Do you have any female role models?

fak_beauty_standards · 2021-11-29T20:18:36+00:00

Idk if it counts, but Morticia Adams

But also, Curie-Skłodowska

sassyheather · 2021-11-29T18:51:58+00:00

Am I allowed to say myself? Picked my own damn self up from what felt like literal rock bottom (TW sexual assault, an ex tried to rape me, which sent me into a spiral of depressive episodes, inability to sleep which in turn made me unable to focus and study so I got expelled). Managed to get back into university, got a part-time job to support myself and am killing it in my language class.

lzbth · 2021-11-30T02:16:50+00:00

Charlize Theron. That woman does not take any shit from anyone.

sleutherino · 2021-11-29T20:09:36+00:00

I really admire somebody in my life (omitting exactly who she is to me to keep things less identifiable).

She's an older woman in tech, which in itself is inspiring, but also spent years of her youth actively protesting for womens/lgbt rights among other things. She knows people from all over the world, from before the internet. She used to backpack very impressive trails, she still kayaks, and she's just so cool. Like, I wouldn't hate it if I ended up just like her when I was her age.

She told me once that if she were my age again, she'd be training every day to be able to hike XXX trail. It really stuck with me, and made me realize that if I don't do what I want to now, I might not get the chance to later in life. Then, all I'll be able to do is encourage younger people like she is, except I won't even have my own experience to look back on.

Basically, she encouraged me to do things that I've been putting off pulling the trigger on, and I can't thank her enough for it. She doesn't even know the kind of inspiration she created for me. I have other female role models, but none of them that I know personally have encouraged me the way she has.

2021-11-29T21:24:15+00:00

So many!

My grandmother, who was known for being very kind to everyone, but the part about her I admire is that she had high standards for how people treated her despite also being very kind about them, and that she always encouraged my imagination by playing make-believe with me and getting me audio tapes about an explorer I was very into when I was learning English as a child (not born in the USA), among other things.

Career-wise, I moved around a bunch like every 2 years at the beginning of my “real” career in my chosen field after getting my doctorate, and now I am working somewhere where women run the show in an otherwise male-dominated field. Some of the women who run the group I’m in are super great role models. They work hard but also respect time outside of work and lead by example by taking that time. They know how to give feedback without being mean. They’re amazing and I’m lucky (but also know it’s not luck, I took a lot of risks to find a place like this, and glad I did).

I know this one is a bit played but Lady Diana. She got dealt a shit hand in life but always maintained her dignity in dealing with people publicly. Like she didn’t let other people’s’ shit make her stink, which can be really hard to pull off, and which I respect and admire.

Hedy Lamar had an amazing life, I always recommend learning about her to younger women I meet / causally mentor to gain perspective about how having artistic interests or being beautiful doesn’t mean you can’t be smart.

My mom was a role model for me in terms of academics/interests (though not emotionally), because of her I never doubted for a moment that I was capable of learning and excelling at maths or sciences even though it’s apparently a thing in the US to claim that women aren’t as good at them …

Toni Morrison was an amazing person and writer, I love her perspective and am inspired by her story of coming to writing later in life after having a different career first.

Hannah Arendt for her writing, both in content and style.

Roz Savage, a woman who rowed the Atlantic Ocean and other major waterways. I attended a talk she gave at a rowing club once and then read her book, and I admire her accomplishments and way of thinking about them.

I could go on…….!

tuberosetears · 2021-11-29T23:16:05+00:00

Joan of Arc and the myth of Lilith.

ceramicunicorn · 2021-11-30T03:10:22+00:00

The work of Andrea Dworkin has been tremendously impactful on my growth.

candyfox84 · 2021-11-29T18:16:00+00:00

I think if you know about her life it might be controversial, but Katharine Hepburn. She’s arguably not a great feminist bc for some years of her life she was a known pick me for choosing to stay with Spencer Tracy (and it almost hurts to say so bc I really admire her), besides she had a little “not like the other girls” attitude. But I think that everyone has weaknesses, and she was traumatized early on her life. Maybe that’s why she was attracted to troubled men. It’s true that her love life is not the best example by any means, but you choose what to take from her experience.

Anyway, I’m greatly inspired by her work ethic and her headstrong personality. You can say anything about her but she had perseverance and, specially later on her life, great self respect and dignity.

janiceofcourse · 2021-11-29T18:39:52+00:00

Malala Yousafzai, for many obvious reasons. She reminds me to always speak my mind, stand up for my beliefs, and defend women's rights despite threats of violence from cowardly misogynists.

questcequunefemme · 2021-11-29T18:35:36+00:00

Back when i was a teenager, J.K. Rowling completely revolutionised my world, now it seems i've outgrown the rolemodel thing a bit.

GabbaG0ul · 2021-11-29T21:18:46+00:00

RBG, AOC, Gloria Steinem, Gail Dines and Gloria Allred. I kind of put the women on the FDS podcast in that role model category.

chasingshoesales · 2021-11-30T06:24:04+00:00

Not really. I always found the idea of a role model to be a bit weird. No one is perfect and people try to justify bad behavior in people cause they looked up to them as role models.

I feel we all have a set of values and should just live by them. We shouldn’t look up to or idolize a flawed person (we are all flawed in our own ways).

There are some people like artists that I admire. I don’t admire the entirety of the person, but I admire certain actions and accomplishments.

For example, I’m a big Taylor Swift fan. I like her business savvy and artistry. However, she used to be a huge pickme. I’m not sure if she’s a pickme now but I don’t know this girl. She could be!

I used to feel the same way about Beyoncé and then read between the lines of her music and life to discover she’s like the epitome of pickme. I admire her artistry, but would never follow her as an example for personal life choices.

letsberealforamoment · 2021-11-29T20:03:15+00:00

Susan B. Anthony: she fought for the right for women to own property and participate in the economy. She knew that financial dependence of women was a one way ticket to a lifetime of submission to men.

That truth has NOT changed.

TikiTikiTata-chalala · 2021-11-30T19:15:38+00:00

I've been privileged enough to work under 2 women (different jobs) who have had children about 8-12 yrs younger than me and they are fabulous divorcé's who encourage me to be brave, bold, and take no prisoners professionally and personally. They are the reason I have rock solid basics in my job, and they are the reason I've become resilient in my career. I have found wonderful mentors and friends in them and they are so close to my heart.

I think I may need to plan another lunch with them 😅

candyfox84 · 2021-11-29T17:53:45+00:00

I admire Elizabeth II (the Queen). I just appreciate how much she always maintained her composure and dignity in public and performed her role with class. I'm sure it wasn't always easy. She inspires me because she led a life of service and abstains from the hyperbolic discourse we see from so many famous people/leaders. I'm not a monarchist or anything, but in her case I think she makes a positive difference in the world. Even though it was granted to her by birth, she made a genuine career out of her role, one that people respect. I also admire her stamina at her age and her consistent desire to work. Also, gloves and hats!

Title	Do you have any female role models?
Author	fireforestfairy
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Date	November 29, 2021 2:50 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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