Snapchat… at age 25. This app feels incredibly uncomfortable and “off”

fkk2019 · 2025-03-23T06:35:00+00:00

'Add me on snap' is a shit test. You pass by asking for her phone number instead

IWLoseIt · 2025-03-23T10:55:16+00:00

I don't remember the statistics exactly but it was somewhere along the line of changing messaging app before meeting in real life decreases the chance of meeting by about 50-80%. I match on tinder, i set up the date on tinder. I don't change apps until after the 1st date. Good luck!

TheRealJamesHoffa · 2025-03-23T06:38:40+00:00

I think lots of girls just enjoy meeting people and getting the attention without the intention of anything serious happening. They probably see it as much more casual than you do, with the option of something more happening in the future if you win her over. Online dating is hard, you gotta be able to separate yourself from a sea of other desperate dudes, which is nearly impossible.

narunata · 2025-03-23T06:30:32+00:00

i agree man. snapchat isnt for adults lmao. i always cringe seeing grown men ask for a girls snap

EDMWubz · 2025-03-23T17:26:36+00:00

I’ve used Snapchat for over 10+ years the memories feature literally gives me so much nostalgia and good energy. I have a decent following on Snapchat as well and use it to advertise my business and connect with fans/friends! I feel like it’s what you make it there’s alot of weirdos and creeps on Snapchat but i literally make money from using the app so im never going to stop using it. Once again the memories feature is so neat to me I have pictures and videos with friends who aren’t here anymore that is priceless 💜. I’m 27 btw

PsyGhostCat · 2025-03-23T09:15:25+00:00

I know a 45 year old man that uses Snapchat - someone explained to me that was a red flag 🚩 and I see why

HideyourkidsForreal · 2025-03-23T09:05:40+00:00

I used to ask for snap on dating apps because that's what I had always done. Then one girl 'called me out' and said it was cringe. I asked, she elaborated. And from the on i only ever asked about Instagram(the norm here). To much greater success

I think there isn't anything inherently wrong with the app itself, but moreso the people using it and the fact that you're sort of anonymous there, so they're used to unsolicited dick pics.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-03-23T16:03:06+00:00

Luckily I've never dated anyone who uses Snapchat but I also would not date the 18-22 or so age range. Get phone numbers.

Hutrookie69 · 2025-03-23T19:35:36+00:00

Snap is good to vet out catfishes or hooking up. In of my personal favs for checking out catfishes tho

peeper_tom · 2025-03-23T09:52:57+00:00

I stopped using it in 2015 it was fun at college. I dont have any socials no except this and youtube but i think all apps feel off now even those two. But yeah, I haven’t relied on social media to pull since 2015.

yazzooClay · 2025-03-23T18:04:56+00:00

if a girl doesn't have snap, i will move on. For talking to girls, it is the far superior app.

mario610 · 2025-03-23T11:22:43+00:00

I only ever went on there to talk to girls when I still used Tinder back in the day, I never use it now because one of the girls was a scammed ai guess and told their scammed friends I could be a target because I randomly got added on snap a few times with very lewd snaps an stories of the usual scammed stuff, asking for money, the usual stuff.

A part of me wants to try tinder again because I moved to FL and I had moderate successbefore in the beginning (got 2 dates, one "forgot" their wallet and blocked me after, the other got mad I didn't text her the same night after, but they were still dates I guess), but the other part of me knows there's gonna be alot of bots and even chatgbt/Ai responses now , not even sure I should go back to snap if they ask, probably not

micahbevans88 · 2025-03-23T12:57:17+00:00

If your vibes are good it's usually a precursor to them sending nudes when the tension grows more.

Osiris_Raphious · 2025-03-23T13:44:35+00:00

I just add them on insta and set up a date. Snapchat is... for verification of real vibes in pictures that can ''self distruct''... which you can set to do on insta as well.. so snapchat as a concept is outdated and hanging on by a lifeline imo.

Davidle3 · 2025-03-23T14:47:39+00:00

The method you use to communicate isn’t so important. What you communicate is what matters. The other persons perception of you will come from your communication with them. If a woman said add me on Snapchat…..if I want her I am adding her 🍑 on Snapchat but I will communicate to her exactly what I want to communicate. If your worried about the method you are wasting your time focusing on what doesn’t matter.

TreyDoesGains · 2025-03-23T21:14:06+00:00

Are you sure the conversation wasn’t already going south prior to her asking to add you on Snap? Typically asking for a communication method is an exiting question…

chunkyofhunky · 2025-03-24T15:53:47+00:00

If you meet someone with 200k+ snap score they probably dont make for good convo, not to say that can't, but the only way you get a score that high is by spending all your time on that app sending and receiving photos. But I agree with other comments on this post that circumventing snap for their number is probably a better use of your time to start. Do be aware that if a girl is really into you they might want your snap to send you nudes but thats up to you and your read of the room.

chuy2256 · 2025-03-24T16:24:48+00:00

31M

Snap is lame, I transitioned to Instagram in like 2018 when I realized how expansive its reach was internationally and I started making more friends abroad during my travels.

I also agree, Snap feels hyper cartoonish and like an app made for teens who want love the “disappearing chat” feature which honestly lost its novelty over a decade ago,

Just to add, its User Interface really makes it feel very claustrophobic to me, like, I open the app sometimes but it always feels like curated content from Snap for me as opposed to curated content from Instagram by me.

grey_g00se_ · 2025-03-23T11:54:33+00:00

Personally, when I was dating, I kind of felt that people that primarily used Snapchat were pretty immature, and not exactly the kind of people that I was wanting to chase. So if it was me if they do that kind of thing, I would just ignore them and move on. Nine times out of 10 they are pretty immature or self-absorbed or placated and just looking for attention.

Pobueo · 2025-03-23T14:33:56+00:00

Idk if any of you used the app but there used to be this "Tinder replica" Called Hoop, it was connected to snapchat so when girls swiped right on you, they added you directly to their snap.

Thanks to this app/snapchat I have had all the action in my life (a few flings and 2 solid relationships) with the second being my current gf of 3+ years.

But this was back when I was 17/18. That is the age sweetspot to use it. Unless you go off to a very snapchat based university then that's probably around the timeframe I expect people to quit using the app.

Nowadays I have it uninstalled and download it every few months just to check old pics and go on memory lane.

Acrobatic-Welder-750 · 2025-03-23T17:19:41+00:00

Fucking true I'm cautious of talking to anyone that adds me because they could be under age and fuck that

TransitionNormal1387 · 2025-03-23T19:07:52+00:00

That’s about the age I grew out of Snapchat.

salutcemoi · 2025-03-23T19:16:19+00:00

I haven’t used it in a long time 😂

nintendoborn1 · 2025-03-23T21:29:11+00:00

Yeah but they sure like to use it like tinder in my town

rad_dynamic · 2025-03-24T00:48:52+00:00

Snapchat works amazing in like 1% of examples and the rest this exactly happens. Depends are you a risk taker?

rydsauce · 2025-03-24T03:25:03+00:00

Agreeing to get her Snapchat is essentially submitting to her frame, and just places you in the ocean of guys who are her FANS...and she doesn't DATE her FANS.

Crazy_Venus_Crew · 2025-03-24T06:03:52+00:00

What’s actually wild is it’s only current 20-somethings who have ever used Snapchat. Teenagers don’t use it LOL

twocentcharlie · 2025-03-24T07:17:26+00:00

It is likely that they have already written you off before the swap and are just building “fans”. My understanding is that a lot of women only have OLD to gain followers.

Outrageous-Cress-978 · 2025-03-24T17:48:27+00:00

There are good and bad in everything, What matters more is how you use the app. I've recently got back to back to snapchat to realize that there are different use cases of the app.

furkanx32 · 2025-03-23T10:09:04+00:00

Snapchat is for cheaters 100% because the messages get deleted automatic, this girl I met in gym before had a boyfriend but gave me her snapchat and we talked for a week and then we hooked up a couple times

32_hazards · 2025-03-23T18:59:51+00:00

Anyone over 20 using snap is weird dawg. Lmao

Title	Snapchat… at age 25. This app feels incredibly uncomfortable and “off”
Author	4scentsin1day
Upvotes	234
Comments	59
Date	March 23, 2025 6:27 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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