Sometimes I get tired...

IANAPUA_Yet · 2016-05-20T18:04:30+00:00

There are plenty of outdoorsy women. You're probably not going to find them all decked out in a night club, though. If you're not happy with what you're finding, change the way you're searching.

TheMinistryOfAwesome · 2016-05-20T13:00:53+00:00

I feel you bro.

I spend so much of my life training - and essentially engaging in vastly male orientated sport/acitivities and all the friends I have in the nearby area are vaguely reclusive or married.

I'm 32 years old and there is a part of me that really feels that it's a bit lame for somebody my age to be standing on the street waiting to stop some cute girl (in her early 20s - or late or whatever) and try to pick her up. To make it clear, i basically don't do it. I'm an opportunistic bastard, more than anything

Ultimately... itjust feels to me that if you really have your shit together and are living a great life then you just don't need to be going out daygaming.. or going out with the purposes of picking up chicks at all - which arguably is the whole point of redpill mentality and a lot of 'inner game' stuff too.

Sadly when your primary social activities deal with men and you're not so into going out getting smashed it leaves you slightly limited in the kind of chick you're going to meet.

MGTOW is almost synonymous with "go it alone".

I think really though the main issue comes from the fact that you'll hold a chick to stricter requirements than your friends. A friend you just have to be able to have a laugh with and vaguely tolerate for an hour or two per week. Shared experience is the key to bonding and so it gets easy when you're kayaking with a bunch of dudes.... To be willing to spend as much time as you would need to develop a relationship wtih a woman.. she has to be a shitload better than your friends and with stricter requirements the pool of appropriate people drops.

That's just the way it is. Things will never be the same.. (haha)

(sorry for not being too helpful - you only get empathy it seems)

RaptorFalcon · 2016-05-20T15:09:21+00:00

As a 30+, I agree. I dislike the trend of uninteresting, no hobby women that are prevalent these days.

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2016-05-21T02:16:45+00:00

This is such a circle jerk. I appreciate OP's genuine honesty, but there have NEVER been more opportunities to meet women of depth than there are right this very second. No sympathy here. They are literally everywhere.

monstercojones · 2016-05-20T20:55:48+00:00

Move to Arizona... literally every girl I meet here wants to go hiking, camping, climbing or rafting all the time. Where are you located?

SuperStalin · 2016-05-20T21:38:50+00:00

I've realized that the more I learn to accept women as they are, the more exceptional women I get to meet.

I know it sounds like some TheSecret bullshit type of thing, but maybe there's a logical explanation behind it - in the way I came to be... pretty much honestly disinterested.

MrCrappy57 · 2016-05-20T16:36:11+00:00

Thanks to everyone who replied. You don't know how much I appreciate it. It's just...you know I fucking love women. I love the way they smell, their curves, the way their panties show through their dresses...haha everything really. It feels like I have an invisible gun to my head and somebody is saying "if you don't fuck her you die".

I swear to god sometimes I wish I was gay.

TheAccessMan · 2016-05-20T21:08:17+00:00

I feel you, man.

I'm 25 and going through this exact same phase.

I love to play around with women, but deep inside me, when I go to sleep, I feel that in the end we are all alone.

Right now, my life is quite agitated (going to college, working and a little bit of lifting) and I can clearly see how people do not care about each other.

The same shallow small talks, not really listening/feeling what the other has to say. It's a bummer.

If I may help, I could tell you to be straightforward with the girls you are sorrounded with.

When I talk to them I usually say, looking at them at the eyes "How are you doing?", and when they answer me "Fine", I raise the bar and re-ask her "No, seriously. How are you? We seldomly speak and I feel like I don't know you at all".

Usually they open up and we end up having more meaningful talks thus bonding deeper.

Mozhetbeats · 2016-05-20T16:55:31+00:00

I know what you mean; my interests are pretty specific. It's hard to be active with a job and other responsibilities, but I think the best way to meet people with similar interests is to just do your thing and do what you enjoy, but do it with a social mindset.

Have you tried finding a local outdoor sports club? You could also try connecting through online forums. Many have localized pages. And I wouldn't just focus on meeting women you are attracted to. Just get out there and meet people, both men and women, and with those relationships, more will come.

fap_fap_fap_ · 2016-05-21T00:56:59+00:00

have you tried to join groups of people who get together for canoing, hiking etc... if anything there's usually more women in those because most guys go on their own or with close buddies. check the meetup site for your area.

Big_TX · 2016-05-21T02:28:16+00:00

Maybe your city's culture is fucked. But I doubt it. You probably are going for the wrong type. There are defenently outdoorsy girls. Tuns of girls are deep you just have to connect with them and open them and yourself up. It takes time. Most people have depth, it's just not in their surface layer you see in the beginning. And Canoeing isn't deep. Most people have deep seeded feeling deep secrets. Tough times in their past. Desires and strange thoughts. If you want a deep connection with a girl you have to talk about that stuff. Share your's and hear her's That's where depth comes from. You just have to go deep over time and avoid superficial airheads.

PopeJamal · 2016-05-20T15:07:22+00:00

I feel you, I feel the same pretty much.

I think the issue is about focus. Just continue to focus on doing the things that: -you enjoy -enrich your life -help you learn -make you a better man

That's all we can do during our short time on this spinning rock.

I've found that as I become more comfortable and accepting of myself, I'm more comfortable and accepting of others. It's not about lowering your standards but more refining them. When you have hazy standards, you need to have I bigger "cut off zone" to maintain the quality of your relationships. Once you are able to bring your standards closer to a razor focus, you can give people a little more leeway to be human and make mistakes and only cut them off when they truly cross the line.

Just hang in there man. You can't go wrong when you focus on being the best man you can be.

exzackly69 · 2016-05-20T17:34:45+00:00

But I know I've got one thing I've got to dooooooo~!

TurnPunchKick · 2016-05-21T01:21:15+00:00

I know this feel bro. I know it well.

seldor · 2016-05-20T22:16:38+00:00

Most women I meet are totally into what you are describing.

jimmyny413 · 2016-05-20T23:00:36+00:00

I'm sure if you if you are as agreesive as you say you are,I'm sure if you tell some females this,one has to give in.... Especially if it's all paid for.....are you suggesting this to the young ladies?

Title	Sometimes I get tired...
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Date	May 20, 2016 12:12 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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