My Thoughts After 15 Approaches

1hatethis · 2022-03-03T10:59:36+00:00

1 in 15 manifesting into something is a pretty good success ratio honestly. Good job

putcoolusernamehere · 2022-03-03T16:31:43+00:00

"- Most girls are generally happy to have a chat."

I think this is something most guys considering doing cold approach need to hear. I've done hundreds of approaches, maybe thousands, and the majority of them were at least willing to talk. Even if they rejected me or gave me their number then ghosted me, they usually were down to have a short conversation. This is especially true rn, with the pandemic just starting to end... people in general are starved of social interactions and most would gladly welcome a 5 minute convo with a random guy, even if it goes nowhere.

Sketches558 · 2022-03-03T11:31:48+00:00

Yo I'm beginning to actually get out and approach women/girls instead of just consuming pickup material, which I've done a lot for year's I've approached very less like about 4-5 girls(I can't exactly remember), keep me posted so I can map our journey. And yeah most of the girls are pretty receptive.

SocialKing_ · 2022-03-03T19:00:10+00:00

Good job mate.

I can see how you'd think it's a numbers game, and to an extent it is.

However, there are some things you should be aware of.

Firstly, if you're getting the I have a boyfriend shit test then 50% of the time, then you really need to change up your opening style.

For me, I always go for indirect open and I hardly ever get a blatant rejection.

Also, learn how to pass shit tests and don't just go for numbers as a goal. Try and see how far you can take the interaction in just one night.

If the numbers aren't solid, then it means that there wasn't enough attraction and sexual tension established in the interaction and you never suggested any future plans to meet.

Once you get comfortable enough with approaching, you'll want to stick to one set for the entire night, instead of jumping from set to set.

ikonik7 · 2022-03-03T15:01:45+00:00

Whenever I see an attractive girl I always assume she has a bf and move on. It's probably hurt me more then helped.

Grayson_42 · 2022-03-03T19:11:34+00:00

Can you explain the push/pull flirting skill?

LandscapeClear1630 · 2022-03-03T16:34:13+00:00

15 approaches and already trying to give advice... lmao

redditdave · 2022-03-04T00:08:57+00:00

elaborate on what "push pull" flirting is?

bandsupjay · 2022-03-04T03:34:13+00:00

I feel like push and pull is so good because you only have a limited time of talking to the girl, so you need to stir up some shit. Other than that, its okay. Its a good thing to have naturally by just not giving a fuck and not caring if she disapproves of you or not.

wayoflifeforme · 2022-03-03T16:10:41+00:00

approaching is good

Yeah man I agree, but lmao one night I got approached by about 7 different women (I have self esteem issues, despite being told positive things etc)

Then a while later I approached a woman and got shot down like fuck. Mind you she looked like one of those crazy “typical” liberal angry feminist chicks, but hey it’s not an reflection on anything just an “interesting” blogpost lol

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-03T11:35:44+00:00

I will refute some of your thoughts here.

-rejection - there is absolutely no need to ever get rejected. You only get rejected when you want something out of the girl, whether it's her validation, approval, number or sex. I haven't been "rejected" in years because I never approach women wanting something. I simply go to talk to them to find out if they are interesting. That's all. No one can reject you that way.

-absolutely not a numbers game. If you indiscriminately approach women the sure. But if you are smart and approach the ones who want to be approached your success rate can be 100% and you won't have to approach anymore than once or twice a week.

yea

-yea

-push pull? It's just called flirting don't go overboard with weird techniques.

-yes

-yes, especially this. Women will be attracted by the sheer act of approaching them confidently.

Sup3rHD · 2022-03-03T15:10:13+00:00

15 are Nothing And also are cold approach, you dont even know if the girls like u or not. No signals etc. If u go out with the intent to approach girls, thats why u have no success.

U have to approach girls that stare at you or give you sort of signals.

Boyfriend= im not interested

5_7pickup · 2022-03-03T10:59:36+00:00

1 month and only 15 approaches....? Bro you gotta step up your game.

ProperDefinition6668 · 2022-03-03T16:03:29+00:00

Month 2 go for 30 approaches, so on and so forth...

btw OP, did you struggle with any negative self talk about your insecurities right before the approach?

NineteenAD9 · 2022-03-03T16:30:04+00:00

This is the way. You're getting it very quickly. Sounds like your process is solid and your confidence is high. Those are the most important things here.

You can't control women giving out their number nonconfrontationally or the ones who "have" boyfriends. Eventually you'll start getting more hits.

Kronuk · 2022-03-03T23:49:47+00:00

Huge one that I've been internalizing and fully realizing/understanding lately is the importance of not what you say, but how you say it. Staying calm, speaking low and slow will literally take you to the moon when it comes to success with women. Don't need any kind of lines and I can just talk in that way which is inherently a bit sexual in nature. Has drastically improved my success.

dnaisdmt · 2022-03-04T02:35:38+00:00

Have you had a single success yet?

LosinMyMiiind · 2022-03-04T13:35:52+00:00

Really cool post, thanks for posting this. You should make this into a series lol, like the next post will be "Thoughts after 50 approaches" and so on, could be cool!

Title	My Thoughts After 15 Approaches
Author	dnaisdmt
Upvotes	262
Comments	102
Date	March 3, 2022 10:48 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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