As an older dude (married over 20 years) who has seen many divorces / failed relationships. I would like to offer some words of advice, wisdom, and encouragement for finding love if it so suits you.

I see quite a few women on Reddit be upset about red pill. Let me make this abundantly clear. A man who believes in the red pill is not a good long term partner. That’s the gag and irony of it all.

A large percentage of those men who have these demeaning views of women are the same ones who will cheat, lie, abuse, dump you once your deemed not young, and etc. They only have their own interests at heart. The point I’m trying to make is while it seems bad out in the dating world. There are men of character. Look at how he treats you and especially pay attention to how he treats women ( not just you). I see a lot of women (men guilty too) avoid red flags in favor of physical / sexual attraction. Not saying you should not have standards but rather you shouldn’t loose sight of what really matters.

I work in healthcare and have interacted with many elderly couples who have been together for 30+ years. I have asked them how they do it. The most consistent advice I get is to marry your best friend. Someone who you would be very good friends with even without the romantic aspect. This is KEY. Successful marriages are very often with people from similar backgrounds who have similar values, goals, and visions for their lives. When you get with someone who has good character, same piorites and values ,communication skills, handles hardships well (qualities you would deem necessary in a close friendship). You can actually learn to love the person over time. You become a team and are equals. Thats what a healthy marriage / relationship looks like.

There’s always been too much value on looks and superficial things like money. It’s why most Hollywood relationships don’t last. Transactional relationships never stand the test of time. Character does.

It should come to no surprise that a large chunk of red pill men attract users and gold diggers. Do you really want to date a man who sees you as old in late 20s? How are you going to grow with that person? Or be with someone who just sees you as arm candy / sex objects? Not as a human with feelings and personality? You cannot win with a man who takes red pill doctrine as bible. These same men who profess themselves as “alphas” when young are the same men divorced 3 times in their 40s.

These men give red flags EARLY in my experience even to other guys. You can tell very quickly early on. Its a BLESSING that they show themselves so easily. It only makes it easier for them to avoid. If someone shows you who they are, believe them. Please ladies, do not settle for men like this.