the most fun thing a woman you're approaching is experiencing at the time and you still have things to learn, but you shouldn't use anything in this to make yourself feel bad, and that is for many reasons including the fact that it will hinder your future results without a doubt.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-02-01T13:41:14+00:00

Instead of seeing at "success vs. rejection". I think it's better to see it as sniffing out which women you vibe with quickly. And letting go of those with no vibe just as fast.

Instead, it seems you're sniffing out that there's a bad vibe, and instead of moving on right away you keep trying some moves.

So - learn to spot signs of disinterest sooner and just move on right away. No lingering, no trying another trick or another sentence to turn it around. Just next her. It will only hurt your ego if you keep barking up the wrong tree.

Comprehensive-War-34 · 2026-02-01T14:49:06+00:00

It’s always going to be a numbers game no matter what. You’ll always get rejected, it’s just going to happen.

DistinctStruggle4201 · 2026-02-01T14:04:46+00:00

At least you got one. I think of this time I was at a rave this girl came up to me to ask me to dance but I declined cause I was too tired (it was like 3am) but she was very persistent asked me like 5 times. But then I'm like ah she was probably on ecstasy someshit and I was sober

Interviewpalm · 2026-02-01T16:34:12+00:00

it's a numbers game. The 'game' is played on the girls who are attracted to you.

ChicoBrillo · 2026-02-01T18:59:09+00:00

you don't know what you don't know. The girls that rejected you could have been there with a boyfried/situationship, it could have been a girl's night where going home with someone wasn't on anyone's mind, maybe they just lacked social skills and felt too nervous to reciprocate, maybe they just got broken up with...etc

I know the axiom is to only worry about what you can control, but on the other hand, it doesn't matter how good of a flirter or a looker you are, there are times when someone is uninterested and you will probably never know the real reason.

tldr: not worth thinking about

StreetCatAdopter · 2026-02-01T19:12:54+00:00

Sir, most me never pull a woman and take her home that same night. Even with her being aggressive, guys won’t get the hint.

Be proud of yourself and stick with it. Rejection is ALWAYS gonna happen, just have to be ok with it

cjunc2013 · 2026-02-01T15:37:57+00:00

I hate peanut butter and jelly. I just never liked it. It’s offensive to my tongue.

Women got tastes too… when they say no to pb and j, no one bats an eye. Granted we are people with feelings… it’s the same concept for sure. We aren’t everyone’s bag!

Congrats on the win tho

barlowaplesand · 2026-02-01T16:37:16+00:00

Cold approach is about finding the girls who are attracted to you, and then pulling them home without messing up. You done taht. Good job. Good game

You can't game the girls into bed who aren't into you. Even with the best 'game' in the world

Altruistic-Patient-8 · 2026-02-01T16:56:07+00:00

I think its a numbers game for men. 80% of women there, so most likely a woman will approach you first. It should be that easy.

SecretComments · 2026-02-01T17:39:58+00:00

I'm going to make a whole post about this because I keep seeing it all the time. Yes it's a numbers game, but it's WAY more important to actually find the right circumstances where Something Can Happen Easily (not necessarily an immediate lay but maybe just a number that leads to a date that leads to a lay, we're counting that for my opinion here). In order of importance:

The circumstances are #1. The attitude and vibes you put out are #2. The actual numbers, making sure to get out there and Try A Lot, that's #3.

You're never gonna create a life where anywhere near half of women you might be into, even under ideal circumstances, will get with you in any capacity. Even 20% is probably unachievable unless you're rich or famous.

That means most of the time you will be rejected. Just get used to it and don't panic.

leitmotive · 2026-02-01T19:19:14+00:00

This is a psychological and biological issue. Being able to obsess over the positives the way most of us obsess over the negatives is a super-power that most people aren't born with and have to teach themselves.

Understand that your brain is designed by evolution to keep you safe from physical and social danger and for most of human existence we have lived in small communities. You obsess over rejections because it represents social exclusion in your mind. If all these women don't like me, I must not be desirable within the tribe. That reputational danger feels existential. It ain't so; you will probably never see those women again and they'll all forget about you. But that wiring is deep.

Another thing to remember is that people are looking for what they're looking for, and are not discerning. Here, watch this guy offer people either a silver bar or a chocolate bar, and watch people consistently choose the chocolate bar because it's familiar and recognizable: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bYhTFz_SGw0

Night_Hawk1 · 2026-02-01T20:19:28+00:00

Sounds like a frame control issue. You should watch some rsd Julien videos, he's king at this. There were sets where the girl would roll her eyes, look away, not say anything and he would just keep talking, unphased. Hed try asking questions, if she rebuffed, he'd try different things. You'll see him getting stonewalled for a minute straight and then hill find a button "just be normal, like a girl on Xmas morning" and in an instant she went from cold hard bitch to "omg love that." Try different things, if being funny or asking questions isn't working, just talk, be serious, or aggressive/dominant, or playfully freezing out, push pull, find a topic and straight exaggerate or bullshit out yourself, self amuse, find the emotion that clicks. You're just trying to find emotions that she likes. It's like sales. If you keep bringing mini van enegy but she's actually a sport car kinda girl then yea, you're gonna later get in your head about why she didn't want your minivan, instead of trying to find the aha of sports car energy.

FearInoculumTool · 2026-02-01T13:14:04+00:00

You kept getting rejected because you went there on the clear mission to troll for pussy and the women smelled it from miles away.

YYZYYC · 2026-02-01T18:46:27+00:00

Pulling her home ? wtf

Title	Pulled last night but keep thinking about the rejections
Author	fireqwer
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Date	February 1, 2026 12:55 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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