Wife wants to tell our young kids in an hour

RideATX · 2022-08-09T21:33:47+00:00

I remember that day... It sucks, but your kids will be fine. Just make sure they know you love them. Breaks my heart remembering how callous she was.

mrledia · 2022-08-10T00:35:30+00:00

You should never assume that the woman you married is the same one you are divorcing.

Physical-Pie748 · 2022-08-10T00:46:48+00:00

never forget: "your wife in divorce, is never the same person, you married" , richard cooper/entrepreneur in cars

lostcanuck007 · 2022-08-09T22:35:56+00:00

take the reigns, don't allow her to guide it. the kids will see her as the "boss" of the divorce.

and go to her for all concerns, its the first step to undermine the other parent

CrazySanta7 · 2022-08-09T23:12:08+00:00

Assuming she has a new man prospect, so she wants to rush to tell the kids. I made my ex wife tell kids. It was her damn decision. Def sucks, but just be there for them. You got this....

timeup · 2022-08-10T00:58:00+00:00

My ex wife told our 4 year old son without me.

She was upset because she thought I said something to him about it, which I absolutely did not. She talked about it like it would be a talk between all of us with lots of love and discussion. Then she just did it.

She was mad because she thought I said something to him already. He said some weird 4 year old thing and she read into it. Didn't even ask me first. Didn't even try to talk to me first.

Looking back, she did this shit regularly, still does. Reacts, acts, then thinks, apologizes. She'll make a big long apology and then just do it again and again.

One day my son will grow up and figure things out, but for now I just deal with it for him and me. I still put up with a lot of shit but Jesus Christ am I happy I'm out.

It's gonna be hard mate. I'm sorry you have to deal with it this way. I can't give the best advice but the best advice I can give is always, and I mean ALWAYS, do what's best for your kids. Advocate for them, be there, and love them. You know how kids spell love? T-I-M-E. Be there when they need you and everything will turn out for you and them.

stent00 · 2022-08-09T22:07:11+00:00

My ex was the one who wanted out and she made me tell them....I'll always remember that day

hidyhowareya · 2022-08-09T22:25:49+00:00

Mine told me she was done and promised we’d tell our daughter the next day together at a restaurant because we were already separated. Instead I get a text from her that she told our daughter and she was crying uncontrollably and wanted to talk to me. We talked for a long time and will never forget it either.

Front-Lion-5098 · 2022-08-09T21:40:22+00:00

Sorry man - tough pill to swallow for sure. I assume she is wanting the D? Or is it mutual?

whatskeeping · 2022-08-10T01:58:08+00:00

I been there. Felt like such a big deal to us. Kids just move on they don't have the same connection. Be cool man, it'll be ok.

CaptainWOW3 · 2022-08-10T05:07:48+00:00

I don't even remember when my parents told me and I was in 5th grade. They move on in time

mkdive · 2022-08-10T06:36:20+00:00

I was in your exact situation about a year and a half ago (kids even same ages). It brings me right back to that day reading your post. My kids and I sat and cried as she went on. My divorce comes to an end soon. I'm sorry you are going through this.

Buckyohare84 · 2022-08-10T10:11:40+00:00

My sister in law decided she would be the best person the break the news to my kid.

pk2at · 2022-08-09T21:55:25+00:00

If it does not bother her, it should not bother you

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2022-08-10T00:27:39+00:00

I wanted out and I told them

Take control of your own life my man

anon4hlp · 2022-08-10T05:14:52+00:00

I know it's likely too late but make sure to communicate these things together with her from now on. It's the only way you can make sure you're both showing the kids you're still there for them.

If the barrage has been bad before, the kids most likely know already something is coming anyway. Good luck man, it gets easier, so much easier soon

JennFezz · 2022-08-10T13:19:20+00:00

https://youtu.be/yVM79wY0s_Q

yeldellmedia · 2022-08-10T14:58:10+00:00

Bro… just tell the kids yourself…. I had this fear.. but had to take the reigns and calmly tell them in privacy… kids understand and are very resilient.. their main concern to me was “daddy will we still be able to see you?”…. I said of course! Mommy and and i will be in different houses but we will still be together and have fun and loving times

Live-Satisfaction-34 · 2022-08-10T15:27:23+00:00

I didn't get a chance to tell my son. He overheard the ex and her mom talking about it. When I came home at 11pm he was crying talking about who's going to be his dad. I assured him I will always love him and he can send me messages over xbox or through the Alexa whenever he needs to.

warrior_up · 2022-08-10T17:01:30+00:00

I had to do it twice - quit letting her play sheriff, you tell them when you’re ready, sounds like she’s doing this to show you how “okay” she really is with everything vs. what’s best for the kids. They don’t give a fuck about anything but the new relationship sex, and given her lack of fucks at the moment I can almost guarantee that’s the case here even if you don’t know it or she hasn’t admitted it.

There’s gonna be many more milestones- the first boyfriend that moves in immediately, the first “insert ex wife BS drama” keep your head above the baby games and focus on your new free single life of doing whatever the fuck you want to do as a man. She’ll hit the wall soon, she’ll regret it but won’t ever admit it

She thinks she’s winning now, just wait until the 3rd or 4th boyfriends runs through her - men are smartening up now, not many that see any value in dealing with single moms as they likely have an ex wife with kids in tow as well. Family Court system created this nightmare, until it changes never ever get married again

Title	Wife wants to tell our young kids in an hour
Author	Ethrowaway88
Upvotes	24
Comments	22
Date	August 9, 2022 9:20 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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