Catcalled

Pigort · 2022-02-05T16:30:01+00:00

I remember a video some years ago where a feminist woman went walking about NYC to capture street harassment. It was mostly black men who did it (to their chagrin), and a lot of times the guys would tell the woman to smile, which to them is as bad as saying, "I wanna eat that pussy!" Their goal was to raise awareness and garner support for making catcalling a crime.

There were a lot of parody videos after that, some men did the experiment too and were cat called by women and gay men. Overall the message was that women were overreacting, and if any anti-street harassment legislation were enacted, it would mostly affect black men.

The issue is watered down when spoken of, feminists will conflate being followed with catcalling, or when the catcall is extremely sexual. Saying "looking sexy today" is not the same thing as saying "8 inches is awaiting, princess." Just other behaviors not associated with catcalling and extreme examples that depict catcalling as some serious societal ill. Even trying to do cold approaches are considered catcalling and street harassment to these people.

Catcalling when not overtly sexual is ok with me.

just_this_guy_yknow · 2022-02-05T15:57:09+00:00

$10 she tells him the next time she throws a bitch fit over something stupid

Invictus_44 · 2022-02-05T16:41:26+00:00

Catcalling, like almost everything feminists complain about, is exceptionally rare in the US and limited to highly urban environments. I live in affluent white suburbs and I've never seen a single instance of catcalling in my life (40 yrs).

dfedz2004 · 2022-02-05T15:05:32+00:00

So many women get the sexual attention the average man could only dream of and all they can do is whine about it

OwenWentFullMGTOW · 2022-02-05T20:45:07+00:00

Women hate getting catcalled by men they're not attracted to.

gabkorn · 2022-02-05T18:31:34+00:00

What an amazing spouse. Going above and beyond the call of duty by ambushing her husband (and mocking him afterward) in order to artificially boost his self-confidence but mainly to make her point. Humanitarian of the year.

gadzikk · 2022-02-05T21:04:09+00:00

I got catcalled by few girls today and now my self esteem is high again i know this reaction is wrong but i don't feel like ugly shit anymore

musicmn22 · 2022-02-05T21:58:05+00:00

I’ve been telling people this. Most men appreciate attention of the sexual nature, regardless of where, who, or how it is done. Obviously if it is becoming way too touchy nearing rape and the man is VERY repulsed by the woman then he won’t like it, BUT men and women will probably not ever understand each other on this.

EarlGypsy · 2022-02-07T05:14:20+00:00

last xmas i was in a bar, part of the “Santa Crawl” xmas bar crawl. im 40. divorced. was looking pretty good that night. place was packed w college kids. my friends at the time were in their mid 20’s. anyway, got groped multiple times on my trips to the bar. didnt even bother looking for the culprits as im not concerned with it. it doesnt affect my self esteem. it doesnt stop me from making money paying bills eating and sleeping. its idiots having fun and it LITERALLY does not hurt me in any way. time for adults to adult, no?

qenqinqon · 2022-02-05T16:45:28+00:00

“i got some women from work to catcall him” is that not fucking weird?

also, catcalling sucks, regardless of gender. it’s disgusting and i don’t know why some people try to minimise as if it’s not gross

kidandresu · 2022-02-05T15:41:22+00:00

I have been "catcalled" by women, (albeit only a couple of times im my whole life) and i did not like it. It made me feel uncomfortable and wanting to get away from the situation. So i understand them in that regard. I've never catcalled women myself.

I have also been butt grabbed from behind by a random girl passing by in the street when i was in scotland in my 20s (im from spain, it was back in the 1999-2000, and that type of behavior is totally unespected in spain. It happened to me twice in edimburgh. Normally the perpetrator was either fat or ugly, needless to say. It is shocking and distasteful... so... yeah, horrible behavior no matter the gender.

Stranger_Memer · 2022-02-06T17:57:03+00:00

Don't harass people

Miss_Cherise_ · 2022-02-05T21:41:36+00:00

People offended by a little bit of catcalling are overly sensitive... Just like almost everyone today.

Volk_Hellsing · 2022-02-06T13:12:22+00:00

I like how feminists use “catcalling” as if people still do that, this isn’t the 50s. I’ve been around bars and clubs for awhile and I have NEVER witnessed someone being catcalled, much less a woman.

boomboxspence · 2022-02-05T17:16:07+00:00

Making a sexual comment to someone is cat calling but most of the time it's literally just compliments. Men would do a lot to get compliments. If that's their biggest problem then they don't actually have problems

RandomHuman2354 · 2022-02-05T18:13:24+00:00

It's a compliment most of the times.

Nishuu-j217 · 2022-02-05T14:20:05+00:00

I don't see the point of this post. Catcalling is wrong. You don't need to be a feminist to know that.

functionalsociopathy · 2022-02-06T00:20:20+00:00

I feel like I've seen this story before, but the timestamp says it was last week. Maybe there should be a term for feminist deja vu for when they repeat the same behavior.

baronmad · 2022-02-06T09:38:29+00:00

The women who are really against cat calling are those that never gets cat called, those that dont receive compliments for their looks.

The most vocal women against cat calling always seems to be rather ugly, both inside and outside.

_chrrybmb98 · 2022-02-05T23:07:23+00:00

I don’t understand why women can’t take a simple compliment from a stranger who went out of their way to give it to them. It just seems rude to me.

Xsailrx · 2022-02-05T15:45:19+00:00

It really depends on the person. I would be uncomfortable if some random person makes a sexual comment about me.

CharmanterPanter · 2022-02-05T15:58:41+00:00

Catcalling is not something good

-your-ivy-grows- · 2022-02-05T17:01:26+00:00

I’ve found the best way to stop cat callers is to humiliate them. Usually it’s a guy in a group trying to look cool in front of his friends. If you make the friends laugh at the catcaller’s expense, it’ll shut him down right quick. It’s a lot faster and easier than pretending to “feel threatened” by it.

Kindly-Town · 2022-02-05T15:20:42+00:00

He didn't care if some of her friends were ugly.

TDR1411 · 2022-02-05T22:50:17+00:00

Now imagine if that was done by sleazy gay dudes

venusinscorpio1 · 2022-02-05T23:50:57+00:00

Women don't like being told "smile" because 1. That's no one's business if anyone smiles or not 2. Women are pressured to look and act a certain way just like men are pressured to look and act a certain way. When a man says smile he doesn't think about all the annoying pressure women deal with in their personal lives, just like a woman who tells a man to look more tough when it isn't necessary doesn't think about the annoying pressure he deals with in his personal life.

About the catcalls and "smile" comments, women feel uncomfortable because they are physically weaker, more emotionally sensitive, and aren't as filled with horny testerone as men (nothing wrong with men being filled with it, just matters how you act on it) so they don't want all the attention usually. Men and women have biological differences, as I've explained, so to act like women should equally be into getting catcalled as men are is not realistic. So if you KNOW someone is uncomfortable with something, why do it to them? It usually shows one is power hungry if they keep doing things to people when they know they don't like it. If men don't like when women complain about certain things, should women say, "It's not rape, it's just me talking, you should be thankful, stop telling us women to stop"? No, women shouldn't complain (unless maybe it's something that personally effects the woman like a guy not doing his share of the chores that were agreed upon ). Men and women should try to stop doing things that bother each other. Isn't it good to respect boundaries? I'm moreso talking about the overt catcalling versus a guy just saying "hello" lol.

Also, when tons of guys are catcalling etc. what are we supposed to do, say thank you and get the number of all 100 men who said something to us? I can understand saying thank you to some but I mean there are too many guys to keep saying the same "thank you" over and over to and women usually don't want 100 strangers' phone numbers.

I've had men say really stupid things to me when I was downtown at 19 years old. I was in an ice cream place and I ordered dark chocolate flavor. A black customer said, "You like dark chocolate?" He pointed to his body and said, "You think you can handle me?" That's very disrespectful, wasn't a simple hello. Another time I walked on a sidewalk downtown and a group of men waiting for the bus parted like the Red Sea with a line on either side of me. As I walked down the aisle of annoying ass motherfuckers, one guy said "Look at her eyes!" Another said, "Look at her legs." Another, "Look at her boots!" Another, "Look at her BOOBS!" They all sounded overly mesmerized and I did not feel comfortable. Why do this to women? Btw, I was covered head to toe in an appropriate outfit that barely showed any cleavage. It's not like I had my ass cheeks hanging out of tiny shorts and a tiny shirt that bares my stomach and the upper half of my breasts. I'd hope most men can understand these things are worse than saying "hello" instead of thinking they're just as innocent (I know a lot of men understand, I'm not upset with the men here who already understand).

Jonesw16 · 2022-02-06T13:41:47+00:00

Truth is women hate being catcalled by men but men love being catcalled by women. If some men say otherwise, it's because they've been taught that way through all this double standards stuff. Stop lying to yourselves.

Ok_Life8947 · 2022-02-15T02:25:00+00:00

2 white girls in a car catcalled me saying that i had a nice ass. Best day of my fucking life. Should've gotten their numbers.

Puzzleheaded_Brick34 · 2022-03-04T18:57:07+00:00

Whistling at girls is kinda weird

Title	Catcalled
Author	EricAllonde
Upvotes	789
Comments	244
Date	February 5, 2022 2:13 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/AntiFeminists
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