I know what I want in terms of dating is impossible but I don't think my expectations are unfair at all. And again i know they are deeply unrealistic but I don't think they r unfair. CMV they r

EugeneCezanne · 2022-11-01T01:08:10+00:00

. then we get married and live happily ever after and have a fun sex life until we die

Equal sex drives doesn't mean you're sexually compatible. It would suck to find that out after marrying them, as many people do. Also, sex drives aren't going to remain static throughout your lifetimes, and will inevitably be influenced by other things in your relationship that have nothing to do with sex.

So if ur a guy with a high sex drive and u also want a woman with a high sex drive casual is not in your interests right that makes sense? at best you're future partner will be fucking more attractive people than u and at worst will be completely outfucking u in every sense.

Or, you could not worry about either of those outcomes because it's not a competition.

pro-frog · 2022-11-01T02:07:02+00:00

If you think a woman having a lot of sex, because she wants to and she can, makes her ineligible as a partner, that's your own issues talking. Also, who's to say she was having a lot of sex with a lot of different people? Plenty of women enjoy having a lot of sex with a few long-term boyfriends. Sex is not all casual sex.

It really seems like it's jealousy, more than anything. You want to have sex with a lot of women and you can't. It feels impossible to you that you could ever feel like an equal to a woman who wanted to have a lot of sex with a lot of men and did it. But that's your own baggage, man. Not everyone is gonna feel that way.

Also, like, it's not impossible that a woman who likes a lot of sex will also not have had a lot of sex by the time she meets you? This is especially true if you're young, which it seems like you are. Contrary to popular belief, the vast majority of women are not having sex with a hundred different dudes.

Last - what comes across as really unfair is the rude attitude you take toward women who have a lot of sex. You don't have to demean her just because she's living a life you'd want if you were her. I really think that's an attitude that's gonna hold you back. Regardless of how much sex she's had, very few women are gonna relish the idea that if they'd had too much sex they wouldn't deserve the baseline respect of not being insulted.

anonymous-platypus1 · 2022-11-01T00:59:43+00:00

How do you know if your sex drives high if you haven’t had it? Do you think you’re compatible with anyone so long as they also have a high sex drive? This is nonsensical. You think that any woman who has a high a sex drive as your is going to “outsex” you? Is that because you’re going to be bad at sex? Does waiting make you good at sex? What if you wait and she doesn’t enjoy having sex with you? What if you don’t enjoy sex with her?

hypotenoos · 2022-11-01T02:09:01+00:00

How do you even know what you want if you haven’t tried it?

Fun_Push7168 · 2022-11-01T03:21:36+00:00

Dude if you want a fellow virgin then hold out for one. There's a handful of chicks that hold out and then go nuts when they finally get some.

Sounds like what you think is unfair is that so many with a decent drive won't be virgins when the time comes because they can get laid and you can't.....wahhh.

purplish_possum · 2022-11-01T01:41:28+00:00

if you have a high sex drive as a guy u come across as creepy

WTF? This isn't the least bit true.

How old are you? How many women have you been with?

Oli_love90 · 2022-11-01T03:59:29+00:00

Do you TRULY think most if not all girls with high sex drives are fucking around? You really think tons of women of all ages are just out here engaging in casual sex simply because they can instead of maybe just masturbating or something? You think casual sex is so tempting that women with high sex drives have no will power and just randomly fuck around?

Your expectations are unrealistic because your perspective on women is unrealistic. Like painfully unrealistic.

malechicken-_0 · 2022-11-01T20:39:03+00:00

looks at bottle of red pills* how many of these did you swallow ? 🤔🤔 sounds like you overdosed

techr0nin · 2022-11-01T01:45:14+00:00

It might be improbable, since women with as high a sex drive and a high libido man is inherently rare, but it’s not unrealistic because they exist and there are couples like that in reality. The bigger question is what do you mean by fair versus unfair? It’s not unfair to have whatever preference you want. But it would be unfair and unrealistic if you feel like you are entitled to get a woman that matches your preferences, because human mating is inherently unfair in terms of equity.

DumpApe135 · 2022-11-01T01:48:43+00:00

I not i and you not u

2022-11-02T00:31:20+00:00

Bro there's female viagra 😂😂😂😂😂just find a virgin girl and get her to take it lmao. Your sex drives are going to change as you get older anyways.

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NakedStreets · 2022-11-08T19:18:47+00:00

I think is fair is for us both to wait for marriage or at least until we meet each other

You already failed to do this, right?

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