This might sound like I’m overanalyzing, but I’ve noticed it enough times that I’m curious if anyone else has experienced this.

When I’m walking around the women who seem to make the most eye contact with me are usually ones I personally find very attractive. Like 7.5+, sometimes genuinely very attractive women. They’ll hold eye contact for a couple of seconds, and often they’ll smile too. Sometimes this even happens when they’re walking with their boyfriend.

But then women who I’d consider more average, maybe somewhere in the 4–7 range, often barely look at me at all. Sometimes it’s almost funny because a girl who I’d consider an 8.5 will look at me for two seconds and smile, then a much less attractive girl walks by right after and gives absolutely nothing. Women below that range are more hit or miss.

I’m not saying this from a narcissistic place. I’m not walking around thinking I’m some model or that every woman wants me. I’m just observing it because it seems oddly consistent. Maybe more attractive women are just more confident with eye contact and smiling. Maybe average looking women are more guarded. Maybe I’m just noticing the attractive women more because I’m more aware of thm. I genuinely don’t know.

For context I recently lost about 25 lbs and I’m trying to build more confidence. I want to get better at cold approach but so far I’ve only done 6 approaches and got 1 date. So I’m still very inexperienced and not trying to pretend I have everything figured out.

I guess my question is: has anyone else noticed this kind of thing? Is eye contact plus a smile from very attractive women usually a decent signal or is it still something you should mostly ignore unless you actually approach and find out?