Telling Me to Apologize

themerovingian01 · 2019-09-23T14:56:31+00:00

Dude, don't be a weirdo and insecure. It is completely normal for sisters and even friends to sleep in the same bed. Are you worried there's some kind of lesbian incest going? If there was I'd angle for an epic threesome, just saying.

andyturbo2000 · 2019-09-23T14:46:59+00:00

Firstly, don't respond to things like this via text. Texts are for logistics only.

Next, stop s**t testing your spouse with stupid comments like "I find that creepy so I told her it was creepy". Why would you think that anyway.

Next, stop the tit for tat clothes war. You're a man. You don't get sucked into things like that.

Start exercising STFU.

SteelToeShitKicker · 2019-09-23T16:08:48+00:00

I find that creepy so I told her it was creepy.

Stop being a weirdo and watching incest porn.

I laid her clean clothes on a clean floor because she had heaped my clothes on our second, dirty washing machine and some of my clothes had fallen into the dirty spaces between machines and was in the process of moving my clothes

Captain, make a fucking system and inform the first officer. I have a corner of our room that we dump clean clothes in if we don't have time to fold them. Anything in a laundry basket, hamper or anywhere else on the floor is assumed dirty. Simple, no fuss. Having operational problems? Fix them.

HornsOfApathy · 2019-09-23T14:51:35+00:00

Thoughts?

You're a weak man that acts like an asshole in a failed attempt at what you'd call "holding frame" and "not dealing with this childish shit anymore" when it's actually just another layer of ego you're hiding behind because you're afraid. You also know nothing of the way women really are because if you did - you'd know that being emotional (what you call "childish") is in their fucking DNA. I think if you wanted to even remotely learn to harness this knowledge, you'd have to drop your ego and get out of her frame because you have been there for longer than you think.

That's what I think.

My question for you is: Let's pretend all that shit I think is actually true. What would you do about it?

Smuggler-Tuek · 2019-09-23T15:08:23+00:00

The clothes thing is fucking hilarious. I can’t imagine caring about something like this. How bored are you? Get a hobby or something dude and just laugh this shit off.

0io- · 2019-09-23T15:05:43+00:00

STFU and don't complain about your wife's little sister sleeping in your bed. Work on improving your lifts at the gym. (It's the questions that aren't asked that are the most important.)

echo979 · 2019-09-23T16:39:35+00:00

In your shoes, I would have laughed my ass off. Would have asked also what the sister is wearing in my bed, to see if I approve. There are standards of sexiness to be maintained.

Iammrp2 · 2019-09-23T15:38:57+00:00

Correct your behavior but don't apologize. Listen to her. Really listen. And then say "I won't put your clothes on the floor anymore". Then actually do what you say. Do this in person. Not over text.

If it's a small thing like that just comply. Focus on keeping the ship sailing. My wife just text me that she found some land to buy. I didn't respond. If she brings it up in person here's my chance to say "no, not yet". Let her win these little battles so you can win the war. Women want to feel in control so let them while you're actually in control and taking the ship where it needs to be. If you get to a point where you need to feel in control that is just your ego. You are only in control of yourself.

But really it depends on where you are. Are you still dodging bullets? Read /u/GoingOnAJourney. He's got some massive shit tests thrown at him and he needs to absolutely stand his ground. But once you're comfortable saying no learn to say yes and know it's not a big deal so long as the ship is sailing.

weakandsensitive · 2019-09-23T14:38:32+00:00

Dude. Keep on being an asshole so you show her how strong you are and how well you can hold frame.

You're a man - you have to be strong like one. And nothing says strong man like winning at petty bullshit and being an asshole.

Daddy_ThunderCock · 2019-09-23T15:41:40+00:00

Why are you being a dick to a little girl? Do you have a little girl? If so, would you treat her like that?

Secondly, don't respond to shit like that. Pretend it never happened and move on with life, she will forget all about it. Come home and be a fucking man. Learn how to change her emotions with your powerful masculinity. You are lifting right? You could walk into a room and change the energy by your sheer manly energy right?

Your wife is still insecure with your leadership. She knows you don't like her and think she is annoying. She feels your arrogant cunty attitude. Your issue is that you aren't a Captain worth following right now. If your weak ass post is any indication of your leadership you have a lot of work to do ----------->

2ndal · 2019-09-23T15:41:01+00:00

This is like trying to put a bandaid on a broken leg. Evaluate the events that led up to this and take responsibility for where things ended up. Consider that you find yourself DEERing to a group of strangers on the Internet about how you were right in a confrontation with your wife. How did you end up here? You fucked up, you engaged in petty back-and-forths, you introduced shame and sexuality into a story about her sister. You let your household become a mess of disorganization. And now you're still desperately trying to protect your own ego. Your wife is right. I wouldn't want to deal with your childish shit anymore either.

Rifleshoot · 2019-09-23T15:43:36+00:00

You’re confusing frame with being an ass. Did your wife intentionally mess up your laundry? Probably not. You, on the other hand, decided to be petty over what was probably a legitimate mistake. And who cares if she’s in the same bed as her sister? Women do that.

SBIII · 2019-09-23T16:03:51+00:00

Lesbian sisters.

Nice.

RStonePT · 2019-09-23T19:19:18+00:00

Last time I was commanded to apologize and laughed.

She knows she isn't going to get one, not unless I decide it's warranted. I never thought about running my mouth like you did though, as I also know she isn't going to get explanations either

red-sfpplus · 2019-09-23T15:50:16+00:00

I would knock you the fuck out if you put my clothes on the floor.

jjj2576 · 2019-09-23T16:28:06+00:00

Bet you wouldn’t have said something asinine if you STFU.

RedPillGlasses · 2019-09-23T16:35:28+00:00

I don’t care that you told that her sister in bed was creepy. I think it’s creepy too.

That’s the same bed were you (hopefully) force her to take it in the ass and call her a dumb fucktoy.

I don’t let children in my bed for the exact same reason

Something tells me that’s not the case, so we’ll just move on.

Her - “Apologize for being an asshole”

You - “Nah, I’m good. It took me YEARS of work to get like this, wouldn’t want to mess it up now.”

Stop being a faggot and it will get better.

RedPillGlasses · 2019-09-23T18:29:32+00:00

Our bed is a fucking jungle gym.

There’s lube, cum and sex toys all over the place. I smack the shit out of her in that bed, and that’s before we start fucking

Having ANY family members in your bed is an absolute no-go. No kids, no siblings, no anybody.

Your marital bed should be the epitome of your raw unbridled masculine power. Not a fucking “sleepover spot”.

MeansToABenz · 2019-09-23T22:55:40+00:00

You’re weird

mrpmonk · 2019-09-24T13:58:25+00:00

I would not respond so she won't drag me to her level. How about letting things cool down until you meet in person and set down together to discuss what happened: Listen to all she has to say and briefly respond at the end by what could make you feel more comfortable and why you are together in this.

tap0988534 · 2019-09-24T14:16:11+00:00

That came across as super judgemental. You should have told her how hot it was and let her know you'd take her sister to poundtown in heartbeat too. Maybe texted back a few pics of yourself wanking over the idea of them in bed together? Definitely jump on the first flight home so you can get in on the action.

NeoTheJuanDJ · 2019-10-04T21:06:03+00:00

Petty shit is petty. Part of being a leader is taking the higher road. You fail to do this when you play your petty games. You literally lower yourself down to a child’s (your emotional wife) level, which is what she was afraid of, and is what she was testing for in the first place to see if you’ll do (shit test which you failed), and you confirmed your lack of competence as a leader in her mind , when you should have had a rule set in place for the clothes and where they are to be put in the first place, and didn’t, and then tried to “one-up her” with the laundry so you could feel dominant and be the “winner”. You’re pissed because your laundry wasn’t put the way you wanted it? You’re captain, assign a location and system for the laundry, where it’s to be placed when washed or dirty. But you didn’t do that. And you’re all butt hurt, playing tit-for-tat games keeping score, because you fear taking the lead. I bet this is one microcosm of the overall picture and happens quite often, especially because you “didn’t want to go too much into detail and there’s a history”. Are you afraid to lead? Are you looking for validation from us that you handled this well and you’re wife’s the poopy-head, and you totally aren’t! This is pathetic. Take the lead, stop living in your wife’s frame and trying to teach her a lesson because that need to teach her a lesson is actually your ego, telling you to be a dick so you can be “alpha” and “win” the battle, but in reality is your insecurities seeking her validation as the victor so you can pretend you’re running shit. She looks at you like you can’t lead, and you literally dove from the captain’s seat to roll in the mud with the pigs. Who’s behind the wheel?

an asked apology is an open-door invitation to enter the questioner’s frame. I would say laugh it off using amused mastery, but you’re already ballzdeep in her frame as it is. Game plan: Don’t acknowledge it. Don’t react. Don’t DEER. Nothing. No texting, no phone call. You didn’t do yourself any favours by playing petty one-up-manship games with your wife because you were butt hurt (your realization you failed to set a plan in place for the laundry and how things operate) or being an asshole over the phone (which was your ego compensating for lack of leadership and frame, by needing to be over the top polarizing). Go home, STFU, grab the steering wheel of the ship, and stop playing petty games because you’re chipping away at your presence as the leader.

Tiway22 · 2019-09-23T16:50:33+00:00

You sound extremely immature. No wonder your wife doesn’t respect you.

peaceandlug · 2019-09-23T16:51:46+00:00

Apologize. You are extremely weird.

Stop being a prissy little faggot.

Title	Telling Me to Apologize
Author	jdertyd15
Upvotes	0
Comments	52
Date	September 23, 2019 2:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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