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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 6 | Flashbacks to assault (trigger warning)Thank you! I have to say I experience the same mistrust. I feel very uncomfortable around men and I don’t think I’ll ever fell fully comfortable being intimate with them. I was feeling so abnormal for having those feelings, but I suppose it’s for the better. | /r/askFDS | 01/12/21 09:22 PM |
| 6 | Flashbacks to assault (trigger warning)Thank you for your kind words of support. I often punish myself for allowing so much of my mental space to be co-opted by my abuse/assault, but I’m realizing I’m not in the wrong to feel the way I do. The individual who took advantage of me in a vulnerable state is in the wrong and my healing can’t progress if I shame myself. | /r/askFDS | 01/12/21 08:40 PM |
| 6 | Why do guys remain friends with ex girlfriends while seeing other girls?Yes, this is absolutely the truth! It’s quite ironic that the men I’ve observed to brag about their ability to pick up women are the very one’s clinging and manipulating ex’s and vulnerable women. Lol if they were so capable of attracting a variety of high caliber partners, you’d think they wouldn’t have to draft such an elaborate triangulation plan. | /r/askFDS | 09/11/21 03:31 AM |
| 9 | Why do some men prefer receiving oral sex over intercourse? Are they pornsick or are they just selfish?That is unbelievably gross 🤢! However, it makes sense. For men, everything is about dominance and control. | /r/askFDS | 12/10/21 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*I’m so sorry you had to go through a similar situation. It is just awful. I feel like I’m totally spiraling. If you feel comfortable sharing, I’d love to chat about how you made piece with that situation. | /r/askFDS | 25/09/21 10:16 PM |
| 6 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*You were absolutely right! I should have stopped talking to him after our first encounter, but I feel for the intense love bombing that followed our encounter and that drew me back in. He is clearly not only a very sad and low value man, but he is also extremely manipulative and dangerous. He hates women and I was a victim of that hatred. | /r/askFDS | 24/09/21 09:01 PM |
| 7 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*You are so right. Thank you for this support! | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 03:11 PM |
| 15 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*Well, next door, but recently his been staying at his family home several times a week. That’s where I met him yesterday. He lives in the apartment unit next door usually .! | /r/askFDS | 22/09/21 11:28 PM |
| 15 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*Yes, but I feel far to ashamed to tell any of my closest friends, because I’m truth, they warned me. They said is “energy was not good” and that he gave them “creepy vibes.” So I feel like this is an “I told you so moment.” I feel so embarrassed because I actually fought with my best friend to defend his character. It sucks to be a young woman in desperate need of make validation. | /r/askFDS | 22/09/21 10:52 PM |
| 13 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*I’m nervous to even leave my apartment, as I know he hangs out at the bar next door around this time. I don’t want to risk leaving my apartment right now and have him manipulate me with “kindness.” I think I just need to settle my emotions and clear my mind and do it tomorrow. | /r/askFDS | 22/09/21 10:45 PM |
| 18 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*I’m very scared to do this. | /r/askFDS | 22/09/21 10:43 PM |
| 18 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*Thank you for this! It’s hard to acknowledge reality. I’ve never felt like this before, and I never imagined being a victim. | /r/askFDS | 22/09/21 10:29 PM |
| 26 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*You’re right. It doesn’t matter what we call it. The intent is still the same. Ugh he’s so disgusting 🤮. | /r/askFDS | 22/09/21 10:22 PM |
| 24 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*I have no evidence :(. Plus I’m almost convinced he make my life hell, as he’s my neighbor. | /r/askFDS | 22/09/21 10:19 PM |
| 21 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*Oh , gosh, really? I hate to admit that, as I didn’t explicitly say no. I definitely felt violated, and I haven’t been at ease ever since. | /r/askFDS | 22/09/21 09:47 PM |
| 33 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*Yes, I hadn’t spoken to him for a bit, as I was just trying to focus on myself and my priorities, but he called me up yesterday to apologize and invited me over on “platonic” pretenses. I know I shouldn’t have gone over. Despite all the discomfort he has made me feel, I guess a small part of me had affection for the kind parts of him I’ve experienced. It was definitely an action against my better judgement. I should have just continued no contact sigh. | /r/askFDS | 22/09/21 09:10 PM |
| 60 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*Yes, have already blocked and deleted. Thank you for this validation! | /r/askFDS | 22/09/21 09:06 PM |
| 20 | Are men who won’t accept a woman with public hair LVM who are porn sick? Or is no hair down there merely a sexual preference ?Yes, you’ve got it down. I know, I know totally unbelievable. All this coming from a 5’5”, out of shape, 37 yr old who is still convinced he is gonna make it as a “rockstar”. The audacity is rich. | /r/askFDS | 15/09/21 09:53 PM |
| 38 | Are men who won’t accept a woman with public hair LVM who are porn sick? Or is no hair down there merely a sexual preference ?Yes, unfortunately, this is a true story. A LV man claimed that his desire for sex was lowered by the sight of my pubic hair. He insisted that it was his preference, as if my sole person is to adapt to all his preferences. | /r/askFDS | 15/09/21 08:43 PM |
| 10 | Feeling stressed, depressed, and unfocused due to a LVM. Having a very sad day. Help! How do I snap out of it?Well, it would make me feel better to receive a text knowing he is thinking about me, even if I don’t have any intention of responding; but I know that’s toxic. I’m just gonna lay in bed for a bit this afternoon, meditate, and listen to some feel hood tunes. Ugh he has love bombed me so intensely so it’s hard to not seek that validation, and to make matters worse I’m scared I’ll run into if I leave my apartment, as he lives right next door. | /r/askFDS | 13/09/21 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Is it normal to feel severely depressed after casual sex? How do I stop feeling shameful and worthless?Wow, the past self you described is exactly what I am going through now. It is very difficult to remain focused on self-care and my academic obligations when my mind is wondering where he is and what he is doing. In the week since our sexual encounter, I’ve managed to avoid any more sexual intimacy with him BUT we have spent several long nights “hanging out” as friends. It is very confusing because he pours his feelings out to me and insists that I’m such a lovely presence in his life, however, … | /r/askFDS | 10/09/21 06:13 PM |
| 5 | Is it normal to feel severely depressed after casual sex? How do I stop feeling shameful and worthless?I’m sure he will, and I’m already looking forward to ignoring him. After I have observed his behavior with other women at our neighborhood bar, it’s clear he is desperate for sexual validation. He is a dud. | /r/askFDS | 03/09/21 04:44 AM |
| 29 | Is it normal to feel severely depressed after casual sex? How do I stop feeling shameful and worthless?Thank you for your words! I will most definitely attempt to gain an oxytocin release through non-sexual means. It will be a challenge but I will be better off for doing so. | /r/askFDS | 02/09/21 12:11 AM |
| 10 | Is it normal to feel severely depressed after casual sex? How do I stop feeling shameful and worthless?Thank you for your comment! In the aftermath, I’ve felt like somehow it was my fault that I let myself get intoxicated and sleep with him; but him waiting until we were both sober would have been the most responsible thing for him to do. | /r/askFDS | 02/09/21 12:10 AM |
| 4 | Another rant: Do I have a narcissist on my hands? If so, how do I proceed?Thank you for taking the time to offer me some clarity and tough love. It hurts to know that there was never any true care or respect for me as a human being or partner; but I has been a lesson well learned. It may take me a long while to trust a potential partner again, as having back to back encounters with LVM has made me very cynical about love and romance. Anyhow, I suppose that this is a sign that I should spend the rest of my twenties excelling in my studies, career, hobbies, and friendsh… | /r/askFDS | 04/03/21 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Another rant: Do I have a narcissist on my hands? If so, how do I proceed?Ugh makes my blood boil. Hoping I can eventually find a man that won’t just see me as a therapeutic tool of masturbation and will make an effort to love and appreciate me; the way I have loved and appreciated them. | /r/askFDS | 04/03/21 12:32 AM |
| 8 | A LVM ruined my self-esteem? How do I feel confident again ?Yes! I’m all for it! Messaged you! | /r/askFDS | 03/03/21 12:00 AM |
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