"Dating apps don't bring out the worst in people, only men."

EzzyLight · 2022-01-30T08:57:52+00:00

Solution. Do not use dating apps.

CrownlessRegent · 2022-01-30T10:53:52+00:00

What the.... Are they speaking about the same dating apps that exists in this reality or some other dreamt up apps?

Just install one and see the charter of demands women put up for "eligible men". If you criticize those demands, you're misogynist and an arsehole but if men put up few requirements of their own, it's still misogyny and xyz phobia.

If a woman plans dates through apps and ghosts multiple men, it is "empowering" and "progress" and if a man does so, the whole world comes after the man and doxxes him.

What a load of crap; it's not an article but a work of fiction.

Yoramus · 2022-01-30T13:57:06+00:00

Are we really at a level where nobody gives a peep about an article putting 100% blame on men?

It takes two to tango. Dating apps absolutely encourage damaging behavior (from both men and women, it's ridiculous to have to emphasize that), since you take an interpersonal interaction leading to intimacy, sex, relationships, and you make it more an emotionless free market that what is already is.

Are you telling me there are no women who date multiple men at once? Or that there aren't women who take men for expensive rides? Or that the experience of having basically a "sex menu" in their hands does not make any minimally attractive woman (most of the 18-32 age group, a much bigger percentage than the men) objectifying and mean?

EnvironmentalWar4627 · 2022-01-30T08:24:26+00:00

It's not the dating apps that bring out the worst in men, it's the women on those dating apps. They are the ones making the selection.

denvercaniac · 2022-01-30T13:10:33+00:00

It's mystifying how so many profiles demand height and putting their kids first and hypergamous bullshit that caters only to her. Perhaps. Being self-absorbed for the world to see is not a good thing?

aigars2 · 2022-01-30T15:56:09+00:00

Men bad, women good. What's new?

Dark_Knight2000 · 2022-01-30T16:28:45+00:00

I find this comment very telling ““West Elm Caleb is a pandemic,” said Molly, 34. “He’s everywhere. Except there’s no vaccine.””

I think this person meant cure not vaccine. A vaccine would be getting fucked by an average douche in high school and then learning to avoid those types of men and to pick out “safer” men. A vaccine puts the onus of protection on the victim, and the fact that they are getting constantly fooled by men like this shows they aren’t learning from their mistakes.

Same thing would go for men that “stick their dick in crazy” simply because a woman is hot. Learn your lesson, take smart risks, don’t take massive risks and then be surprised that you got the short end of the stick. Yes, that Toyota Corolla isn’t as exciting as a used Bentley, but it won’t leave you stranded and won’t screw you over when you least expect.

Bara-enthusiast · 2022-01-30T08:23:50+00:00

So beckies mad that a chad pumped and dumped even if they're ten times worse than men

pabibismo · 2022-01-30T09:57:50+00:00

People in glass houses and all that.

Dating apps have created a culture of worthiness around women where they hold most of the decision power but somehow that is not an issue.

hudibrastic · 2022-01-30T19:57:30+00:00

“Apps like Tinder and Hinge give straight men unfettered access to women – and a new sense of boldness through a seemingly endless set of options”

Hahaha hahaha Sorry, can't continue reading after this

What a parallel universe those people live?

judasfire · 2022-01-30T14:18:36+00:00

Ofcourse it does , because when a man tries to approach a woman in real life , its not possible anymore , everyone tells that dating apps are the new trend. Alright so you go on a dating app , what you find is prostitutes , fake accounts , scammers , guys running a fake female account , real female accounts ignoring men.

I mean who wouldn't be mad?? Dating apps are useless and a scam.

xdzgor · 2022-01-30T09:22:35+00:00

Tbh I didn't realise you weren't allowed to date multiple people at the same time. Since when did dating mean exclusivity or monogamy?

TraehNoil · 2022-01-30T15:28:08+00:00

Dude what a clown world. These apps have inflated women’s ego to the moon. Literally 5’s on that app are thinking they’re 9’s and 10’s while demanding a man that’s a 9 or 10. Gonna be a rough life when they hit 35

Lifeisfantastic_95 · 2022-01-30T14:03:24+00:00

Lmfao !

I think the Guardian messed up the headline, because actually the headline should have been " Dating Apps dont bring out the worst in people, only women"

But hey, I know if I put that exact headline on another sub reddit, I would be called an asshole and sexist for it . Thats why I love this sub reddit because it actually values men and mens rights

Parzival_007 · 2022-01-30T17:31:59+00:00

Where is the dislike button on that site for that load of filth?

belon94 · 2022-01-30T17:57:12+00:00

Women setting lunatic dating standards and this article is here to blame men. No wonder, a lot of men are joining Mgtow movement because men are also at fault by default.

k0ol-G-r4p · 2022-01-30T19:55:21+00:00

As someone who has used dating apps in the past, I am completely baffled by the hypocrisy surrounding this Caleb situation. The majority of attractive people on these apps literally do the exact same things Caleb did. The reason for that is simple, they have many options hence their reluctance to settle on just one person. They are not wrong for exercising all their options, all human beings with options behave this way. Yes ghosting is a shitty practice but just like shit happens, sex happens and nobody owes you their time for giving up your body on a first date.

The dating app scene in general is one big game of deal or no deal, trying to figure out which suit case is legit. There are women and men that literally use these apps as free meal tickets. I had a woman try to claim she had a secret admirer in the restaurant gassing herself up I can only assume to encourage me to spend more to win her affection. The look on her face when I told her to get her secret admirer to pay her tab was priceless. That is how you play this game, that is how you avoid looking like a fool.

Who knows how many men she's tried to play that game with. I can guarantee you though if men tried to put her on blast like women have done to Caleb, that guardian article title would read "ANGRY INCELS ORGANIZE HATE RAID ON WOMAN FOR REJECTING THEM ON DATING APP". Its a truly disgusting double standard and why we should stop posting articles from websites like that. You don't click it, you don't buy it, they go broke and no more shitty people writing shitty double standard articles.

Al_Modir · 2022-01-30T23:39:15+00:00

The women I have met on dating apps have all been terrible. Rude, entitled, lying, cheating, extremists, openly racist, substance issues, plain stupid. Yet I always treated each with courtesy and respect. Now I am starting to question what the point is when they feel literally zero obligation to reciprocate that respect. Also you want to see how crazy a woman can become, literally all you have to do is reject their sexual advances and watch as they bring the whole world down around you. And people say men feel entitled to sex. Most men I know would just move on without any drama after being rejected even if it hurts. Women on the other hand… I swear if they were physically capable they would rape men more than men rape women.

double-happiness · 2022-01-31T13:35:04+00:00

uNvEtTeD MeN

In the opinion of another young woman friend...

This is what passes for journalism now.

qtyapa · 2022-01-30T14:35:47+00:00

Have they even seen girls profiles?

Huffers1010 · 2022-01-31T08:51:44+00:00

In general I can only echo u/EzzyLight's view that dating apps are a bad idea; how about we make some real friendships? Being buddies with someone before you go to bed with them used to be considered a good idea.

One specific phrase in that article, though, actually makes me wonder whose side the author is on:

Apps like Tinder and Hinge give straight men unfettered access to women

Unfettered? Really? Do women who put up profiles on these services not have any ability to turn people down? If true this would bring into question the entire concept of female agency in dating. Nobody on any such service is required to meet anyone, regardless what that service tells them to do. I would have thought it was fairly well established at this point that people are allowed to say no, isn't it? Slightly well-established? A well-worn point? I've never used a dating app in my life, but I suspect I might feel free to not meet people I'd matched with, and even freer not to meet again with anyone with whom I didn't hit it off at first meet.

The article is completely vacuous, giving the impression that the author and her friends lack the maturity to form normal, healthy relationships and have put their love lives entirely in the hands of a piece of technology, so as not to have to deal with complicated interpersonal relationships. Predictably, that's led to disappointment, embarrassment and social jealousy. I'd laugh at anyone who was idiot enough to do that, man or woman.

Necessity-- · 2022-01-30T12:47:29+00:00

Also women on such apps are already a vast minority of the users.

Wasn't stats something like 80% users are men 20% were women?

EstablishmentKooky50 · 2022-01-30T14:04:24+00:00

Well apparently it's the app-s fault for not vetting men... I wonder where is this common theme comes from that everything should be "ready to eat".. Perhaps, the manosphre teaches men to take responsibility (grow up) and don't wait for the world to cater to us. The current zeitgeist (whatever you call it..) teaches women to blame other things and people (most commonly men) for their hardships. Articles like this are the most devastating to female agency. The claim is that they are present to help women, but all they do is ripping them from responsibility (agency) and infantilize them. Feminism (if it was truly for equality) should be the first to call this out, and yet..

AbysmalDescent · 2022-01-30T16:08:13+00:00

It's like they can't even see or understand the level of apathy and disdain that women develop towards men in the first place. Women have all the power on these apps and then still not only choose to do nothing with it(they don't pursue, instigate or enquire) but still maintain the same poor choices they would make in real life as well, consistently limiting their options to the best looking fuckboy/player.

They have all this power at their finger tips, if not simply to seek character over presentation, but they choose not to every time. Dating apps are not the problem, the entitlements, vanity, superficiality and narcissisms that so many women bring into dating apps are the problem. It's like women online are just fully incapable of humanizing the men on the other end of those apps, as if they were just popularity objects.

And that's not even going into the countless women who use dating apps as twitch, instagram or onlyfans recruitment apps either. And nothing is actually being done about any of it because we live in a society that just does not want to hold women accountable for their toxicity and bad behaviour, especially towards men. The people running these apps don't really care either because they can make a profit from the men being duped into thinking that paying for the apps will somehow address the way women judge men.

Cartgr · 2022-01-30T18:59:54+00:00

It's the guardian. Don't expect anything good to come from it.

PaulfussKrile · 2022-01-30T23:27:08+00:00

Are you sure about that? Women on Tinder seem to want men who are at least six feet tall, with an eight-inch member, and making six figures. Meanwhile, if I ever wrote, “Must be a C or larger,” I’d get blackmailed left and right.

ToWinDontPlayBayBay · 2022-01-31T07:34:06+00:00

Women pass on 95% of men on dating apps. Men match with less than 2% of the women they swipe right on.

Get off of dating apps lads. Want to meet women! do it in person.

PM_ME_DNA · 2022-01-31T20:14:04+00:00

“Apps like Tinder and Hinge give straight men unfettered access to women – and a new sense of boldness through a seemingly endless set of options”

So anyone not top 1% is not even considered human.

0_Rubicon_0 · 2022-02-01T13:16:01+00:00

The thing is, women complain about men only being on dating apps to manipulate and sleep with men but play along with their shenanigans. Doesn’t that hold women accountable as well??? For all I’m concerned, if a man sexts a woman and she sexts back without commitment to actually meet up, they should both be held accountable for not making their intentions clear enough. Yet, there’s one difference in this situation. The woman is the one not serious, leaving the man whom wanted to meet her wondering where he went wrong and how he could improve. More than once I’ve heard women customers come into where I work and talk about the men they lead on like it was a joke, saying stuff like “I loved to see how he kept coming back thinking he had me” and “he really thought he could get someone like me???” I’m not denying that men don’t do this as well, but more than not, men will follow through whereas women won’t. The same women calling said men they also flirted with ‘creeps’ and ‘pervs’ because they where too scared to admit they liked someone less attractive than them or someone not up to their usual standards.

unaskedforbutgiven · 2022-01-30T18:49:29+00:00

The women choose men on apps 90% based on athleticism and looks. Athletic men have much higher sex drives, lower commitment levels, (you can look it up, it’s science baby) and far more options - so they f*ck around.

If a woman cannot get her need for athletic alpha men (not super muscular - just low body fat) under control she will be used like trash - if you choose on looks you’ll be left forsooks.

Training-Celery3946 · 2022-01-31T07:07:17+00:00

Hmmm she must’ve of got tooted n booted so she mad 😂

rabel111 · 2022-01-31T11:03:13+00:00

That article was writen by a psychopath, paid to write about hating men.

a_posh_trophy · 2022-01-31T15:58:04+00:00

Like the saying goes, "if you can't see the problem, then the problem is you".

NicholasCapsicum · 2022-02-04T20:12:50+00:00

Lmao dating apps are not "turning men into fuckboys". Guys getting 0 pussy irl are still getting 0 pussy on these apps.

Al_Modir · 2022-02-24T07:22:13+00:00

The amount of degenerate women I have met through dating apps...

Title	"Dating apps don't bring out the worst in people, only men."
Author	Yesyesnaaooo
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Date	January 30, 2022 8:04 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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