The truth comes out…

plein_old · 2021-11-18T19:08:50+00:00

Wanting to be with other moms who share your values is natural.

Maybe you can make friends with SAHMs who live further away from you, or who live nearby but whom you haven't met yet?

In general it can be a good idea to stay away from people who are dishonest and negative. We tend to become like the people we spend the most time with!

Praexology · 2021-11-18T19:35:32+00:00

The Fox and The Grapes, Aesop's Fables

Sour Grapes

"Used to refer to an attitude in which someone adopts a negative attitude to something because they cannot have it themselves."

Whatever people can't have, they pathologize themselves into hating as a means to avoid their own dissatisfaction. The more you convince yourself of the decision, the more ego invested you are.

Ego investment is a very hard blinder to see through.

AngelFire_3_14156 · 2021-11-18T18:23:40+00:00

I don't understand why people find it necessary to make comments like these.

My mom of all people reacted negatively when I told her that I was planning to be an SAHM. She said what about all that effort you put into your education and career? You're just going to throw all of that away?

I told her that we had decided this, it's what I want and I wasn't backing down. My work colleagues didn't react because I didn't tell them, just that I was going to take a little time off.

How you spend your life is really no one else's business, except yours and your husband's.

You do you.

Ghoztt · 2021-11-18T21:58:54+00:00

My father once told me that feminism was not created to liberate women. It was pushed by large entities to create a 2nd taxpayer.
To where once 90% of women could be stay-at-home mothers, now 90% have no choice but to enter the workforce because they've collectively devalued men by competing against them in the workplace, when deep down they would rather just be a SAHM.

Pola_Lita · 2021-11-19T05:55:37+00:00

I was so shocked. I wonder how many “girl bosses” actually think this way but put us down because they don’t want to admit it….

I don't understand why the other moms would tell you one story and the mom you had a play date with a completely different one as to how they feel about their situations. I tend to think opinions in that sort of situation would vary across the board and not necessarily match up with each woman's current circumstance, either.

But really, who could ever know how many and why would it matter? I *know* my style of life is best for me and, I believe, a lot of other women and men too. But that doesn't mean there's any logic or benefit in deciding those who don't agree are obviously jealous, lying, too ashamed of their own choices to admit it, etc., etc.

I wouldn't cut myself off from this group but maybe try expanding to include more who already live the way you're planning to. Like another here said, "it's natural". :)

LateralThinker13 · 2021-11-18T20:48:06+00:00

I wonder how many “girl bosses” actually think this way but put us down because they don’t want to admit it….

It's a distillation of the difference between redpill and bluepill. Even most Feminist women (BP) want, deep down, a strong, confident, competent (RP) male partner. They'd love to have a traditional relationship. But because their ideology doesn't permit it, they have to pooh pooh it in public, and be catty, envious bitches behind your back.

summerisntmyfriend · 2021-11-19T10:21:07+00:00

I don't have a single conversation with my mother or mother in law where they don't bring up that I'm a SAHM, both criticize me from different reasons and tbh this constant negativity gets to me sometimes and makes me feel less valuable but I know that I'm doing a right thing.

pearlsandstilettos · 2021-11-18T21:42:05+00:00

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Luscious-Grass · 2021-11-19T17:47:49+00:00

Your post is really off putting. It sounds like you are hurt by the way these women treated you (understandable) and are lashing out at them in a similar manner as a result by claiming they are secretly jealous (not the highest-minded response).

Also, they may view themselves as more responsible than you. Many people can make SAH workable NOW but the opportunity cost is huge and considered by many to be irresponsible financially.

You'll never get acceptance from everyone. I hope you can learn to just make peace with your choices as best for you and ignore what other people think. They are doing what they feel is best for them or choosing what they feel they have to given their circumstances.

StripperWhore · 2021-11-19T02:56:58+00:00

I'm glad she was honest with you.

It's sad how materialistic our society has become and simultaneously how the Middle Class is being done away with.

cbunni666 · 2021-11-19T03:53:58+00:00

It happens. Stick to your guns and find out who are your friends early.

Glad-Ad-2335 · 2021-11-19T17:12:39+00:00

Our whole society is weird. Where I live there is no great childcare and not a lot of high paying jobs so a lot of moms are staying home when they otherwise wouldn't and they gripe about it. Everyone loves to complain.

Full-you123 · 2021-11-20T04:47:20+00:00

I’m sure many do. I’m a teacher not a girl boss and even after I have children I’ll have to go back to work after mat. I’m not even pregnant yet, not even had a child yet or had mat leave and I’m already literally dreading the idea of having to go back to work 😂 I feel like any woman who says they would rather go to work and be a GiRL BoSs over staying home with their babba is talking crap.

HappilyMrs · 2021-11-24T11:22:03+00:00

I got shunned by my antenatal group during mat leave because they hated that I was going to be a SAHM when they were returning to work. What they didn't see was all the things we were economists on or going without to make it work, sacrifices they could but wouldn't make.

Title	The truth comes out…
Author	AccomplishedJicama66
Upvotes	200
Comments	47
Date	November 18, 2021 6:06 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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