Sure, but where's the catch? There's gotta be a catch somewhere, right?

SpiritualEnema · 2022-03-13T13:04:09+00:00

This is how unbalanced the dating scene has become. Wahmyns don’t need to offer ANYTHING anymore. Most profiles read as disclaimers. No thanks, I’d rather be single

denvercaniac · 2022-03-13T13:08:09+00:00

At 41. Lol.

_Nequis_ · 2022-03-13T13:19:08+00:00

What she should be looking for is a mental health clinic, not a date.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2022-03-13T12:58:29+00:00

Okay. Swipe left. Move on.

APathWellTraveled · 2022-03-13T13:17:16+00:00

Age 41, but looks like it was written by a teenager.

Glad to see all the red flags up front, though!

ijustdontcare74 · 2022-03-13T14:47:01+00:00

Jesus...what a wreck. This is the sort of chick who cheats on you because she was feeling down and decided you didn't care because you didn't call her back within 5 mins of her texting you. Never mind that you might be at work, out of cell phone range etc...you didn't call her back immediately you uncaring bastard, so she just called chad to blow her back out and it was YOUR fault, YOU made her do it...

swedishchef123 · 2022-03-13T14:16:06+00:00

I will never understand how a person would choose to advertise themselves like this. It is the worst possible way to say "choose me". I don't see a single reason ANYone would want to select that from an available pool of options.

Overkillengine · 2022-03-13T14:48:05+00:00

Translation:

I'm a neurotic mess and and refuse to take responsibility for my behavior. I will make you pay for all the bad choices in my past just like I plan on making you pay for the future ones too.

qtyapa · 2022-03-13T13:31:17+00:00

she's the catch lmao

Impressive-Cricket-8 · 2022-03-13T15:04:48+00:00

With that level of damage, the sex is either great or nonexistent. I'm betting on both: great with the co-worker, nonexistent with the boyfriend.

GundamZero83 · 2022-03-13T13:25:09+00:00

41 and that broken?

TheUnspecialist · 2022-03-13T13:42:00+00:00

Imagine thinking yourself to be a catch with more problems than an abandoned car.

Boar_excrement · 2022-03-13T16:35:27+00:00

I think she is fishing for the only kind of validation she can get: rejection.

The issues outlined here goes deeper than any helpful boyfriend can address. The best he can hope for is to tolerate her abuse hoping for a breakthrough. That will never come. And after he realizes the gravity of the situation and bails, he will be portrayed as another 'abuser/user' that only damaged her further.

Kobayashi Maru.

Never try to fix someone. They either fix themselves or deal with their brokenness. Save yourself and walk away.

Rob141414 · 2022-03-13T14:17:11+00:00

How many psych drugs is she on?

Joaquino7997 · 2022-03-13T15:01:32+00:00

TL,DR: "I will shut down and push you away. I will never fully let you in. Run away!!!"

Saianna · 2022-03-13T16:26:03+00:00

so she doesn't have emotional baggage, but whole damn cargo. She will project all her insecurities and issues onto you, then will hate you (as she hates herself) then cause the relationship to collapse and then look for another sucker to use as her emotional crutch.

Also she'll push you away or aside if she'll feel extra insecure that day, but something tells me she'd go full apeshit crazy if man had his quiet days.

Also that age and filter that erases every wrinkle to the point it looks fake as fuck. I remember old-old star trek in pre-CGI era used this weird smear effect, where everything as if you've watched through slightly milky glass.

maseboogie · 2022-03-13T16:26:04+00:00

Before you date me....

You need to understand I'm damaged.

That's it. Roll the credits. That's the plot, rising action, climax, falling action, and denouement of her existence right there. And you're still trying to land a suitor at 41 with all that!? I swear, these women out here are living in D.O.G. years (Delusions of Grandeur).

One-Move · 2022-03-13T14:27:28+00:00

Is that supposed to be reverse psychology? I mean i read some sob stories from scammers ( husband cheated and left her w 3 kids and shit) but that damage at 41!!

Typo-MAGAshiv · 2022-03-13T14:51:03+00:00

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anon_likes_tendies · 2022-03-13T15:44:43+00:00

So strong. So independent.

user84893093748959 · 2022-03-13T20:00:54+00:00

Challenges like this are a form of reverse psychology. Reverse psychology also involves telling someone the opposite of what you truly want. She doesn't truly want a relationship. She wants someone she can use and abuse; she wants a tool and a sucker - someone to put up with her.

Let me say this again as many comments in this thread are referencing "dating" and "romance". She doesn't want a healthy relationship. She is only looking for someone that she can use and abuse.

Also notice that she's not trying to become better. She is simply looking for someone to tolerate her as the damaged person she declares herself to be.

Please learn to recognize these behaviors for what they are and avoid people like this.

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2022-03-14T00:48:45+00:00

I appreciate her honesty. if more people were it would be better for everyone in the dating world

Walnuts_Gualtieri · 2022-03-13T14:15:03+00:00

She sounds like a fun hang.

Tweapodok33 · 2022-03-13T17:56:47+00:00

How entitled must one be to think she’s going to reel in a partner with a description that basically reads “you’re going to be absolutely miserable with me. I have nothing positive to offer you. I am a basket case and will need constant babying.”

Seagram7 · 2022-03-14T01:50:09+00:00

She is advertising for a Prince Charming white-knight. A man that will save her from herself and all the baggage that comes with her. Her post is suppose to flip all your protector instincts on and save this beautiful damsel in distress.

DeadestEcho · 2022-03-14T12:51:04+00:00

You need therapy.

Fuck, not even to date, but to be a worthwhile functioning adult first. At your age…I’d hang up them boots honestly, if you are willing to stay sitting in that kiddie pool that is your broken life, filled with the hoarded goop of past bad decisions with which you are unwilling to part. No growth, no learning…it’s just who you are now.

It would take introspection and humility for you to stand up, clean yourself off, and start hosing off that kiddie pool…but that isn’t even a concept you acknowledge. YOU did nothing wrong; it’s all these toxic men taking advantage of you.

Enjoy the cats.

2022-03-14T21:39:17+00:00

Translation

I'm so fucked up it's beyond belief. Even I don't recognize myself. You have to do all the work and all the emotional investment. You must assume all the risks and perform all the obligation - including my own obligations. In return, I'll give you sexual deprivation, drama, pain, neglect, abuse, and hatred. When I push you away with cruelty, I expect you to say "thank you maam, may I have another?" When I mistreat you and call you names, I expect you to forgive me immediately while I give you nothing.

So, please girlfriend/wife me up right away!

OwnerAndMaster · 2022-03-13T19:30:57+00:00

Alpha Widowed & Post-Wall. Idek or care if she's realized all of the things she's likely done wrong but she'll play the fragile victim as long as it gets her reasonable attention

Doubtful she can be "saved" unless she's quite beautiful for her age and her ego's been crushed enough to accept whoever she gets

krawm · 2022-03-13T22:19:15+00:00

now if only she could give that much honesty to her therapist, at least she is upfront about her mental illness.

Profitglutton · 2022-03-14T08:39:34+00:00

She doesn’t need a date. She needs therapy.

CisgenderPig · 2022-03-14T09:14:18+00:00

I'm not a fucking therapist, and if I were, I would charge you a fee for my services.

Weary_Journalist7100 · 2022-03-15T02:15:49+00:00

Annnndddd...... What exactly does she bring to the table? I just cannot understand why people keep leaving her!! It's a mystery!!

battlecry74 · 2022-03-13T17:27:18+00:00

What are you waiting for? Get in line boys!

2022-03-13T17:58:18+00:00

"I'm still emotionally immature and I need you to babysit me and I will throw tantrums any chance I get, and you have to put up with all my bullshit"

Bob_and_Virginia · 2022-03-13T21:33:26+00:00

Chad already touched a lot more than her "heart".

Chad done broke her heart. She's now one of those Alpha Widows.

king_of_the_potato_p · 2022-03-14T00:05:27+00:00

I can't fathom why every man shes met hasnt tried to marry her yet....

DrDog09 · 2022-03-14T03:50:40+00:00

41 and still pinning for a safe zone? Pass. At 41 life is too short to deal with an emotional midget.

DS_1900 · 2022-03-13T14:28:06+00:00

41 hey?

gentle_lemon · 2022-03-13T22:28:47+00:00

This profile reminds of that Katy Perry song "Dark Horse," and we saw how it ended for those cats.

Rocko2552 · 2022-03-19T05:41:47+00:00

So the obvious, she is clearly not "standard" in the mental department. I think what many people who encounter her or a person like her might miss is predatory targeting through manipulation. What I mean by this is she is clearly self-aware that she has issues. What gets missed though is that she is also self-aware that a normal healthy person sees her from a mile away and avoids her. This right here is bait for the white knight. A person she will have power over because they are in their own way just as damaged.

Many men will put up with crazy if the girl is hot or the sex is mind-blowing. The hotter she is, the more crazy he will put up with. However, there is only so much someone can put up with and eventually the smart ones will catch on and leave. The dumb ones will stick around until they are replaced by someone new who only sees the good in her. The post is her bait for the next dumb one. Someone who will want to come rescue her and show her true love without knowing the reality of the toxic waste he is getting involved in and by the time he does he will be replaced.

snickerfritzz · 2022-03-27T04:33:51+00:00

This screams borderline personality disorder to me.

datboi3637 · 2022-04-09T19:41:10+00:00

So you know how things that are good for you don't have warnings on them.......

Title	Sure, but where's the catch? There's gotta be a catch somewhere, right?
Author	Land_of_the_Losers
Upvotes	231
Comments	95
Date	March 13, 2022 12:56 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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