Stopped Chasing, now everything flows naturally

hwillis891 · 2025-12-04T20:21:19+00:00

Hey whatever works for you bro.

I’m of the belief that every man has a different “sweet spot” that makes him attractive to women. Some men have the gift of gab, some men play strong silent type well, some men can joke a woman’s panties off.

Finding your center and strength where you feel comfortable is so important. You’ve found your best skill, now just advancing it a little bit and still approaching, just with a perspective of enjoying the approach without being hung up on the end result.

Disastrous_Affect742 · 2025-12-04T18:17:14+00:00

Once you stop needing validation from women the game changes completely. It's puts you on the driver's seat and instead of "winning" them over you get to decide whether there worth your time or not. Also rejection is no big deal once you accept yourself

Alarmed_Box1198 · 2025-12-04T21:09:45+00:00

That's the catch. You can't just stop chasing and expect tons of female attention. You have divert that energy into self improvement. I don't know how to explain it other than women being extremely sensitive to a man's vibe. They can literally sense if you're improving yourself and going places or wasting your time.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-12-04T18:18:15+00:00

True story. Rule #1 has always been don’t be needy for me. Needy is chasing etc too. You obv need to approach and chase a bit or put yourself out there but always best to have the girl chase you as much as possible. Be the prize

Matter_Still · 2025-12-04T20:16:52+00:00

It’s a curious thing: some women find a guy’s indifference and passivity alluring, others find the doting guy attractive.

I suppose it’s a matter of finding the “Goldilocks Zone”: not too much or too little in either case.

vesieco · 2025-12-04T23:24:42+00:00

By stopped "chasing" do you mean you stopped initiating? Chasing is when you keep pursuing a girl who's not that into you and isn't reciprocating your efforts.

As far as initiating's concerned, there's nothing wrong with approaching women and taking action rather than waiting for some select girls to make the first move on you.

Emergency-Ad1006 · 2025-12-05T11:35:02+00:00

Pretty much the exact opposite for me.

When l stopped chasing and started focusing on myself, I ended up with multiple platonic female friends, but no dates, hookups or girlfriends. l was essentially walking myself into the friendzone over and over.

When l learned how to flirt and escalate convos, l had far more luck. You need to learn seduction in order to get from platonic to intimate.

videogames_ · 2025-12-04T21:46:52+00:00

Chasing is chasing validation. That’s very different than actual seduction.

This story is a perfect example of a warm approach. It’s obvious the two women are interested if they are asking questions that don’t make logical sense in order to start conversation. That’s when you flirt, get the number, set the date near your logistics, and then invite her if the date goes well.

LilSkills · 2025-12-04T19:13:38+00:00

Exactly, when I was single and still naive I used to be desperate for female validation and for sex, needless to say I didn't get shit. Always ghosted, then something flipped and I just stopped giving a fuck, of course still hit on that hot chick I saw on the street but I was different, I didn't care whether she rejected me or ghosted me anymore, I was flirtatious without fear, I made jokes, if she didn't like them, patience, onto the next one. I made it my goal to filter out woman that would waste my time and energy and focused on the ones actually into me.

Before if I was ghosted I would feel bad, if I was straight up rejected I would feel worthless. Then when I was ghosted I was just like "whatever", if rejected "whatever" and I believe when people say that woman smell neediness from a mile away, I was getting much more success with woman that were actually into me until I landed into the loving relationship that I'm at right now.

PMA9696 · 2025-12-04T20:14:02+00:00

And then everyone clapped.

nintendoborn1 · 2025-12-05T00:26:47+00:00

Yeah I think I’m gonna pop out of this sub

OddAssumption · 2025-12-05T03:45:28+00:00

"Don't waste your time chasing butterflies. Mend your garden, and the butterflies will come." -Unknown

Ok-Philosophy5181 · 2025-12-04T19:32:35+00:00

W mans, good shit! 👏🏾

Minimum_Exchange_622 · 2025-12-05T18:42:32+00:00

unfortunately, you gonna get hit by a train. If you think longterm relationship with woman you cant go with that attitude, you have to pay attention to them and keep them interested otherwise, you will end up very badly, because you will fall in love sooner or later and like you said those seduction pua vids are fucking waste of time, these guys are lonely and single for a reason too. What works short term must be completely rearranged on a long term game.

Khaled_222 · 2025-12-04T20:42:33+00:00

Yeah, for sure. You just work with what you’ve got. Style makes a big difference too ; having a clean face, good skin, a sharp beard or mustache, and a bit of a tan instantly gives you extra points in those first few seconds. Plus, I’ve got good jokes and I like to tease people a bit.

Wlacaupius · 2025-12-04T23:45:55+00:00

(I'm noy saying it's not true.. but)

After you focused on yourself, what are you doing to approach girls?
Aren't you doing _anything_ besides going to the gym and exercising?

redditfuckinguser139 · 2025-12-05T01:10:24+00:00

That’s cool. Pretty surprised by that. Are you… very buff? Are you in a normal gym or are you in college and it’s a college gym?

ajna1347 · 2025-12-05T03:29:38+00:00

Hooray

ExtraordinaryBeetles · 2025-12-05T06:34:17+00:00

Step 1 hog gym equipment

Few-Station9214 · 2025-12-05T19:46:36+00:00

What do you mean by focusing on yourself? You can focusing on your looks?

Trex8204 · 2025-12-08T20:02:42+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, how tall are you?

Sea_Independent_9511 · 2025-12-11T08:58:00+00:00

Pure and simple practice is just about going with the flow, and everything else will come.

jsbach123 · 2025-12-05T22:27:54+00:00

It's like when I got a girlfriend, suddenly I get more attention from women.

Women know when you're not chasing them and you're more attractive as a result.

epimpstyle · 2025-12-04T18:48:48+00:00

super happy with my progress.

That's not progress. I see things differently. Instead of hunting, you embrace the feminine posture of being hunted, having made no effort to approach. You are exactly like a flower that is colorful and smells good to attract the bees. I expected you to make an effort to approach, rather than simply wait to be approached.

Title	Stopped Chasing, now everything flows naturally
Author	Khaled_222
Upvotes	368
Comments	56
Date	December 4, 2025 6:10 PM UTC (7 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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