USA: 27-year-old woman starts handing out dating RESUMES to men she finds attractive. OP: I suspect a man would be arrested for harassment if he did this.

bottleblank · 2022-09-09T16:07:06+00:00

I would hope that if a man did this it would be considered largely innocent, although I suspect in real life it would depend entirely on the man.

If it were an attractive guy with a TikTok following, he'd probably get away with it, almost like a sort of reality TV show stunt or something, people are receptive to good-looking charismatic people doing something unusual and fun.

If it were Nerdy Norman who usually hangs out at the local board game and comic book store... probably not so much. He might not be arrested, but it probably wouldn't go nearly as well for him, I would expect a decent amount of "ew, please leave me alone" rather than "aw, I'm flattered, thank you".

There would, I agree, be a difference in perception, as women aren't considered to be "predatory" or "aggressive". The good looking guy would probably overcome that limitation, but the nerdy/shy one likely wouldn't, instead being perceived as "creepy" rather than "charming and quirky" like this woman.

pearl_harbour1941 · 2022-09-09T16:10:57+00:00

Good for her for taking a proactive approach to dating. Not many women do. Shame she doesn't just talk to them, that might be less creepy, but she is innovative at least.

Yes, I think there may be a double standard. I can imagine that a guy doing this might be seen as creepy, but it all depends on how hot the guy was.

5shad · 2022-09-09T16:40:43+00:00

She has been turned down quite a bit from what I've gathered. I mean the kind of men she picks though. Like come on, step down a bit. She's way too ambitious. There are levels to this.

dojoboy · 2022-09-09T22:48:08+00:00

What a creep.

Fuzzy_Department2799 · 2022-09-09T16:03:02+00:00

Honestly its an awesome approach to it. Seems like I remember that introduction cards were a thing back in the old days. But also judging from the guys she approached I have a feeling she is limiting her potential partners due to her personal preferences. Not that there is anything wrong with that. Just saying if you seem to be having trouble making matches maybe you are being too picky or over valuing what you have to offer.

Edit: I just visited her tiktok. She is absolutely one of the average girls who think they are hotter than they are. Nothing wrong with having confidence in yourself but it wasn't hard to figure out why she cant get a date with the guys she pursues.

TheSnesLord · 2022-09-09T16:02:53+00:00

She might want to look in a mirror before handing out those resumes so confidently.

WhereProgressIsMade · 2022-09-09T18:24:54+00:00

It makes me wonder if her generation has forgotten how things worked in person back in my day (I'm 44). As a young adult, I didn't have much luck when I pursued the women I found most attractive (not the hotties, but just ones that fit exactly what I liked but peers would have put at a 6 or 7). It didn't work very well. Then I learned the signals women give to show they're interested in a guy and paid attention and watched for them. If I wasn't interested in return, I ignored them and they gave up. But it surprised me some of the more attractive ones I thought were out of my league showed interest and so I got some dates. I remember a couple that were kind of shy and their attempts at showing interest were a bit awkward even. Some were pretty darn direct - twice a woman took my arm in hers while walking next to each other and pressed my upper arm pretty intentionally into her breast.

Do people not read body langue from interactions like this anymore? I think all the body language, flirting, and watching before things ever got to the asking for a number or date helped people figure out what league they could hope to attract and therefore what league they were in. Maybe that's been lost - everyone has their nose glued to their phone these days. Hook up apps like Tinder aren't helping women who seem to often get confused that a hawt guy would be willing to have a fling with her but there was never any possibility he'd offer her long term commitment.

It does seem like the gal in the article is aiming too high and missed the stage in life where you get this calibrated. Some women refuse to admit there attraction starts dropping as they age past 25 too. But she's only 27, so that's probably not the issue here.

Anyway, good for her for being proactive instead of so many women being way too passive about things (like only going to work, home, and the grocery store) and never showing any interest in a guy she likes.

Jbr74 · 2022-09-09T21:05:11+00:00

So chick who is a 4 or 5 at best, trying to pick up guys outside of her league. How cute.

She'll probably score some one night stands though.

klouted_pollo · 2022-09-09T18:20:21+00:00

I’d tear it up in front of her

Melkor7410 · 2022-09-09T15:59:34+00:00

Eh, I knew a guy that handed out business cards to women for the same purpose. They weren't his real job business cards, but literally cards about wanting to hook up. He never got arrested or charged for harassment.

2022-09-09T19:07:16+00:00

Well, theres Chris Chan, and he was arrested...

mcc9999 · 2022-09-09T19:21:20+00:00

This is just funny. Sad though how she felt the need to document her efforts w/ TikTok.

ANUS_CONE · 2022-09-09T20:28:49+00:00

Honestly that sounds like a pretty good idea. I don’t think this would get you arrested for harassment. You might get laughed at a few times.

Naru4odo · 2022-09-09T21:36:11+00:00

She is busted.

thenameless685 · 2022-09-10T03:36:07+00:00

If she can't get the dudes she wants to date her in an app designed to date and hook up. What makes her think she can get a date in real life. 🤔

supersonicsixteen · 2022-09-09T22:52:28+00:00

More power to her. There are a lot of dudes in this world and she’s putting herself out there.

Why not apply?

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-09-10T02:06:13+00:00

There's nothing wrong with this, it's just that women don't do this because they argue that the men will use them for sex, which is totally a ridiculous argument because if a guys going to use a woman just for sex, he's going to approach any old trash.

The real reason seems to be hypoagency.

sumfacilispuella · 2022-09-10T03:27:43+00:00

i think women would much prefer this. hand them a resume and walk away and leave the ball in their court. no harassment or fear of a rejection taken badly.

DronesandBones · 2022-09-09T22:04:49+00:00

No different than guys handing out business cards. I’ve known quite a few men that do that. With mixed success.

Strigon_7 · 2022-09-09T16:43:02+00:00

Most likely you would be accused of that. If not a wave of lies about who they handed it to.

Duchat · 2022-09-09T18:37:45+00:00

I think the article must be written by a friend. Rather long for a puff piece with a few too many photos. I suspect the article might be part of the dating strategy.

ibettershutupagain · 2022-09-09T21:32:50+00:00

Some people in the comments are being harsh

Raychao · 2022-09-10T04:01:49+00:00

Zooey Deschanel will play the woman in the movie.. Mark my words..

Wheream_I · 2022-09-10T05:43:23+00:00

Oh ma’am… you have a great body that you worked for and a face even god can’t save.

She’s a brown bag special acting like she belongs on the showroom floor

msennello · 2022-09-10T06:00:58+00:00

True, and this is the most cringe-AF way to look at dating, but at least she's doing the obvious thing and making the first move. If she'd be willing to immediately get a coffee and talk about how that's just the worst approach ever, I'd be happy to have her hand me a "resume", and would gladly prefer this over the current "hope you don't get falsely accused" system.

cope_seethe_dilate_ · 2022-09-10T07:00:45+00:00

Mf looks like a weathered seashell

Your_Agenda_Sucks · 2022-09-10T07:43:45+00:00

Just hand out your own rejection letters.

pomegranate2012 · 2022-09-10T10:14:11+00:00

I think this sub will sometimes takes things a tad too seriously.

This is just a light news story, come on.

Grand_Ad_864 · 2022-09-10T14:55:30+00:00

Honestly, this is one case where I would accept a double standard. It will help to normalize women making the first move. Normalizing women making the first move will take the pressure off of men making the first move. Which would prevent men from putting themselves in a position where they might get accused of harassment.

2022-09-11T15:17:34+00:00

The problem is women that are solid 6's think they should pull in 10's like Chad McThundercock. So no joy. Just lower your standards ladies.

Outside_Succotash648 · 2022-11-12T03:37:43+00:00

This did happen in real life. Chris chans love quest was essentially this. He got kicked out of college and banned frlm several malls for doing.

Title	USA: 27-year-old woman starts handing out dating RESUMES to men she finds attractive. OP: I suspect a man would be arrested for harassment if he did this.
Author	furchfur
Upvotes	264
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Date	September 9, 2022 3:49 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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