Why do girls always go for jerks when I'm a nice guy?

subliminal_entity · 2024-10-07T20:34:16+00:00

Are u trolling? 💀 nice bait

Ok_Potential359 · 2024-10-07T21:10:25+00:00

Because you’re not being authentic dude when your intention is clearly that you want to fuck.

No “nice guy” is ever truly nice when they come ready with a hidden agenda, that just makes you an asshole.

These other dudes are only jerks because you wait forever with your cock in your hand before making a move. Trying to white knight your way to pussy is so stupid.

Seriously, be honest and direct with what you want and you’ll get what you want but this lame bullshit of wanting to be respectful and patience is trash because you’re denying your primitive sexual urges.

Alphagreen_97 · 2024-10-07T20:36:20+00:00

Because you're being friendly. A friend, rather than a lover. They want a lover. Tease them. Don't always be available. Don't always initiate contact. Be indifferent to their interest level. Make an offer to go drink something, if they decline, move on. Inform yourself regarding female shit tests. A shit test could be a verbal insult. A shit test could be them asking you for help changing their light bulb or something mundane like that. Inform yourself.

MP8877 · 2024-10-07T21:11:28+00:00

“I’m a nice guy”

Proceeds to be an absolute dickface in the comments to people trying answer his question.

Miserable-Swing9275 · 2024-10-07T20:45:10+00:00

If this isn’t bait somebody should tell bro that nice guys finish last - or in this case by themselves in the bathroom

HarpertFredje · 2024-10-07T20:45:18+00:00

Being too nice is boring. Women are more attracted to men who can lead, create emotional tension and have an outgoing fun personality. If you are always nice they see you as weak and not sexually challenging.

oicangi18 · 2024-10-07T20:37:15+00:00

Bait

badideas222 · 2024-10-07T20:33:15+00:00

What you’re doing wrong is doing things for female friends and expecting something for it. Thats manipulation, and not being good guy, cause you expect them to want you after.and don’t wait the three days etc with dates. I think you’re overthinking and being a doormat a bit and that’s a turn off. Stand up straight!

Breezaddy · 2024-10-07T20:56:04+00:00

I pray this dude is trolling, if not you might just be cooked brother

habbo311 · 2024-10-07T20:57:47+00:00

Because they require a man to actively try to literally fuck them. They can't do anything sexual unless you pressure them for sex which is where being nice fails

redspikedog · 2024-10-07T20:58:04+00:00

Thats not doing everything right.

Thats doing everything gay best friend.

Respectful is good. Complimenting is good.

Now, where is the unique compliment and a pinch of showing interest in them AT THE VERY BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP.

Where is the tease and banter? The push pull?

If you show interest at the last minute, she already sees you as a gay best friend. Not a guy with a penis.

Alextryingforgrate · 2024-10-07T20:55:40+00:00

Because chicks get jerks arrogance mixed up with confidence. Chicks want a confident guy. Thats it end of story. Go throught IG and find all the women dating coaches and the #1 thing women are looking for is confidence. Even start a poll here on Reddit in askreddit and ask what women are looking for.

End of Story.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-10-07T21:04:01+00:00

Women behave in accordance with how they categorize each guy they talk to.

Girls actually like nice guys that are willing to connect with them and support them, but you would never know it because of how they operate.

Liking someone is different than being aroused by someone.

When a girl likes you she does not want you to perceive her as a ho, so the more she likes you, the more she withholds and the more she tests you.

The exact same girl that makes you wait past the 3rd date is sleeping with some guy that never took her on a date...he is expendable so she doesn't care how he perceives her, she just thinks he's attractive but sees no future, so she's going to get hers without the psychological back and fourth

Dottybarr · 2024-10-07T21:05:50+00:00

Women aren't attracted to to men who are compliant and deferential to them, who are always there to be a friend.

Women are attracted to men who are independent.

itsmecuhhh · 2024-10-07T21:08:45+00:00

youre trolling there’s no way

AverageAlleyKat271 · 2024-10-07T21:23:12+00:00

Somehow you need to let them know you are interested in them while being respectful, that you aren't looking for just a friendship, but hopefully a relationship. Seduce the mind (intellectually) and the body will follow. Take it from a woman, we like to be intrigued with playful, banter and gentle teasing.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-10-08T00:50:06+00:00

Based on your comments here and your very hostile attitude, you're absolutely not a nice guy.

The truth is that you act like a nice guy to get what you want, and when you don't get that you show your true colors. Women see through your game.

rememberdeathoften · 2024-10-08T01:56:15+00:00

Read a romance/erotic book written by a woman and you’ll see exactly what type of guy women want and you’ll see it’s not the nice guy because they’re boring and don’t spark any emotions in her

refriaire · 2024-10-08T04:02:03+00:00

Look up "Nice guy syndrome". We all were "nice guys" at some point. You just have to learn to be a good man instead of a "nice guy".

bad_intentions_too · 2024-10-08T04:55:13+00:00

That’s a figment of your imagination. Most of my friends and I like gentlemen.

Long-Review-1861 · 2024-10-08T05:39:31+00:00

Nowadays most girls sleep with you on the first date. Consequences of a hook up culture 😐

VrilHunter · 2024-10-08T06:07:21+00:00

Says he's a nice guy while he replies to the comments like a sarcastic asshole not being able to accept that some of them might be the correct answers to your question.

You're clearly not a nice guy and everyone here can see that. So does every woman you try to date.

Mujaki · 2024-10-08T12:52:49+00:00

Nothing about your replies says you're actually a nice guy. It's full of incel sarcasm and frustration, and the frustration is because you inherently think you're owed something for being nice. Women, and people in general, can smell that fake facade a mile away.

You're "acting" nice to women. You aren't actually nice.

As others have said, grow up.

Diligent-Yak-1412 · 2024-10-07T21:20:00+00:00

İ cant take this post serious somehow.... probably bait

InstructionAbject763 · 2024-10-12T06:20:13+00:00

Being nice is the bare minimum of all human interactions

No one on planet Earth owes you a God damned thing for being a nice person.

You aren't owed anything for not being harmful

You have to actually be interesting. Entertaining. Fun.

As long as you have the kind part down. You have to actually develop your personality beyond "nice"

Because nice isn't a personality trait. It should be your default and not something you should base your whole persona off of

Be nice. But like, be a genuine human being too and figure out how to convey the cool and fun and enjoyable things about yourself versus focusing on doing everything right and being uber kind.

Kindness shouldn't be your shining quality

Nobody ever gets with a guy because "Oh, I just love how he doesn't abuse me!"

Like. I'm sorry. But not seeing women as only sex objects isn't some thing you should see in yourself as a positive quality as that should be standard

Title	Why do girls always go for jerks when I'm a nice guy?
Author	newrisingsun70
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Comments	92
Date	October 7, 2024 8:22 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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