Go. To. The. Gym.

dadudenines · 2022-05-12T17:17:49+00:00

Good point. I met a female LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist) who seemed to think we need only discuss feelings. I had to inform her, a lot of times both people should get a full physical and probably hit the gym first and see how things might change... Not something I've ever seen relationship therapists ever suggest.

Men are primed to respond to you physically, they cannot control it. Your physicality is a proxy for your fertility and signals to them to invest. They can get some "wife goggles" over time for sure, but maintaining your appearance is going to keep his primal instincts sharp and motivate him far more.

How you take care of yourself really puts a ceiling on how well you can take care of your relationship.

CigarettesandAsh · 2022-05-12T16:17:03+00:00

Definitely. And to add on to that, LIFT! Cardio is great, but body composition changes are going to come from adding muscle. A 125-lb cardio bunny is going to look a lot different than a 125-lb women who has put on a bit of muscle. The thing about building muscle is that you're going to have to put on weight to do it, and that thought is terrifying for a lot of women (myself included) but it's important not only for looking good, but for general health as well.

Rock_Granite · 2022-05-13T01:05:28+00:00

Love this. My wife and I have been married 35 years, but we just started lifting 6 years ago. Her body is just killer now after the work she's put in. We both look so much better. We were never really fat, but not really muscular and tight. Now it's like a virtuous circle. The better she looks the more I'm into her. The better I look, the more she's into me.

NuclearTheology · 2022-05-12T18:17:15+00:00

The gym is fantastic for giving people with mental Health and self image issues a fighting chance.

TheBunk_TB · 2022-05-12T17:48:51+00:00

Without breaking the rules of this subreddit; many guys I know appreciate a woman that actually gets something done at the gym.

Taking care of yourself isn't bad. Even if a guy doesn't have the heat for you, he would at least have some respect for you compared to someone that neglects themselves, then expects it to be handed to them.

SecretFeminine · 2022-05-12T19:05:42+00:00

At first I was bent out of shape about your post but as someone who has hit the gym hard over the last 6 months, I can’t deny the truth of it (at least in my marriage).

maraney · 2022-05-13T05:02:04+00:00

Exercise has been shown to be beneficial for libido, as well. This is extremely important in marriage, especially years down the road.

MyMeanBunny · 2022-05-12T21:35:21+00:00

How do you find the will to just go? :( I'm in a long term relationship and I KNOW i should be hitting the gym to just have an hour walk even but I never do. I'm latina too and can sense my partner isn't as obsessed with me as he once was.

amarapalmer · 2022-05-12T16:50:11+00:00

Yes this is 100% true. Most women give up after a while. Very very good advice.

Ilovestrawberri19 · 2022-05-12T22:01:21+00:00

I love the gym ! I started going at like 6:00-8:00am, 6 days every week earlier this year since my school’s gym is like a 20 minute walk.

But I also wanted to ask, what can a person do if they don’t have a nice fat distribution/bone structure to begin with? I feel like I’m kind of screwed and it seems like most women look great with toning since they have minimal curves (at minimum) and can’t relate to me. So it can be very demotivating at times. I worry that I look masculine because I have broad shoulders, small boobs, and small hips. I could get a boob job to help with that but I’m a poor undergrad right now.

alien_eater289 · 2022-05-12T16:55:15+00:00

This has been my experience as well 😅

Mystic_Submissive · 2022-05-12T19:07:54+00:00

That's amazing.

Me and my spouse don't exactly go to the gym but we have dumbbells and mat at home and train minimum 4 days a week. It's really good. Some days are easy, some are harder, but step by step the process is to be enjoyed.

He works out for longer time. I started regularly working out almost one year ago.

Here is a gym motivational video from YouTube.

https://youtu.be/jUDDmmwrO4M

emmalai85 · 2022-05-12T16:32:37+00:00

mine doesn't want me to go to the gym, but we do physical things together. I think being active, feeling good, and being healthy are very attractive, I think the gym is just one tool to achieve that goal.

Side note : I'm not strong and have no intention of lifting or doing things to build a lot of muscle. He likes me softer. as long as I can lift a saddle onto a horse and do the basic things in life I want, I don't feel the need to change my frame.

SRaeM92 · 2022-05-13T01:11:07+00:00

Hahaha your Latina part made me chuckle. Love this and approve this message. It’s such a beautiful cycle to feel good biologically, and then to have that validation reignite from your partner is SO empowering!!! Yas, girl, yas!!! Wish we could lift together! 🏋🏻‍♀️

LadySandcastle · 2022-05-13T14:45:51+00:00

I know this is focused on lifting, and the benefits it provides to body composition are wonderful. I just want to throw it out there that cardio is great too. If you need to burn fat cardio is your best bet (yes you can lift and adding muscle will help your body burn more calories overtime but it takes much longer to achieve results). It isn't as hard on your joints, and really helps your stamina (running after kids takes a lot I'm sure lol).

I mostly do cardio to keep my weight in check and to keep my asthma at bay. The rest is bodyweight exercises/bands/small dumbells and I feel great.

expired_mascara · 2022-05-12T18:07:47+00:00

Don’t say things like “men are visual creatures” when it’s clearly not true. If men were “visual creatures” they would not look as ugly as they do because they would put so much effort into dressing nicely and grooming. They would research interior design and have beautiful homes. They would be visually much more aesthetic in every aspect.

dorian1356 · 2022-05-12T20:50:15+00:00

Claro si una mujer lo dice no pasa nada. Pero dios me proteja si yo, un varón, tengo la osadía de decirles que mejorar la apariencia física resuelve como 90% de cualquier problema de atracción 😂

dadudenines · 2022-05-13T16:40:36+00:00

Gym: https://twitter.com/SpeQx/status/1525126088539705345/photo/1

No Gym: https://twitter.com/Rich_Cooper/status/1525121824044068864/photo/1

See comment here for more motivational before and afters: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/s4fico/weight_smv/hsqrn1m/?context=3

Title	Go. To. The. Gym.
Author	inthacut12
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Comments	44
Date	May 12, 2022 4:04 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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