When does approaching ever work

WhereTruthLies · 2019-03-28T05:36:18+00:00

I mostly really cold approach when the girl's waiting for something. Phones are boring so if you approach you're already putting her in a good mood by being friendly and taking her away from it. I approach girls waiting for the bus, class to start, friend to come, food to arrive, etc. Gives a good short time window so I can leave pretty naturally and get a # with just with "hey, I've gotta go but I would love to grab some coffee/food/drinks/your tits tonight/tomorrow and 'pick up where we left off'/'get to know you a little better'/etc" or something like that. If we are really vibing I've just straight up left whatever I was doing too, if I've got a good chance to get laid with a cute girl I'll just cancel my plans and head back to my place with her.

Really just gotta use context clues. I'd never approach a girl with her books sprawled out with headphones in at the library cuz that's just a dick move, studying takes motivation and I'm just some random hitting on her. If she's walking down a shopping mall or walking her dog then go for it. I'm a uni student so all my classes start at either X:30 or X:00 so if it's like X:13 I shoot my shot then too.

IrvineKafka · 2019-03-28T05:49:07+00:00

Yes, you are wrong.

Do it. See what happens. Women enjoy it. If you do it right.

How do you do it right? Practice.

WildinCuzImYoung · 2019-03-28T09:54:49+00:00

Because she is human like you and understands the desire for love. You approach to show your value kind of like if a hot girl approached you and you didn't find out she was hot till she stripped of in front of you. Since they are not attracted to you because other external value indicators like looks or wealth you use your alpha and dominant personality. Would you complain if a hot / high value girl showed you interest?

You are not wasting their time if you are smart, screen them, look for iois and logistics. Then you are no more annoying than a stranger asking for directions. You do your seduction sales pitch and number close because most of the time they are busy so you can get to them when they are not.

White_Mlungu_Capital · 2019-03-29T01:35:37+00:00

Women do not think of this logically in the way men do. In most men's minds, including my own, it makes no sense why a woman would want to be approached at their job or at the grocery store, shopping, etc. But if not then, then where? Whereelse will they find a man? So it kind of does make sense.

ZarathustraSpenta · 2019-03-28T05:51:23+00:00

i works well better than anything else

justinbeef · 2019-03-28T07:09:07+00:00

Because you do not understand women that they like attention. They might be telling their friends how they got approached and bla bla but deep inside it makes them feel validated and they are damn right proud of it.

Keyword here: Attention and getting validated

metal_fist29 · 2019-03-28T09:08:22+00:00

Married women love males hitting on them, it makes them feel desired and like they still got it. Dude attention is like crack for women. So even if she doesn’t want to fuck a random guy she will enjoy the fact he approaches and hits on her.

But there are also married women who will cheat on their husbands too if they meet a really sexy or seductive man and their husband isn’t meeting all their sexual needs.

And also there are single girls who will fuck a sexy or seductive man if he approaches her and seduces her well.

It works. Cold approach works, just not for guys who aren’t smooth or sexy.

Putins_bishop · 2019-03-28T10:56:57+00:00

You should just practice making small talk and being friendly with everyone. The more you do that, you'll see what girls are single/receptive to tour advances.

brabg · 2019-03-28T14:03:42+00:00

What had you already learn about pickup?

Do you have a plan when approaching a girl, or no clue?.

John-lovestosposh · 2019-03-28T14:11:35+00:00

Hahaha it works.

Learn, from experienced pua and they will show you.

You aren’t psychic, you don’t know if that girl is waiting for man to approach her or has a bf/husband.

Go take a chance and be a man.

P.s. 99% of hot girls don’t approach, they are too chicken. So go do it and learn if you fail.

kalz44 · 2019-03-28T17:57:02+00:00

You're not wrong. If your goal is to attract women, a lot of times cold approaches don't work. You're also right about the odds being against you, most women will write you off before you even open your mouth. The truth is you have to put yourself "out there' i.e. in a position to be rejected in order to find someone. Cold approaches are supposed to be uncomfortable. They're supposed to feel like awkward but (like anything) the more you do the better and more comfortable you'll be. To answer your question you’re not wrong but it doesn’t mean you’re right. Because if you decide that “the odds are stacked against me” and “why on earth would a sensible woman want to be approached by a random stranger?” then that’s what you’ll experience. But if you decide to be more curious, social and have a bit more fun, you’ll have a better time.

dailymanup · 2019-03-28T18:00:17+00:00

Approaching works when you make it work. Here's some tips

IntoxicatedOrange · 2019-03-28T22:15:40+00:00

It can work because adults (especially 25+) don't have the opportunities to meet people like younger people do. But also if you're attractive and have value, then why wouldn't she want to be approached by you? Would you want to be approached by an attractive woman who was a stranger? I'm guessing the answer is yes. So why wouldn't it work the other way around?

DarkArtsPUA11 · 2019-03-29T05:24:43+00:00

Cold approaching rarely works. Success rate is like 1 out of 200 approaches equals a lay. And the girl will be low quality, 5-6/10 at best

People recommend cold approach because it’s the easiest to get started. But in reality it’s one of the worst ways to meet women.

Frankly, there is no good way to meet women. Most guys are essentially fucked because they can’t find places to surround themselves with opportunity. There really are limited options. Sure you can take classes and go to events, but this isn’t scalable. In order to see success with women, you need to roll dice several times, even if you are good quality. If you are average quality, then you may NEVER pull a decent looking girl with just your “wit” and “charm” alone. At this point you need money, status, influence, some type of value that directly benefits the chick’s life in order for her to spend time with you.

Essentially, you are being used for what you can provide, and not who are you. Sorry to reveal the reality, but that’s basically the love and sex life of the average male. Now the options you have here are 1) kill yourself 2) say fuck it, maximize yourself, and just roll with whatever happens. I recommend number #2

DajuanKev · 2019-03-28T16:03:06+00:00

Your op is brilliantly written for that type of scenario. Approaches work when you least expect them to. Either the woman is taken, she isn't or you have sick "I don't give a fuckness."

Dilpil01 · 2019-03-28T09:18:03+00:00

One important thing to note, straight up cold approach not disguised with an observational opener or without some reason to initiate conversation is indeed creepy! Approaching a girl at a supermarket usually isn't going to end well at all. Even she doesn't straight out reject you, it's hard to keep the conversation flowing. Even if your lucky enough to get a number, you've set yourself as the creepy guy who approaches girls for no reason. You generally can't create enough rapport in the breifly interaction at the super market to convince her to hang out at some other time. It may work once in 100 times but that doesn't mean it's good.

I support cold approaching, but only done in a context where there is a means of initiating conversation. Maybe youre in a foreign city on the train and want a recommendation where to go out. Maybe you are shopping for Christmas presents and need help choosing one for your mum. Maybe you're bored waiting in line and notice she's reading a book youre interested in. These are warmer opens and once you start them, the trick is to hold in there to get the conversation going and to make something from it, at least enough to get her to hang with you again which at very least is getting her laughing and getting her social media.

darksidessj25 · 2019-03-28T16:50:47+00:00

Dude they are not interested in you if they don't look at you or give you any approach signals. Learn to read them. I use to approach girls in college and at the gym back in the day and I didn't have the slightest Idea it was called Game. I didn't even know what I was doing. My first approach was this Japanese girl named Pearl. She kept on making eye-contact with me and smiling. After that I approached her before she took off in the cross walk. I just said Hi how's it going. After that I Added her on FB. Then we went out on three dates and then she came over to my place. The second girl that I approached was a blonde that I was in class with. She would look at me and then I would look back. Then I came up to her and started to get to know her. After that we started going out to. She called me her boyfriend and I was in High School at the time while she was in college. I was pretty dumb but I knew when a girl was attracted to me. I couldn't pull though but I got extremely close. Don't second guess yourself. Just approach

Title	When does approaching ever work
Author	GoldSmith64
Upvotes	22
Comments	40
Date	March 28, 2019 5:20 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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