What Are Some Misconceptions That You Learned About The Dating Game?

ChicoBrillo · 2026-03-12T03:44:57+00:00

It's not worth making your main goal in life

LonerOnSorensen · 2026-03-12T03:26:12+00:00

That you will be rewarded when you are considerate. I had to learn that being selfish and assertive gets you action on a consistent basis, and stops your time being wasted.

HTML_Novice · 2026-03-12T04:09:44+00:00

I went from thinking being kind nice attracts girls, to only looks matter, to thinking only game matters, to back where I am now which is really she decides if she likes you or doesn’t as soon as she looks at you

SlowFood3673 · 2026-03-12T03:38:01+00:00

Availability is a sin The more available you appear the less valuable you are If you like a girl simply walk around with another girl Just a friend or whoever in front of them Women want what they can’t have But so does anyone really

ResentCourtship2099 · 2026-03-12T03:41:40+00:00

Well I believe this to be true and that is for all eternity or just I don't know how long it's been that way but just for eons and that is women simply put just have to exist and they by default will get attention from men and have dating options for simply just passively existing but not true if you're a guy when it comes to women.

WebNew9978 · 2026-03-12T03:18:32+00:00

There’s someone out there for everyone.

HomelessMilkman · 2026-03-12T10:58:04+00:00

Most guys are working way too hard for something they can't sustain.

It's not "What do I say" or "What do I do here", it's "How do I speak in a compelling way for 3 hours (or improvise endlessly for that matter)".

It's about having the core fundamental ability to captivate someone's attention for an extended period of time (sustainable, long-lasting attraction); not having all of this preparation for what is a minute worth of an interaction.

Dandys3107 · 2026-03-12T07:40:23+00:00

It's full of misconceptions, mainly due to substantial differences in sexual sphere between genders and our tendency for wishful thinking especially in public space. That being said, you should learn from those that got an abundant experience with seduction and even then you need to test their mindsets and methods yourself whether they fit within your personal style and social circumstances.

Basic_Obligation_341 · 2026-03-12T09:01:31+00:00

Being mysterious or not approaching women was going to make women want me even more, dumbest fucking advice i ever believed

Ok_Mortgage9083 · 2026-03-12T04:59:03+00:00

It goes from:

Make the first move or someone else will.

Women prefer 6 ft 3 hunkish shredded Chris Hemsworth styled dudes.

Women prefer rich dudes with good looks and Ferrari

Be yourself, women will admire you or at least 1 in 100.

Dating game is so confusing and effort driven, with so many issues going on in one's life, worse if you're an introverted non attractive male who couldn't muster a social life.

Remarkable_Outside67 · 2026-03-12T11:38:50+00:00

Even if a girl likes you, if she’s not available for a relationship, you could go on 30 dates and it still won’t turn into anything serious.

Optimal_Prune_953 · 2026-03-12T04:11:06+00:00

I know people will say to not worry about the other comparison and worry about what we need to deal with, while i don't entirely disagree with that, it has long annoyed and irritated me whenever people say that women need to learn dating skills as well when women normally never have to do jackshit to make a relationship happen, since they never have to do the approaching or courting, asking out and leading, it annoys me when women seek dating advice since they don't have to escalate anything

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2026-03-12T18:05:07+00:00

The dating game is pretty much nothing BUT misconceptions from my experience.

water_reducer · 2026-03-12T21:49:08+00:00

cold approach is inherently playing the game from the losing position

nobody who does or preaches doing cold approach is a master of seduction just a fraud who needs volume to get anywhere

Frequent_Jackfruit60 · 2026-03-12T23:47:44+00:00

none of these games work you just have to be yourself and you will find an person, i find mine

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-03-12T08:23:16+00:00

That what you say matters. But what actually matters is creating sexual tension.

That you've got to be verbal to escalate. You can say no words and have a girl you like seek to sit with you for you to feel her up.

You have to be unavailable. I was available most of the time when I wasn't busy with my hobbies as I had a few month fling with a 10/10 girl.

Her attention is a good sign. Sometimes a girl puts in attention because she feels like she should, not because she wants to. Don't take her attention as a secure sign. Always be proactive to be fun and sexual.

Somewhere out there there's an answer to your specific situation. There's not, you have to find out what you want for yourself and go for it, and live with whatever the consequences of that are.

Title	What Are Some Misconceptions That You Learned About The Dating Game?
Author	United-Implement-382
Upvotes	39
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Date	March 12, 2026 3:17 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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