There have been a lot of posts recently about LVM pretending to be HVM and then bolting when they realize FDS Ladies are serious about no sex upfront. We all acknowledge this is a good rule because it mostly scares off the users. But here's the thing. In the comments several women have shared the stories of men who did wait the requisite time period, be it three months or longer, only to hit it and quit it, dipping immediately after sex. Why? Well, it is true 99% of the time, if you sleep with a man right away, he won't respect you, double standard notwithstanding. But I think many of us have been taught or led to believe if you do the opposite by making him wait, he *will* respect you. FALSE.

Men are weird. Sex is not a zero-sum game to them. They do all kinds of mental gymnastics to justify their double standards and nonexistent standards for themselves. Just like men know right away whether or not they would ever marry a woman, they have decided how much "respect" ,for lack of a better word, they are going to give her right upfront. Note: this has nothing to do with your actual value as a human being or any real character traits. It's not like "oh, I see she's a polygot with a Ph.D, better mind my Ps and Qs." It's more like, "she's my perfect anime waifu! Better hide my bad habits." While you could theoretically do things that would make him treat you with less "respect", you can never good behavior your way into him treating you better or respecting you more. He may ACT like he does, but it is only an act. When he gets what he came for, he'll be gone without a decent excuse. He was just masking his contempt. In fact, guys who don't respect you take a perverse thrill in "waiting you out". They're pissed you, person who they don't think is worth their "respect" because your waist isn't the size of Cheerio or something equally stupid, think you deserve good treatment and they want to punish you for it by psychologically torturing you like Lucy with Charlie Brown and the football. They hold the good treatment you want up and just when you think it's yours, they snatch it away after sex.

So how can you win? First, keep that vetting period. Most men cannot hold the mask up that long. Second, vet intensely! Get specific. Listen to what he says about you. If it's a bunch of generic bs, you're nice, you're sweet, you're pretty, he doesn't know who you are and doesn't care. He's marking time, waiting to get in your pants. Run. Third, listen to what he says about other women. Maybe he's savvy and praises you with specific compliments. But if he's a misogynist, it will leek out. Some men just cannot say anything positive about a woman. If he sees a gorgeous celeb and all he can say is, "she looked better when she was younger/before the baby/ with a different hair color/she's pretty but can't act/ she's an 8/ etc.", that's a sign. Men who pick apart other women aloud are doing it to you in their heads. Men are basura, thank God for FDS. Stay strong, yall.