It feels like a huge amount of people operate this way, men and women, and I despise it so much, extremely LV behavior imo

creamtart_ · 2021-08-25T07:26:13+00:00

People like this are mega insecure and unable to function on their own. They avoid learning how to manage their issues and are super codependent and desperate for validation from any external source since they have zero self-assurance skills. It’s pretty narcissistic behaviour.

apommom · 2021-08-25T11:11:47+00:00

Have you ever broken up with a guy and he assumes you’re only doing it because you met someone else? So much projection.

daisy_0720 · 2021-08-25T15:03:47+00:00

They will literally never initiate a breakup. They will just continue half-heartedly fucking you and apathetically hang around in the relationship until you dump their cowardly asses.

I'm so sick of it.

thrway01010 · 2021-08-25T07:12:58+00:00

I see this all the time. People being in a relationship and breaking it off only when they have someone else available. I honestly started to really dislike my ex when he admitted that he also knew we were over but just didn't say anything and waited for me to initiate the break up. So he was happy to share his life with me and fuck me while not really feeling it and not seeing us together in the future? And I actually felt really bad for wanting to break up ffs... what a spineless coward.

Screenshots from the movie A Summer's Tale by Eric Rohmer.

Renrenchi · 2021-08-25T08:10:05+00:00

This is what all of my male ex-friends did. It's like they follow a recipe:

1) Get a girlfriend, doesn't matter if you don't have anything in common or if you don't actually like her as a person, it's important to have a "girlfriend"

2) Get frustrated few months in because of above mentioned reasons and also because you think you deserve a Heidi Klum for just existing as a male.

3) Don't break up though because being single is a no-no. You must continue acting like a parasite and demand sex and emotional labor from the girlfriend while you look for a replacement aka novelty. This can go on for years.

4) If you manage to find her, you can even try cheating on your current gf for that extra piece of shit adrenaline.

5) Break up when you are sure you can jump straight into a new relationship

All of them did it in one way or another. Piece of shit parasites. The only time they became single is when the girlfriend broke up with them because she had enough.

MACMUA · 2021-08-25T18:38:46+00:00

Say it with me

INSECURE MEN DO THIS

FuckSakez · 2021-08-25T07:57:36+00:00

They are terrified to be alone with themselves and single long term. They do this because they think it makes them ‘win’ the breakup. Let’s them avoid any introspection. Most move on super quick to the next just to be partnered but will hit you up when lonely or horny for months. Most women take time to be alone and deal with the breakup-then move on and date when they’re ready not to drag old shit into a new relationship. Just my opinion.

They need the ego stimulation the most.

wigsnatcher42 · 2021-08-25T20:14:17+00:00

Just watched this happen to a mutual friend. It was bizarre, they went from holding hands and (seemingly happy … and then 2 months later he was shacking up with a 23 year old rme. She (the soon to be ex wife) is only in her mid - late 30s and they had been together for almost 2 decades :/

quantumscio · 2021-08-26T01:00:16+00:00

YES. He had supposedly “already stopped trying” and “we were over” but continued using me until he found a new girl :)

Title	It feels like a huge amount of people operate this way, men and women, and I despise it so much, extremely LV behavior imo
Author	thrway01010
Upvotes	609
Comments	31
Date	August 25, 2021 7:07 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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