Has anyone actually achieved this mentality with women?

itsamatterofattitude · 2022-09-27T20:37:25+00:00

You're conflicting sexual desires with social interactions and trying to find a way to reconcile the two.

Ask yourself this question: What's the worst that will happen if I don't get to bang this woman I'm talking to?

Listen, I get it; you meet an attractive woman, start chatting, flirting... You check out her breast and imagine what her nipples look like, what her skin feels like, how she kisses, etc. ect... And your mind starts creating all these scenarios and you start to really desire her...

And then nothing.

And its ok.

It's not the end of the world. you wont die if you don't sleep with her. Life goes on.

Here's the real secret to obtaining that mindset:

Accept that you will never... EVER... sleep with 100% of the women you're attracted to. Just focus on enjoying the occasions you have with the women you do.

itachiman95 · 2022-09-28T08:26:07+00:00

a big part of this mindset is a male's attachment to porn, women are people too. you stop watching porn it suddenly becomes easy to view women as people and not just sexual objects

Contango6969 · 2022-09-27T20:00:20+00:00

It is obtainable. You aren’t changing yourself at your core. You just have abundance and don’t perceive scarcity with women. So if one of them doesn’t like you, oh well, there a million others, why should you care. It’s the natural way of thinking when you have an abundance of anything.

I would dissuade you from trying to achieve this through meditation, therapy, books, mindfulness, affirmations, journaling, hypnosis, etc.

SeaPen333 · 2022-09-28T00:59:15+00:00

Do you think this way about older women or women you don’t feel attraction to? Do you have friendships with women you aren’t attracted to? Do you strike up conversations with those around you regardless of their sex?

TruSiris · 2022-09-27T20:32:56+00:00

I just look at it like I didn't have her before so there's no loss. But i did do something corageous so that's a win.

Think_History_5682 · 2022-09-28T01:16:40+00:00

If your sex desires are satiated this will happen and this will happen easily. You won't give a fuk

So how do you satiate your sex desires without violating your above terms?

You go out and get sex from women whose job it is to give it to you

Or if you are particularly attractive socially positioned and have game get a FWB

Easy peasy

Neo-Rio · 2022-09-28T02:34:01+00:00

When you have a huge track record of success with women, you will get there. You stop giving a screw about outcomes. You're less desperate to make the sex pop off.

So you invite some girl back to your place, and suddenly the girl is carrying on like the second part of "Paradise by the dashboard light", you just don't care that you're going to cop a blueballing, so you kick her out... or let her go, which is more likely to happen.

Woujo · 2022-09-28T04:20:01+00:00

You need abundance mentality - the feeling that you can get whatever girl you want, so you do not necessarily need THIS girl at this particular time.

Senior-Dot387 · 2022-09-28T06:08:50+00:00

Yeah I’ve adopted this mindset, it works rather well.

The reason you’re having trouble achieving this mentality is because you’re lying to yourself. You need a legitimate reason that will be extremely personal to you in order to fully adopt the mindset.

The reason I came up with is; I feel relationships are unnecessary and only hold you back from achieving goals. In terms of not caring whether or not I got sex, the amount of time and money you have to put in just isn’t worth it.

These reasons most likely won’t work for you, you will have to think of your own.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-09-28T08:03:01+00:00

Yep, achieved it.

incognito3107 · 2022-09-28T10:29:44+00:00

I guess it comes when you love the game and yourself enough to simply enjoy your interactions with others.

Also, restraining yourself from compulsive masturbation and porn will allow you to see women as much more than just sexual objects.

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-09-28T14:59:27+00:00

Your definitely on the right track. Letting go of the outcome should be a major focus.

In my view, the best way to do this is to self amuse and make everything fun. Look at sex, numbers, and getting girls as a byproduct of learning social skills and talking to lots of people.

Make the focus the actual conversation and learn to love the process. By 'process' I mean the seductive conversation. Learn to love the process and interacting with people. Be fascinated by social communications and look at each sticking point as a puzzle to solve.

If you get the skills down, having a sex life or a girlfriend won't be a difficult thing to achieve. BUt yea, focus on the process not the outcome. Self amuse your way through it. Don't take yourself too seriously and use game as a way to work on that.

Ok-Card-7559 · 2022-09-28T15:42:12+00:00

Yes I have. It came after being rejected enough to feel the bottom, trying some push away techniques and changing the definition of the feeling of attraction in me from I want her to I should engage this girl in a power fight and win.

sparklingwinepapi92 · 2022-09-28T17:01:47+00:00

I achieved this mentality long ago, and yes in a way it is kind of a superpower. It is totally obtainable.

Now I don’t expect myself to not care about the outcomes. Because that’s not really possible. I can’t just decide I don’t care about it. Because I still will care not matter how much try not to care. I would be lying to myself, and trying to suppress my sexuality.

There are not one, but two different outcomes: the micro-outcomes (interactions with individual women) vs the macro-outcome (how well you do with women as a whole). It's near impossible to not care about the macro-outcome and you shouldn't stop caring about that.

What you do need to do is detach yourself from the micro-level outcomes when it comes to individual interactions with women. That woman your talking to is a human being just like you, she has her own agency and autonomy.

She is going to decide whether or not she is interested in sex, relationship, a mere friendship, or whatever and that's something that's ultimately beyond your control.

She is one of millions of other women out there, who are not a hivemind. The outcome of that interaction with her will only impact the outcomes of future interactions with different women if you let it. Even if she rejects your advances, there will be someone else who will happily give you a chance. Life goes on, brah!

If you're noticing a pattern of getting rejected by women, then you need to step back and take an honest look at the macro-level bigger picture.

Maybe you just haven't approached enough women, maybe you're going for the wrong types of women, maybe you're looking for women in the wrong places, maybe you're coming off a certain way that women find unattractive.

Erbium-Oxide · 2022-09-28T17:25:53+00:00

Here’s my advice: Try to converse with women you aren’t attracted to, and then realize that the cute ones are the same.

zapadz · 2022-09-28T17:30:54+00:00

Yes, you need to meet your own needs fully

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWe6KFgmcgc

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7L2MzmE8cwo

Legitimate-Remove302 · 2022-09-30T08:01:35+00:00

...befriend women you dont want to fuck?

establish a healthy relationship with a woman in your family. (mother, cousin, aunt, sister)

be genuine and have a real willingness to connect. dont feign interest.

pretty easy.

Title	Has anyone actually achieved this mentality with women?
Author	EatUhFrank
Upvotes	40
Comments	42
Date	September 27, 2022 7:36 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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