I wish there was a Wikihow or an instructable to answer this question, but there isn't a tried and true method to knowing if your partner is "the one". That's why we're big on vetting on FDS. Things like the honeymoon phase and mask drop are totally real, and your seemingly high value partner could switch up on you any second.

As women, we are blessed with intuition. It's that little voice in the back of your head that tells you when something is amiss. Sometimes, we love to ignore it because we want to give our partners the benefit of the doubt. Unfortunately, that backfires.

How many times did you go against your intuition and your gut feeling and get screwed over? I know in my late teens and early 20s, I did. I got screwed over bad because I really thought people were genuine and had my best interests at heart. I truly thought men were genuine with their excuses when I was just a disposable object to them.

Our outlook on life and relationships is based on our collective past experiences. However, my past experiences won't deter me from dating and ruthlessly vetting a man. You should see all of your "failures" in relationships as character building. Always remind yourself that you were your truest, most authentic self and a man who wasn't worthy of your presence didn't see how valuable you are.

Dating should feel effortless. There shouldn't be any lingering doubt. There shouldn't be any "struggle love." There should be any shady behavior that's overlooked.

A man who truly values and respects you will never want to leave you with that feeling of doubt. He will always be present for you. He will call you, he will text you. He will check up on at appropriate times. There's healthy boundaries. There's no shady behavior regarding his phone or internet usage. He incorporates you into his future plans. He's excited to be seen with you, excited to introduce you to his friends and family. He thinks of thoughtful things to get you that he knows you will love and surprises you with them randomly. He respects you and your successes, and is your voice of encouragement to help you reach your goals.

He understands that authentic love is built overtime, and not through a conquest of lovebombing behavior. He truly believes that you are the most beautiful woman in the world and it's not just words. You can see it in his eyes and his behaviors. Actions always speaker louder than words.

So with all that said, you truly never know if someone is "the one". For some men, this is all an act to them, a chase. For other few men, their actions are sincere and genuine. They won't switch up on you randomly one day and have you doubt his intentions and his relationship with you. The issue is, some men will keep this "good boy" act on for years. You truly never know.

The biggest takeaway from all of this? Never ignore your gut feeling. If something is amiss and you see a few signs that it's all a ruse on his end, never tough it out. Always remember that there's 3.97 billion men on the planet. It's better to end things sooner than later before you continue to waste time with someone who's indecisive about you, which is apparent from their actions.